After a casual lunch date with someone I met recently, I thanked the guy and extended my right hand for a hand shake. The guy said he would give me a hug instead. I allowed him, but now I think I should have said, "No I am uncomfortable with that"
Was is too much of him to offer a hug instead?
2007-04-25 05:28:43 · 17 answers · asked by 5324 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing wrong with a hug, however by extending your hand you made it quite clear you are comfortable with only a handshake. he assumed you were thinking of his comfort zone and that's why you didn't off a hug. he should've picked up on that. and btw this is very telling of his personality. he's looking out for himself and what people do or don't do to him. it never occurred to him that you werent comfortable. think about that.
2007-04-25 05:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were uncomfortable with it, then yes, it was wrong. You already initiated what you were comfortable with - you extended your hand. The fact that he disregarded this means one of two things: 1) he's ignorant of what is polite behavior and recognizing your wishes or 2) he had ulterior motives for the date in the first place.
Probably he didn't mean anything by it. But if it made you uncomfortable, don't be afraid to speak up and stand up for yourself. Everyone has a different idea of what "personal space" is.
2007-04-25 12:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by bitsonews 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy who goes on many dates--your date was probably testing the waters to see how you hugged him. There's hugs and then there's HUGS, and he probably wanted to see where he stood and from the sounds of it, you probably gave him a weak hug and now he knows he's got nothing--right? Most of us hate the good-bye handshake, because handshakes are so formal and business-like. So no it wasn't too much, he's just being a guy, and us guys hardly know where we stand with women, so give him a break he was just testing the waters!
2007-04-25 12:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by robotrogelio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys feel just as awkward and unconfortable about shaking a girls hand... that always feels kinda weird too.... and it was a lunch date... so maybe a hug was more appropriate (at least in his mind). Either way, not a big deal.
2007-04-25 12:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nonsense or normal on your part? Is that what you're asking? I'd say it depends on the person but I don't think it was too much of him to offer a hug.
2007-04-25 12:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Deb S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would much rather hug a woman, a handshake between a guy & a woman is sooo cold...
It is simply a hug, slightly warm. rather than a cold businesslike handshake.
If it IS a business situation, a handshake is more appropriate, however if it is a social situation, the hug gets it.
Hope this helps! : )
2007-04-25 12:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rockmeister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a date and he felt things went well, then I think a hug is perfectly normal. Don't feel bad, we should all hug each other more often.
2007-04-25 12:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by fleppy100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I would hug someone to...I am just like that. A handshake is more of a business type thing a hug is more of a friendship or personal thing.
2007-04-25 12:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Texas angel 18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, whats wrong with a hug.
2007-04-25 12:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Steph ♫ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it would be wrong if u had french kiss the guy. But a hug is nothing wrong!!!
2007-04-25 12:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by •○Cristy○• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋