When Is a good time to have our second child?........?

Question

I have a 7 month old daughter, we make about $55,000 take home a year and we don't do too bad, we have a house and cars, I do get wic which means my food for my child is paid for. I am a stay at home mom, while I do babysit but, I do get to take my daughter w/ me. So I'm having a really hard time deciding if I should just go ahead and have another child and get it over with now, while I'm staying home or if I should wait a while? PLease help! And please no ignorant answers.

Answer 1

Well, that's really hard for anyone else to say.

Personally, I would go ahead and have another child now. In fact, I did. I was in a situation that sounds very close to yours, and we went ahead and had our second child about a year and a half after the first (actually, we got pregnant around the first baby's first birthday). I haven't regretted that decision.

Then again, other families have other needs and desires and stuff. My family all thought we were crazy for having a second child so soon after the first, but it's what we wanted, and it's worked out wonderfully for us. It's also a LOT of hard work, because you have two very small children, which means you probably have diapers for two kids for quite some time, and all the other ongoing expenses of money, time and attention. It's been a stressful couple of years.

Basically, I wouldn't change my decision to have our second child when we did, but it wouldn't work for everyone, and I would never presume to tell another person that they "should" do it the same way I did.

Answer 2

Really it just depends on whenever you and your family feel ready for it. Personally, I wouldn't have been ready by the time my daughter was 7 months and as some people have already said, I think it's good for your body to have a year long break from pregnancy. I understand that many people like to have their children close in age though. If it were me I'd wait until my older child was pottytrained that way you wouldn't be doing double diaper duty, but if you feel that you are ready to take it all on all over again then anytime should be a good time. Just talk it over w/ your husband and see what you guys can agree on.

Answer 3

No one can really tell you what is right for you. I had mine close together and I loved every minute enough, my children have "ready made" playmates close in age, and my children are very close and protective of each other. Of course the same can be said for siblings who are born years apart. Who knows, in a couple years, my children may all hate each other...lol Personally I wanted to get the waking up in the middle of the night, changing diapers, and potty-training done ASAP with all my kids, but it helped to know how many kids I wanted so I could plan accordingly.

I had my first daughter in May 2001
Had my first son December 2002 (got pregnant Feb 2002 when oldest was 9 months old)
Had my second daughter October 2004 (got pregnant January 2004 just days after my son turned 1 year old)
Had my second son June 2006 (got pregnant September 2005 when my 3rd was 11 months old, he was born a little early)

I also have a step-daughter who was born January 2004 and my kids adore her!

Good luck, and like I said, only you know what is best for you and your family!

Answer 4

I'm not you so I can't decide for you. But, if I 'were' you. I'd wait. I mean if I had a 7 month old daughter, I'd like to raise her, atleast wait a year or a little longer before I got started on another one. With the way we think 'as people in general' we have our children too fast & to close together in age, that later on down the line we want more, that we just can't handle. But, really, this decision is left between your husband & you, no one else, especially 'us people on answers.yahoo' should not have a say in this decision.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

Congrats on your first one... You seem to be wanting to have another one badly... There is no correct or wrong time for this... it is a decision both you and your husband (and other significant family members, if applicable) have to take. Waiting or going ahead has advantages and disadvantages for each person and may differ from person to person. List up your advantages and disadvantages for both and it may be a help in deciding. you could start off with a list with two headings- NOW and LATER... under each of those- ADVANTAGES and DISADVANTAGES.
This will help you decision making a wee bit easier. All the best and God bless.

Answer 6

I have a baby boy which is 1 year old, i wanted a child after he is potty trained so would it make cheaper and easy for me to take care, and later on time my husband and i can have time together.If you both are ready and want another child go for it.

Answer 7

It sounds like you're doing fine financially and you seem ready, so if you feel like you're ready, then go ahead.

My daughter is 8 months and I know I'm ready. I've been ready since she was 3 months.

I say go for it, but only you and your family can decide. Talk it over with your husband.

Answer 8

while you are at home, you should actually try to have the child, but it does take a while to conceive a baby, so best of luck, but you also do not want your kids to be too close in age, but htey will be about a year apart, so it sounds good to me. Good Luck!

Answer 9

There's really no "right" answer for this, but medically, your body needs at least a year to recover from pregnancy. So, IMO, wait about a year from now so your body is fully recovered and you don't have two babies in diapers at the same time.

Answer 10

Sure, if you and your husband are sure you want a second child to raise so soon - have another one... My children chose to have their's three years apart.