we usually fight about the dumbest things. for example, about another guy looking at me, or not haning out or lately about me not doing things for him and he does things for me. he thinks its "unfair". what do i do?
2007-04-25 05:29:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both need to sit down and talk constructively, not destructively... communicate without breaking each other apart... it seems that there are some insecurity/jealousy issues that you two need to work out.... every couple struggles now and then....it's normal... but just think, if you two can come together and work these small things out, it'll make you two stronger as a couple.
Find out what's going on in his head....and do your best to express to him what's going on in yours... sometimes these things are missed or taken for granted that the other knows or is supposed to know how you're feeling and why you are feeling that way.... That's just not how it is.... Men and Women are different.. and neither are mind readers....
Communication is key.
2007-04-25 05:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you fight about?
This is more of a communication issue than anything else, but frequent fighting says to me that there are some underlying issues in the relationship that need to be worked on.
Sometimes couples fight about things that don't matter because they are not really talking about the things that do matter!
Ask yourself the following questions:
What are the real issues in this relationship that are not being addressed?
How do the two of you handle these things.
Are you able to be open and honest?
Can you actually listen well and respond to each other?
Does it feel like things get settled so that both of you feel OK with the solutions?
It sounds as though nothing that gets said has any results in terms of behavior change.
I don't know how old you are but is counseling an option?
There are reasons the two of you are at each others' throats. Until you find out what they are, nothing will change.
See if you can get him to tell you why he is unhappy, either with himself or with you.
Listen with an open heart. Then, do the same for him. Try not to get defensive with what he says.
It may release a lot of the tension the two of you seem to be feeling and things just may get better!
2007-04-25 12:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe do something you both enjoy, plan a day for you two , maybe go see a movie , then to lunch, or go to the park and have a picnic at the park. And talk about good things , and talk about how much you love each other. Good luck.
2007-04-25 12:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is normal, but if he's getting mad at you because a guy checks you out, that's messed up and he could be getting a little possessive.
2007-04-25 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop reacting. The fights will stop. It takes 2 to tango.
2007-04-25 12:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ego. Most fights happen because of inflated egos where no one wants to admit they are wrong. One of you has to drop your ego and assure you, the fights will stop!
2007-04-25 12:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by robotrogelio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Sounds like he is a jealous overbearing pig.
Go on with your life and to someone who is open, honest, caring, and appreciates the little tings when they come up
2007-04-25 12:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fights are completely normal in relationships and Most of them are about stupid things, it makes both of you stronger after you have realised this, talked about the fight, and moved on........jealousy is pretty normal anyways, as long as he doesnt take it to far
2007-04-25 12:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by eclipse555 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel like 2 weeks ago me and my boyfriend finally talked everything out like whats ben bothering us and so we talked for about 2 hours and it really did the trick and so my advise for u is just sit down and talk to him about it face to face no yelling just civil
yea i got alot of guy friends and when i see them they say hi or watever so stop and talk and my boyfriend gets kinda mad
2007-04-25 12:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Miss November 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you fight over stupid things its because there is a bigger problem in the relationship that either you or him want to talk about.
2007-04-25 12:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋