Is it possible to spoil a two year old?

Question

I am a stay at home Mom that also works part time. I have PPD and tend to shop, shop, shop to fill the void as I don't know what else to do with my daughter. OK...we've been to the park a few times. I feel too drained mornings to get up (I work until 1:00a.m.) and take her to play group even though I know that it would be good for her, so instead I buy her whatever she wants. Is this bad?

I don't just let her entertain herself. We play all the time! We stack blocks, make towers, play games and read about the alphabet, do flash cards, picture books, play with dolls, sing, dance, talk about colors, etc. We do things, it's just when we go out we always end up at a store.

I don't have a yard as I live in an apartment. I also don't have a sitter as my in-laws all work and I don't have any friends nearby.

Answer 1

It is extremely unhealthy. She will resent you in the long run. She will think that you tried to buy her love instead of giving her your love. We have the same problem with my mother-in-law. She is always out on trips and away from home and the kids never see her and then when I try to get her to babysit she usually says she is busy and I have even offered to pay her! She then goes out and buys the kids a bunch a stuff to compensate. I feel so bad that there is no real emotional connection and bonding going on. If she spent less time shopping then she would have more time for the kids. When she is dead and gone, the kids are not going to stand up at her funeral and talk about all the things she bought them. I am hoping that they will have some memories to share,

Answer 2

I think you already know...... Have you seen a doc about your post partum? Look, the best thing for you and her both is make a frined with kids. Get yourselves in a groove. Dont go to the park a few times, go every day, in the morning when other moms are likely to be there also. Or every other day. When it comes to ppd as I am sure you know you can be your own worst enemy. The shop shop shop is a whole nother issue. If thats a problem, then seek help with it.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your PPD. I hope that your able to have someone to talk to or able to get help.

Your daughter will learn bad habits to get what she wants. It's not a good idea to spoil a child so young. You have to teach her limits. Perhaps all the money you spend on her could go to a college fund. Invest in her future. I understand your need to fill your void. I've done that with food myself. Be a good mother and dont ruin your daughters chance at being a well rounded adult.

Answer 4

1 you need to get help and treatement for you PPD. That is a SERIOUS problem.

You will teach your daughter that everything will be handed to her and she will never have to work for anything. My inlaws did this with their 6th and last child, not to mention only girl. They bought her a NICE black brand new Nissan Altima for her 16th b-day. She told her parents to sell it back and make the payment on a new Mercedes for her (yes my inlaws are very well off but that is not the point). Her parents refused to but she said she would keep the car if they bought her one in white as well so no matter what she was wearing it would match. Her nutso parents didn't want to hear her complain so now she has a black AND a white Nissan Altima.

So I would start correcting now unless you want to be out of money with a greedy child.

Answer 5

YES this is bad. Right now all her clothes and toys are cheap. They get more expensive when she's older and she will expect this not to end. My niece was so spoiled and she never even got a chance to wear 3/4 of the clothes she was given. They grow up so fast and will never remember the days you decided to stay home. Put all this money you want to spend in a bank for her to buy her first car.

Answer 6

I think most 2 year olds are a little spoiled.I have a 2 year old but i don't work outside the home. Kids in the long run would rather have time with their parent then "things" even if its a day in the house sittin on the floor with blocks,that would be great fun for her i bet and wouldn't require a lot of energy from you if your tired.

Answer 7

sure, you're spoiling her....and in addition you're giving her your PPD (whatever that is). I suggest you buy yourself some of those child training cards and teach her the alphabet, her numbers, pictures of animals, how to add and such so she will be ahead of the other children when she goes to school. If I recall correctly there is such a thing as the "terrible twos" and I suppose if you didn't give her what she wanted she would tantrum for you, but children at that age don't need much, what they need is mental stimulation and encouraging their curiosity.

Answer 8

honey, you know its not good or you wouldn't be posting this question. get some play equipment for your back yard. make some play dates for later in the afternoons. .. I'm sure you can think of some things. You may need to get a sitter for a few hours in the morning so you can get some sleep, you sound like you need it!

Answer 9

yes, its bad

but i have this little theory

i have a spoiled niece and when she opens her gifts she doesn't even get excited or thankful of the things i give her. so i stopped giving to her and guess what she didn't even notice. she gets away with everything.

but than again, i have 4 year old kid cousin who is spoiled but she is the sweetest, kindest girl. her mother disciplines her alot and spends time with her, i think this is why she is so kind and well behaved.

i think the trick is to discipline. as long as she knows what is acceptable and what is not she will be okay. as long as u teach her to be greatful and happy with what she has, things will turn out okay.

Answer 10

Yes