I am a groomsmen in a wedding coming up. I am on the fence if I should go stag or bring a date as the bride would prefer. I could really care less either way. If anyone has any feedback I am open to it.
2007-04-25 07:55:18 · 16 answers · asked by Tristan P 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Only if you have notified the bride and she is OK with both of you attending. If she has planned on only one of you in the bridal party and at the reception, it would be VERY rude.
Honestly, the bride has lots of other things to worry about. She is not focused on whether or not you bring a date.
Have a great time at the wedding!
2007-04-25 08:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely SHOULD NOT bring a date unless the invitation was addressed to you "and a guest." Otherwise, you would be bringing uninvited people along to the wedding, which would be absolutely rude.
But, since it is common practice to include "and Guest" for invitees who are unattached themselves, I feel it is entirely up to the invitee. Some people feel that they simply must run out and scrounge up a date for the wedding, since the invitation includes "and Guest." I don't feel this is necessary, especially since you are actually a member of the wedding party, and any guest may feel a little awkward sitting on their own during the wedding of people they may or may not know, and a wedding to which they were only invited by one of the guests. You can use your personal judgement here.
Otherwise, I think the bringing of guests to a wedding has been overly popularized. If there's someone serious in your life you'd like to bring along (and once again, if the invitation includes a guest), feel free, but otherwise, I wouldn't feel obligated.
2007-04-25 08:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do people always want to bring uninvited guests to the wedding!
The answer is no. Unless you have received an invitation that says Your Name and Partner, you are the only one invited.
Also asking to bring a date is not very good behavior. If the Bride and Groom wanted to pay for every ones date, you'd have received the above mentioned invitation.
Learn this lesson for life. If the invitation is not extended, the person is not invited.
2007-04-25 08:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by Leal 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am not sure as to why the bride would care if you brought a date or not. if you really don't want to, then don't. just because it is her wedding it does not mean you have to oblige to some silly request as that one is. are you and the bride that good of friends that she urges you to get dates? as a groomsmen, you would probably be sitting with the bridal party, which leaves no room for dates anyway. go with whatever you feel. if you want to bring a date, then bring one, if not, then don't.
2007-04-25 08:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by jack_skellington49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The choice is really up to you. Essentially, the bride is giving you a 'go' signal that you can bring an extra person. She also might be giving you the heads up that the other groomsmen might be going with dates and you might be the only one in the table (reception) without one?
2007-04-25 20:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by flynster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a groomsman, you'll probably be busy during the wedding. I allowed all my bridal party to bring dates but of course some had to leave their dates hanging when they had to do wedding stuff for us. So it would depend if your date is comfortable just sitting there while you are taking pictures or participating in the ceremony? Also, is the bride having you sit at the headtable with them? If so, where would your date sit? I allowed my the bridal party to sit with their own significant others. Hope this helps.
2007-04-25 08:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by civic8884 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the bride and groom basically addressed the invitation to you and did not positioned "and customer" everywhere on it, assume which you're actually not meant to deliver a customer. As somebody making plans a marriage myself, i'm able to inform you that it makes it very complicated for the couple whilst travellers start off RSVP'ing with different those that weren't invited. in simple terms right now I have been given an RSVP returned kind a family of three we invited, asserting that they had be bringing 5 adults and a pair of infants finished...ummm, i did not invite those greater 4 human beings! It sounds variety of recommend, yet you may desire to comprehend that a marriage is an quite distinctive variety of party- you may desire to have very final head counts properly in strengthen, to not point out the shown fact that their wedding ceremony venue might basically carry quite some individuals, and each added customer maxes out their skill that fairly greater! additionally, bear in ideas that caterers in many situations value approximately $50 consistent with customer on commonplace, so in case you deliver a date, you're costing that couple one greater $50. i think of i might bypass solo to this wedding ceremony if I have been you.
2016-10-30 06:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by blanga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride wants you to bring one, although I don't know why she would care, think of bringing a friend, brother or sister. A date does not have to be a love interest. You are really inviting a guest to attend with you.
2007-04-25 08:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Apple21 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not dating anyone in particular I wouldn't bother.
If you are in the wedding then you will be sitting at the headtable and your date will be sitting with strangers.
It will also save the bride and groom money on food and booze.
2007-04-25 10:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take a date, just to make sure I had someone to talk to. Be selective about who you choose though. I mean, don't take the ex who went psycho every time she saw you for months after you broke up or someone who has had a crush on you forever. If you aren't dating someone, take someone who is more like a friend than a love interest.
2007-04-25 08:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋