I've always liked making new friends, still that way. greeting my friends(guys and girls) with a hug is very common of me. I'm intrested in their lives and what's on their minds. Lately a new friend of mine called me a "flirt" because I saw this guy I knew and said we should hang out some time. I wasn't trying to start a date I just wanted to see what he'd been up to. Sometimes my grandma says I seem to excited around some guys and I need to calm down, but I'm energectic around virtually everyone. She discourages me to give out my phone number to guys cause they may want to start dating me. But i don't assume that every guy who wants to talk to me is after me in a romantic way, so i do it anyways. But then some (not all) follow me around and try to get me to be his girlfriend, which I have no desire to be anyone's girlfriend at the moment. Do I need to be more reserved and closed off towards guys? Because I'm afaird of sending out the wrong message.
2007-04-25 05:36:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got Biggest Flirt every year in high school. And I still dont know why? I just love talking to everyone guys an girls.
2007-04-25 05:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to understand how they could have confused that you were interested. After all you show a general interest in them and their life, and you even tell them that you "should hang out sometime" That definitely sounds flirtatious to me. However, I do believe you need to be yourself, if you don't intend to be that way it's just how other people are interpreting it. If you don't want a boyfriend and some of them are following around asking you, be honest I don't want a boyfriend right now, or I don't have time for a boyfriend right now, but I appreciate the compliment and I'd like nothing more than to be friends with you. Lay the ground work that you will be friends and nothing more.
2007-04-25 12:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should stay the way you are, however you are very naive. Yes every new guys that talks to you is interested in you. To be honest with you, there is not real reason to talk to girls otherwise. Don't let it go to your head, guys are interested in dozens of girls every day, it's just how we are. Just don't be so naive to think they are just being friendly with you, they are not.
The manner in which you write, in grammar and structure, suggest that you are a "flirt". However there is nothing wrong with that as long as you do understand it. I have a feeling you still don't understand it yet.
2007-04-25 12:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be yourself--fun, energetic and a little flirty, just keep in mind that some of guys are a little dense and some of us will think we're special and that you like us. When that happens just make it very clear when a guy starts to fall for you--tell him, "Look I like being your friend but that's where it stops. Can we still be friends?" I assure you that most guys will want to keep you as a friend and will be happy you made it clear for them--otherwise if you say nothing, then we keep thinking you like us!
2007-04-25 12:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by robotrogelio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my dear, you need to be very careful these days. People are as a whole meaner than they used to be . You never known what is going through a man's mind, or what other man may be watching you. Please be careful and watch the signals that you send out. I tried to tell a woman friend of mine about her stretching in public before she ran her cross country runs. I can't bear to tell you the rest of the story. So , sweetie, I don't know you, but you are someone's little girl still, and I beg you , please think what you are doing. It hurts like hell to loose someone to some devil out there. G
2007-04-25 12:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be better if u were a little more reserved, i don't
think there's any need giving your phone no to every boy. But don't loose your cheery nature, it doesn't matter what other ppl think bout u, anyways your the one who's living ur life. Sometimes ppl tend to be jealous of someone who is full time energetic. So be yourself but not to the extent of embarrassing yourself.
2007-04-25 12:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more understanding of guys. Don't change your overall behavior, but do consider its' effects on others. While you may not be interested in a date, try to think about whether the person your talking to may be. Depending on the situation you may want to reconsider your words or actions.
I do love a vivacious girl, though. Please don't stop being happy and energetic!
2007-04-25 12:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by TheEconomist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me your being you, especially being single right now. I will say that if you were involved then your excitment about seeing another guy should be toned down, even the being quick to jump into another mans arms, friend or not.
2007-04-25 13:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by EarthTone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that is not flirting that is the want to make someone feel better and get to know new people when i meet new guys i flirt but that is because they start it but if they don't i feel like i can talk to them freely which is exactally what you are doing so ur just fine
2007-04-25 12:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by kailee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being reserved is going to help. If you're attractive, guys are going to hit on you. It's our nature. Being outgoing just makes you more fun. And there's nothing wrong with fun.
2007-04-25 12:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋