how can I solve my problem without being rude?

Question

I live in an apartment. My nextdoor neighbor has a daughter, 1 1/2 ish. Her chosen method of communication is to scream 24/7. I'm listening to her now. It goes from high pitched barking sounds to straight up screaming. My husband called the police at 2:00am once because he thought she was being abused. I've talked to her and she says her other two children did the same thing. I can't take it any longer I am tense right now and that is my normal state when I am home because of this girl. I don't want to make an enemy but my sanity is at stake HELP!!!

Answer 1

Leave an anonymous gift on her doorstep:

"Adventures in Gentle Discipline" by Hilary Flower is one suggestion::

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If she is letting her child scream, it's possible she's the type of mom that is lazy about discipline PLUS doesn't want to be that "harsh" kind of parent. A book with gentle, SIMPLE discipline techniques could get her started on a better road. Totally non-confrontational on your part as well; she may guess it was a neighbor who left it there, but will never know for sure, and she could just as easily assume it was left there by mistake... ;)

If you have children also, try inviting her to the park or to go grocery shopping. Watch her in action, and model better parenting techniques to her. Try not to offer a lot of advice unless she asks specifically. Maybe her child just has a very difficult temperment, and she is frustrated and overwhelmed, trying to manage the best she can (and not doing so well). Griping and confronting her is probably not going to get you anywhere, IMO.

It's also possible that she's depressed. Especially since she's got this screaming banshee of a toddler-- she could be detaching herself from all of the noise, and tuning out altogether. Either way, whatever the situation is, it sounds like she needs someone to reach out to her, rather than cause more frustration and stress by reporting her, complaining to her, etc.

I wish you the best. Apartment living just plain sucks all around!

Answer 2

Ummm, I'm not quite sure what to do. It is her mothers fault that she let this continue. I would never let my son (1 1/2) to scream at all!
My first step is to talk to the mother again, and tell her your situation. See if there is something on her end that can be done. Suggest that she talk to her child's doctor about why she constantly screams! Let her know that it is disrupting you day to day life, be polite about it. See what she says, if she doesn't seem to care the next step is the landlord.
I would talk to the landlord about whats going on and maybe he will have a solution. Relocating to another apt. in the same complex?
My trick to drown out noises in my apartment is fans! I use a fan in my room to sleep, I can't hear a thing. White noise should drown out a screaming child. so in the mean time, I would try that. Even during the day, just have a fan on in the apt. somewhere. Point it to the wall if you don't want it blowing toward you.
You should never feel like that in your own home. If nothing seems to help, maybe move to protect your sanity.

Answer 3

omg, i had the same trouble. heres what we did, everytime we heard them (to the extent that we were interrupted), we called the apartment manager. she would take care of it but only for the time being. however, we called EVERYtime and eventually the apartment manager got sick of us complaining and stepped in. but beware, the mother is going to say that she can't help it (especially if there is a disorder with the child), but you need to tell your manager that something will need to be done or you will be forced to give notice. Then all you can do is hope that the manager takes your side. do you have children? if not, or if they wouldn't be bothered, then after you call your manager, tell them that you are going to be turning up your music to mask this sound. then try that. belive me im soo sorry for this. (we also lived above rowdy college kids once, so i feel your pain for sure!)

Answer 4

attempt to shrink your touch together with her. fix the themes your self. in case you do not have the time/components, point out on your boss you have observed a project and propose a obtainable answer (or a direction to a answer). The boss would then assign it to the female who won't do something. Then if the coworker gets disenchanted, interior the main nonchalant and satisfied tone say "Oh, I observed this subject and had an concept. it incredibly is merely me....the priority solver. l. a., l. a., l. a., l. a.." And stroll away. properly, ok, in step with possibility not the l. a., l. a., l. a. area. merely keep fixing problems or providing ideas. while it comes time for pay will improve, you will get extra desirable than the female who would not care. while it comes time for a "paintings tension help," she would be able to be extra probable to be sent out the door than you will on the grounds which you have shown your self a project solver. Or attempt this.... One evening after paintings persist together with her homestead and make observe of the handle. Then the subsequent time she is mean to you, stroll together with her to a distant area of the development. tell her: "i don't basically like the way you take care of me. you're able to desire to end this or i'll take it to the subsequent point. you do not choose me showing up at your effective blue homestead on Pine Lane at 3 a.m. and doing some thing, do you? in case you point out any of what I merely pronounced, i'll deny it thoroughly. and then i'll actually bypass on your place once you least assume it." Your determination...effective worker or psycho b*tch

Answer 5

First thing I would do would go around and see if any of the other neighbors are being bothered. Hopefully, someone else has heard this too. Then go to the manager and tell him about it and give him the other names of the other neighbors as witnesses. Good Luck

Answer 6

wow thats really crazy. there's no way to force the child to stop screaming. you'd have to understand why she's screaming, which would involve spending time with her and the parents. you cant even force the parents to give her whatever it is that she's screaming for. there's got to be a way to calm the child but if the parents wont cooperate, and earplugs or headphones aren't working, and you're against taking strong sleeping pills, then all u can do is leave. there's no guarantee that the landlord will evict them and if he does then he might grant them 30-60 days to leave. that's 30-60 more days you'd have to deal.

Answer 7

the parent is screaming or child??

if its the parent than call t he police and get the mother to learn better communication methods..if its the child then the parent needs to teach her child that the behavior will not pay off into getting what she wants.

either way for your sake..get the manager to move your appartment..you need a peaceful place to go home to!

Answer 8

It is lack of parenting skills on her part for her to not control her children. I would talk to the apartment manager and make sure that they are aware of the problem. Tell them that this goes on all night long.

Answer 9

that's a hard one. i watch a little girl like that but its only because she can't talk (just had surgery to fix that problem) i would talk to your landlord and maybe he can talk to them sayin there have been complaints and if it doesn't stop in a such of time then they might have to be kicked out. no one can live like that i'm always so happy when this little girl i watch leaves.

Answer 10

if u already talked with the mom tell your landlord to move either u or her.