2007-04-25 04:24:32 · 24 answers · asked by What is wrong w/ppl these days! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My daughter's name was placed on the invitation envelope, but I don't know if they want her to come or if she even should. Also, the reception is immediately after the wedding. So, it would be hard to just take her to the wedding only..
2007-04-25 04:30:40 · update #1
Also, this is my husband's friends wedding. It is not a family member.
2007-04-25 04:32:54 · update #2
If the child's name was not on the invitation, then do not take the child to the wedding or the reception. Bringing any uninvited guest, even a child, is not proper. If the child was included on the invitation then you will have to determine the maturity of the child. Is he/she able to sit still and quietly through the ceremony? Can he/she amuse him/herself with a small cloth bag of crayons, paper, books, etc.? If the child has experience with going to church, it is helpful since he/she will know how to be quiet in church. You may also want to consider the relationship of the child to the bride and/or groom. If it is a close relationship, such as an aunt or uncle, then the child will probably enjoy seeing them get married. If the child has never seen the bride and groom before or barely knows them, his/her interest will be considerably diminished. For the reception, if it is a formal affair, you may want to consider the child's food preferences. If all they'll eat is macaroni and cheese and hot dogs with apple slices, then they'll be less than impressed with the $50/plate prime rib and garlic mashed potatoes. Generally a wedding and reception that is for a close friend or family member and is more casual in nature is best for children. But, with advanced planning such as eating a large meal before the wedding, packing snacks and a bag of things to do, a 5 year old can do just fine at a wedding and reception. Just remember, if the child's name was not on the invitation, do not take him/her.
2007-04-25 05:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is on the envelope then she is invited, brides arent that nice, they wont invite someone that they dont want there. That being said, no, I dont think 5 years is old enough to attend a wedding. I have a 5 year old as well and we have a wedding coming up this July that she will be the flower girl in. My husband and I really hemmed and hawed about saying that she could do it because a wedding is an adult affair, but in the end the bride talked us into it. We will be staying in the hotel next door and I am fully aware that I probably will not have the best of times because I am of the parenting school where you watch your children like a hawk to be sure the behave properly and wont be taking my eye off her all night and that I will also be leaving the party early. This will be the only wedding she attends until she is quite a bit older. Weddings just arent fun for kids, dancing gets old for them pretty quick and they dont enjoy food the way adults do. I would get a baby sitter and attend the wedding sans your daughter.
2007-04-25 11:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the child's name is on the invitation that clearly means they are invited. It would be rather silly to include someone on an invitation if they are not wanted at the event. Most weddings i've been to have had children there. My wedding will have lots of children (and my flower girls will be 3 and 4 years old). Sometimes the couple will provide activities or special treats for the children during the reception.
That said, you know your child best and it is your decision to bring her along. If you think there will be nothing there to keep your child occupied, and are not sure how well she will behave, you could always decide not to bring her. But chances are if she's invited, other children are too so she may have someone to play with at the reception. And you could always bring some sort of small quiet toy to occupy her with while there. It's completely up to you.
2007-04-25 12:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by katskradle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb is: Whomever is listed on the wedding invitation is invited to the wedding. If your daughter was omitted from the invite, you could safely assume she is not invited and perhaps it is an "adults only" reception. However, if she was listed, she is invited.
However, you know your child better than your husband's friends. If you know your child will not be able to behave or sit still during a wedding, or you feel uncomfortable having your kid at a reception where there is alcohol (some people object to that) then you need to RSVP appropriately...make sure when you send in your RSVP card you list the number of people who are going to attend.
2007-04-25 13:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is not a family or close friend I would probably get a babysitter for the evening/day.
There are no small children in my family or my fiances, our flower girl will be our niece, she will be 2 ( i know I know we're crazy!) But she will only be at the wedding, we have schedualed a sitter for her for the evening so her dad (the BM) can relax and have a good time.
If she was on the invite-she is invited, I would call the bride/groom and ask if other children are coming, ages, and if they have a menu for children. They may be expecting lots of little ones and have some special things catered towards them.
It is completely up to you, just because she was on the invite doesn't mean she is obligated to attend with you and your husband. If you don't feel comfortable or think it is a good place for her, get a family member or sitter for the day/evening
2007-04-25 11:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If her name is on the invitation, she is an invited guest.
Another big if is if your child is well behaved in public, it's probably okay to take her to the wedding. I was on the fence about this for our wedding - I didn't want children running and screaming through our wedding ceremony and reception.
However, my husband has several cousins with young children, and we had a few friends with kids. The cousins brought their kids to my BIL's wedding and you would NOT have even known they were there, they were so well behaved. There were also 7 kids from 2 families, so I think a lot of it had to do with them entertaining each other. The same kids came to our wedding, along with several more of our friends' children, and we didn't have any problems at all. We had special favors for them - goodie bags with pads of blank paper, crayons, a few plastic toys, etc. They were great for the older kids (11-12) as well because they could play games and draw their own stuff.
I think in our case, the kids were pretty well behaved to begin with, there were other children present they could hang out with, and the parents were REALLY aware of what their kids were up to. I've been to weddings where it's jsut been a nightmare with screaming, ill behaved children, so it's really a personal decision on your part as to whether your daughter would behave. You can call and ask if there will be other children there, and pack some goodies to keep her entertained, but most importantly, if she does get bored and starts acting up, have a back up plan to get her out of there.
2007-04-25 11:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If her name was on the invite, then it is safe to say that she was invited. Whether or not you should take her is a different issue. As a mother of a 8 year old some of the things to take into consider before making your decision. 1.How long is the ceremony and reception. 2. will your child be able to maintain herself during that time period. 3. Will you or others around you be drinking, and do you really want your daughter around that. 4. Will you be able to enjoy the celebration, or will you have to constantly have to be entertaining your child?
2007-04-25 12:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they made her a part of the invitation, I am sure they are welcoming her. I know that for my wedding we are inviting all children. We are having our wedding at an estate home and will be using one of the rooms as an area just for kids. We will have games and coloring books and possibly bringing in a T.V. for them to watch movies and we are hiring some nannies to watch over them. This way the parents are able to enjoy and the children are involved and happy!!
2007-04-25 11:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by O'Brien/Ewing Wedding 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF and only IF the invitation has your daughter's NAME written on the envelope, she is an expected guest.
However, do you 5 year old a favor and take her to the babysitter that day for fun and age appropiate activities, besides, I'm sure that you and yoru husband can use having fun for a day without worring for temper tantrums and tired kiderghardeners that want to go home when the DJ hasn't even started playing.
Good luck
2007-04-25 11:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If her name is on the envelope, that means she is invited unless they state otherwise regarding the reception. I would just call and ask the couple, and that would take the guessing out of it.
2007-04-25 12:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋