I need serious help?

Question

Okay I am a dirt bag and I have been sorry to my ex. We had been together for nearly 2 years and I just hated my life that i didnt care what i was doing to her. I lied to her, and even embezzeled money from my job. When I got out of jail she was there and she was going to be there for me if i went to prison I have no doubt. To me that was true love because she was always going to be ther. Well I wanted to be the guy she deserved so I admitted everything to her I didnt want to be livein a lie or have any lies between us. I apologized to friends and family that i had hurt trying to change my life and be a better person. But once she found out the truth she was hurt and now its over between us. She broke up with me when I was trying to change and do the right thing, I know it hurt but wasnt i makeing the right decision. My question is do I hold on to hope and fight for her or just give her her wish and let her be and just become a silent friend? I want her to be happy

I love her and I think or thought she loved me. She stood by me through so much and i depended on her. Why isnt she standing by me when I am trying to do the right thing and change? Were we ment to be or not?

Answer 1

O romantic love and the dillisions it paints for us.... true love? Yea it was love but true love has nothing to do with your guys concept with love and has everything to do with how TRUE the situation is for each other. Your situation was false, it was lies, it was discet. You destroied the true by never creating it in the frist place. But lucky for you love is magical, just not the way we want it to be. You have a bond with her, you have history, and with that if your really geniune and you TRULY want to love her right. Then be her friend for once, anything else is just icy on the cake you understand..... maybe if you weren't to bad, the friendship will remain true and helpful for the both of you and it could grow into that TRUE love you were after in the frist place. We all have love buddy but that doesn't make it true, as in truly good for us. Man can love alot of things, take a tree for example. He could dance, eat, sleep, and even make-love to that darn tree. But that doesn't stop it from falling on top of him and killing him one day... get? Love isn't enough in other words, nor should we pretend it is, love is nothing more then the whole feelings we feel for an individual. ITs only magic if we use the feelings to empower us, not money? not sex! and sure as heck not the worship of some poor women who thought you were someone else..... sorry to be so brutal, but we've all been in need of it before....