I broke up with my bf 2 weeks ago after a 3 yrs relationship. I met another guy who seemed charming and sweet but he proved to be a huge ***hole and everything he wanted was sex (i am 23 he is 39 and i thought man at that age are different) Anyhow i didn't do anything with him and i think this bothered him
My problem is that i feel really really lonely. I don't have many friends bc now i reallise that all MY friends were actually my EX'es friends.
I feel like calling him but i know it is a huge mistake...but i am feeling so so bad and i need someone close to me in whom i can trust.
My real issue is that i love a man i used to date but everything is lost with him. there is no way i can get back together with him.
I don't think anybody understood anything i wrote but i just needed to get it out my chest. I'm so so so ****** lonley.
2007-04-25 06:41:04 · 12 answers · asked by Diana_84 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a say in may country : the one who wants to catch more than 2 rabbits at a time will end up with none. This is exactly what i am doing but i need someone to snap me out of this
2007-04-25 06:41:34 · update #1
i am really scared of meeting new ppl. I am so afraid i will get hurt and i just can't stand to be heartbroken one more time..at least not now
2007-04-25 06:43:11 · update #2
it sounds like you aren't ready to start something new with anyone yet. after ending a long term relationship like that you need time to deal with the change. its hard getting used to not always having someone there when you need them because after being with them for so long you start to get dependent. i have actually had a similar experience to yours in the past year. maybe you should try contacting some old friends from before you met your ex. loneliness is inevitable after a break up but jumping into something you aren't ready for will probably just make you get hurt in the end.
2007-04-25 06:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by juliesmmkay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry -- all i can offer is a piece of graffiti that has stuck in my mind ---- learn to love like you have never been hurt before --- you dont have to look for friends or a lover --- you will find each other usually by accident --- never say anything is lost --- he may think the same way and jump at the chance to renew the relationship ---- best wishes
as an aside --- i am older than 39 and while i do think of sex at lot --- its what my lady wants that is important and i will wait for her decision
2007-04-25 13:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh the hardships of dating....honey, i know you feel like you can't trust anyone right now and i'm not that expierianced in dating so can't give the greatest advice but when guys let me down i thankfully have a couple close gf's whom i can cry on thier shoulder and talk things out to, so if you need someone just to vent to or whatever, i'm here...and am a true friend cuz i like to help others and wish i could make things better for you. my advice right now is that you stay busy doign things you love and try your best to meet some true friends:)hugz
2007-04-25 13:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by forget_me_not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you not insane but you are out of luck.
I have an understanding for what you are going through but you can't live in the realm of "what if".
Doesn't it hurt when you lose someone you feel like you will always love????
I know how you feel.
The only remedy is for you to spend time alone to rebuild yourself so you are ready to move on to someone else.
the only way life will be easier to live is if you have a great man in your life to help get over it... but honestly you will never get over that guy you say you will always love. Sorry. That's just how it is.
2007-04-25 13:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a fear of being alone. Being alone isnt that bad though. In my opinion, what you need to do is break up with your bf, spend some time single, get out and let yourself meet people, make friends, enjoy life, and let life come to you when its ready. Your trying to hard to make something that won't be made until its ready.
2007-04-25 13:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand u. I think u should call ur ex, and talk things out with him. Dont try to get back together with him right away, just become friends again and c where that leads. Good Luck!
2007-04-25 13:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by tennis_grrl94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with yourself, learn to enjoy your own company. Cultivate friends. Learn to dance. And take your time before you get involved with someone else. Loneliness is not a good reason to have a relationship.
2007-04-25 13:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not insane. Don't go back to the 39yr. old. Your self esteem is a little low right now. Get out of the house, go window shopping, go to the mall and get a coke and people watch. Somebody will find you & want you. lol.
2007-04-25 13:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really, truly feel this way. I think you should try with all your heart to get back with him. He may understand.
2007-04-25 13:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Djaline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the ex for some much needed sex.
2007-04-25 13:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋