Why do people not like this?

Question

This was an answer I gave to a question earlier...asking where all the role models for our kids are? I got like 3 thumbs down?


" It starts with the parents.....They are supose to be the role models for their kids, not the people on tv or the latest sports hero....Granted kids need heros but many parents, not all, but a lot of them, are getting to the point where they are letting tv and video games raise their kids.....we have to be at the front lines, not the tv. And once a child is raised that way, they don't know anybetter, so that is how they will raise their kids....not good.....There are good role models out there, we as parents just have to get our kids focus on them."

Do people really think that the parents have nothing to do with it, and shouldn't be role models for their kids? Just curious.

Answer 1

I agree....our children should look up to US..not anyone else. People these days are too interested in being their childrens best friends. I am tired of parents allowing the school, church, etc raising their kids. Parents need to step it up and take care of their children. When a child turns out to be bad, they all of a sudden blame someone else. When their children get prego at 15 they wanna blame the schools because of the lack of sexual education...SCHOOLS SHOULD NOT BE TEACHING OUR CHILDREN SEX ED...WE SHOULD!! Why have children when you don't care about what they do? Who cares if your children dont like you during their adolesent years because you have strict rules, they will thank you in the long run. The fact that people odn't agree with this pisses me off so much. Take control of your children....or don't have them!

Answer 2

I agree...role modeling starts at home. If a child isn't taught well from the begining they become uncontrolled. You learn your manner from your parents not teachers, friends or television. But not just parents, it is family period! Many consider their grandparents as heros. So, thos that feel the parents have nothing to do with becoming heros for their kids haev a big problem they will be facing when the kids don't repect their parents. I personally look to my grandmother as my hero. A friend of mine looks to his mother as his hero. Those who probably put the thumbs down were children and still thinking that people on the boob tube are to be their heros and they are unloved at home. I have been practicing to be known to my kids as their hero (not yet because they are still very young, but when they grow up and realize life isn't all cartoons).

Answer 3

I don't see why people would give you thumbs down. I've gotten thumbs down before and sometimes I have deserved it but other times I think what the heck is wrong with people?? LOL Don't let the thumbs down get you down, they don't really matter. They probably didn't like to be faced with the truth so they did that to justify the way they raise their kids.

I agree with you 100%. When I watch a movie with my boy and there's violence I either talk to him about what he thinks would happen in real life and what he would do in that situtation? Does he think that really could happen? If he does, why, why not? If it's too violent and I didn't know before we watched it I'd turn it off. I usually watch a movie before I allow him to though so I usually know what's coming and am prepared for it or just tell him he's too young to see it. He's 8 btw.

Answer 4

Some parents are very lazy this day and age. I'm home with my kids 24/7. I home school my oldest and we spend quality time together. No video games, t.v. is very limited if on at all most days(we have no cable). We spend our time together as a family.

Everyone seems to be so worried about being modern and chasing the money to care how their kids are turning out. I think that's why we have so many cases a.d.d., I believe that some kids might actually have it, but a majority of the cases are from lack of discipline and genuine family time. Kids are lashing out to get their parents to notice them. When I tell people that my kids obey me and respect me its so uncommon that some on here have actually acused me of child abuse and it must be because they fear me. God bless

Answer 5

Maybe some parents didn't like your response because it made them realize they had better straighten up lol.

We don't even have TV or a video game system in our house for this very reason. Too many parents rely on them as "babysitters" and then wonder why their children are obese and struggling in school!!

In my opinion, my husband and I are the number one role models in our children's life. Beyond that their aunts, uncles, grandparents and teachers! It's important to surround children with involved, positive, moral adults.

I DO think it is fine for my children to have "heros" outside of their friends and family, as long as they look up to these people for the right reasons. (Such as great accomplishments or a meaningful contribution to society)

Answer 6

I didn't catch the original question. My best guess is that you offended a number of parents who are guilty of using the TV/Nintendo as a babysitter, and who do not like to be called out for being negligent in their duties as parents.

I agree whole-heartedly with you - we should be the primary (good) role models for our children. Wear your thumbs down with pride, knowing you got under somebody's skin today, who will hopefully think about the choices they've been making. :)

Answer 7

I completely agree with you. Unfortunately people have really gotten lazy in their parenting, I for one take pride in raising my kids with the same values that my husband and i grew up with. I'd be ashamed if my kids didn't think of me as a role model.

Answer 8

I believe one roll model should be the parents but others can be teachers, coaches and counselors. A good roll model is one who teaches by example. One who is of good character and morals. I have found of my many years in ministry that sometimes not all but sometimes the parents are not the best roll model and they could and should be. A parent who drinks and cusses is not a good roll model.

Answer 9

I think you're COMPLETLY right. parents should be able to talk to and raise their kids. good quality family time can involve some tv time, but the tv is not a baby sitter!! if someone says it is i want to their tv's certification in early childhood development and/or education!!

Answer 10

The parents are the best role models for their kids. I plan to be for mine. Me and hubby.