Fiancée is addicted to TV?

Question

My fiancée has a horrible addiction to TV. Every night there is a different line up. Dancing with the Stars, American Idol, Lost, The Bachelor and programs like that has her full attention every evening. If I have something to say to her, she'll pause the program for a moment but I better hurry up and say what I have to say because her hand is shaking waiting to press the resume play button. There's no time for sex or romance during the weekdays. The weekends are about the only time we have for that. That means sex only one day a week. We talked about it this morning and she said that Thursday nights there's nothing on TV and we can use that night to concentrate on each other. At this point I'll take anything I said. I know she loves me and she's very affectionate, but I would like to have more time with her where our attention is not diverted. What can I do?

Answer 1

just take it easy...

Answer 2

One night a week is not much to build a relationship on. This is the woman you plan to marry and spend the rest of your life with so think long and hard if this is the life you want.

My boyfriend and I had the same problem a few years ago. We talked about it and came to the realization that our relationship was more important than television. We took the satellite dish off the house canceled the service so the only thing that was left was local shows that didn't come in great due to just having an antennae, that was 3 years ago. We have many things that we do together, simple stuff like reading in bed together which does not involve a physical contact but mentally brings us much closer together. To satisfy the TV addiction we got into video games that we can play together. We have also gotten into making something special out of our dinner time instead of sitting in front of the TV with the TV tray we now always eat at the dining room table.

If she is truly addicted to TV there are two things you can do, consider some type of therapy which you should attend together. Or get her Tivo that way she can record all of her shows and pick two nights a week to watch them all (fast forward thru commercials the shows go much quicker) which would give you much more time to spend together

Good Luck I hope you can work things out.

Answer 3

I wont even get into the fact that all of those shows SUCK, but she obviously has a problem. You need to sit down with her and tell her how your feeling, and come to a compromise that limits her TV viewing schedule to maybe 2 days a week, or something that makes sense. You have to ask her if TV is more important than you guys having a healthy relationship. That's about the only way I can think for you to go with this.

Answer 4

Learn to love tv as much as she does.Do you REALLY think that if you both get dressed up and have a wedding cerimony that faterwards she is going to be different?NOT! She will still be watching tv til death do you part, is THIS what you want the rest of your life?Not me pal.You have a choice to make tell her the tv goes or she does.She will choose the tv over you, YES she DOES love you, BUT , she loves the tv so much more!She may need counseling, what a way to start off a marriage.Now if youd known this about her before shacking, what would you do different?

Answer 5

There's nothing that you can really do besides accepting how she is, or breaking up with her. If you go through with marrying her, knowing how she is and what you have to look forward to, then you will be giving up any and all right to complain about it. If this is a problem for you, then you need to end it now, or forever hold your peace. You can't change her, and you can't make her give up her TV. You need to think long and hard, and ask yourself if you can live the way you're living now for 50 more years. If you don't think you can, end it now.

Answer 6

Ask her if you could have some time without the TV on. You could ask her to tape anything she really does want to watch, then make a real fuss of her. We women love to be made to feel really special, as I am sure you do to, so perhaps if you bought her a bunch of flowers, cooked her something tasty, got a bottle of wine and romanced her, then she may forget all about TV ! Good luck.

Answer 7

I had an experience with a similar problem, this is what you do:
You need to rent that episode of the Twilight Zone in the 80s about the guy that watched TV all the time.

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Answer 8

You should probably stress the importance of spending time doing other things together and make her realize this could be detrimental to your relationship eventually. TV is a waste of time and puts real life on pause. Spending time with people you love is far more important.

Answer 9

What you have left to do is to go and watch TV with her. And after the show, don't let her continue for the next show. Try with a kiss and gently take her away from TV. You may need a bait to take her away. If she misses and episode the possibility of watching the next gets low. So try to brake her TV habbits of Wednesday, (the middle of the week). Let her watch it in other days for first.
If nothing can break her habits, try to enjoy TV with her.

Answer 10

You sound like an previous hag. Why the eff might he desire to marry you? I comprehend you do not desire to artwork all day and then come living house and freshen up after him, yet being disappointed as a results of fact he desire to have intercourse 2 cases an afternoon is ridiculous. seems such as you may desire to locate an previous dude to marry and he needs to nice an captivating female to marry.

Answer 11

if she is addicted to tv now it is only going to get worse through time i have been married to a man for 25 years that is addicted to tv and has been from day one so get use to it and find your own hobbies to do with your time or you will just spend the time they are not watching tv fighting about it