What do you think?

Question

You have a leader of a church, whose young teenage daughters dress and act, less then savory. Before, during, and after, church. How does this reflect on the church leader? What message does this send? What is your thoughts and opinions on this issue.

Answer 1

This may not be a popular answer but honesty this is true.
This sounds like the typical PK, (preachers Kid) Unfortunately a lot of preachers get so caught up in their "people" the congregation that is, & the building of the church that their own families & I've learned their finances as well, seem to be put on the "back burner". This is an ever growing problem in any denomination. Maybe one up for the Catholics who still force Celibacy ( I know, I hate that too) But there really is something to be said about those who insist that you must be "called" to be a leader in the church. Like anything else in life & as a wise man once told me, "there are three types in life, those that Fit, those that are Unfit & those that are Counterfiet.
If these folks in question are dear to you, 1st Pray much about it. and if you can do it, do them a favor by pointing it out to the Man, if he is truly a man of God he will appreciate you bringing it to his attention, maybe not right away though so be careful how you do it. Unasked for advise is the same as Critisism. That said, You also have a responsibility to your brother in Christ. Am I my brothers keeper? The answer in the Bible if you don't remember, was actually .. Yes

Answer 2

Everyone at some point must choose to follow or not to follow the Lord. If you have a problem with the way she dresses and church, then bring it to the pastors attention in private. It may well be that the girl is rebelling openly, or she doesn't see it as a problem and doesn't relize she's doing it. You'll never know unless you mention something. If you feel so strongly about it, maybe it's time to find another church.

I saw a church who used to let really smelly homeless people in during sermons and such. Yes, those people needed to bathe, and they reeked terribly, BUT they are souls that came to hear the word of God and the church would not turn them away. Your earthly wealth is of no concern to God, He doesn't care how much money you have, just that you come to Him. If you come, He will provide for you.

Answer 3

I don't understand why some parents preach and act all religious, yet their children go around doing what they like and dressing any way they like. Some Muslim parents preach and act all religious too, yet they let their daughters wear tight jeans and skimpy little tops and some of them even have boyfriends (which is forbidden in Islam). A perfect example of this is a Muslim actress called Aamna Shariff (some of u may know her from drama "kahiin to hoga") who comes from a Muslim family yet she models mini skirts and revealing tops for magazines and also has a boyfriend.
If the parents are really that religious then why can't they keep their children under control?

Answer 4

It doesn't affect me how any church leader's daughter behave. It doesn't affect the leader's reputation as a father or mother, because the girl chose to be whatever she wanted to be.

The key in this is: The girl CHOSE to be what she wanted to be. She is responsible for the consequences of her actions, not the parents (unless that girl is a minor, in which case, she could be sent to boot camp to learn to respect her parents).

Answer 5

The Bible says elders should conduct themselves and their families with respect, love and in godly devotion. For if they can't manage their own families, how can they manage the congregation?

On the other hand, when I was a kid, I watched a TV show that had preachers answering letters. One question was, "Why are preacher's kids the meanest of the bunch?" One answer was, "To keep up with the deacon's." LOL. I have always remembered that.

Answer 6

It is hard on a Pastor, but we as the congregation should understand that, teens will be teens. They are still in the house of the LORD, that's really what matters. GOD BLESS YOU!

Answer 7

do you mean they dress provocativly?well thats wrong for any one who is a christian and it is most certainly wrong for ANY parent to allow it anywhere. yes it reflects bad parenting and for a church role should be confronted.

Answer 8

It says that raising a child in an atmosphere of repression pushes them to be more and more curious than your average teenager.

Answer 9

That you have to want to believe the lies they stuff in your head. If you don't want to believe them then you don't have to. It also proves that everyone is their own person and nobody can make somebody do anything.