My boyfriend loves his uncle, dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong with that. But when he gets around his uncle then he gets this mocho,"you do as i tell you to" type of attitude. I get mad about it so it makes me not want to go around his family or talk to him while he is around his family. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. Also when we go over to his uncles well he leaves me all alone sometimes, and im not gonna lie, it makes me mad. I wouldnt call it jealousy but maybe it is. I dunno but am i being sellfish, if so what do i do.
2007-04-25 02:23:34 · 7 answers · asked by cali 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't think you're being selfish. It sounds like your boyfriend acts one way (which you like and are used to) most of the time, but acts completely different whenever he is around his uncle- probably trying to show off.
I think you and your boyfriend need to compromise by you not going with your boyfriend as often when he is visiting his uncle, because it sounds as if he doesn't talk to you or pay you that much attention during those times anyway, so why do you need to be there?
And when you do go with him, he needs to find you every so often and spend a minute or two doing whatever you're doing, to show that he wants you there. And if he can, lay off the macho thing, or he should sneak in a few tender moments with you when his uncle is not looking, to let you know its just a game with his uncle, and he doesn't really feel that way.
2007-04-25 02:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by LovesToCook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not selfish. If he ends up leaving you alone while there, don't go next time he goes over there and when he asks, just let him know that he acts bossy to you and any other issues.
talk to him. communication is high priority in a relationship.
OR next time he acts bossy to you around his uncle "get me a beer" pour it on him (actually, get an empty beer can, put water in it, then pour it on him so he doesn't reek of alcohol and he gets a wake up call for his attitude). **ok so I'm only partly serious about this hehe**
2007-04-25 10:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,sometimes I'm like that with my friends. Like I know most of the people I'm hanging out with, and Im with one friend who doesn't know the rest of the group that I know, and sometimes I leave her alone to hang out with the others so my one friends can see that I dont know.. really I just dont know what it is, I think I would call it "showing off" for some reason. I dont know why some of us do it, but I guess it's to show how I interact with other relations with other friends.
So don't take it personally, I bet he's just showing off a bit so he can get your attention.
You shouldn't feel selfish at all, sometimesmy friends do the exact same thing to me. Just hang in there. He loves you alot im sure... it's just a thing going on with him and his uncle. You're a woman, there's no need to tell him because you should feel strong and probably give him a little attention. =]
Good luck!
2007-04-25 09:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cassandra S. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are being selfish. If your boyfriend wants to go and spend time with his uncle and you know that you will be left alone, don't go with him (especially if he acts like an idiot around his uncle).
Stay home, or visit your other friends.
In my opinion when you are invited to go someplace by your significant other, then that person should be around most of the time, not off somewhere leaving you alone.
2007-04-25 10:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by meg3f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen in the past with someone I was with .It happen once and that was it !!!! I forget what happen to the letter, but it was something like 'Hey get us some beers". It was said in a "you are my slave" kind of tone.To look like he ran the show He said this In front of some friend of his.This guy was not normally like this .So I knew I could nip that in the bud. I said "get them yourself" .It was very embarrassing for him and he never did it again.
I have no problem with getting someone who comes over a drink ,beer what have you ,but not when it is done to humiliate me and that's what that is .
2007-04-25 11:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by winterberg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. My husband is that way around his brother. I am glad that he lives 8 hours away....lol He leaves me to go play pool in the garage, and then tells me to go get him a beer, etc. He NEVER treats me that way unless his bro is around. I hate it, and he doesn't see what I get so mad about.
2007-04-25 13:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds really immature and insensitive,, what nationality is he??? but just know,, he isn't going to change,,, and either you deal with it or get out,,, I wouldn't put up with that, it is very demeaning and rude
2007-04-27 11:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell3648 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋