I have a dilemma and I don't know what to do..My really good friend who happens to be 38 (I am 20) told me that he is in love with me..really freaked me out..I mean he has a wife and kids.And like I love talking to him,he is a good friend to talk to and tells it like it is all the time and I can ask anything and he will tell me the truth instead of what he thinks I want to hear.The problem is my boyfriend found out and now he wants me to stop talking to this other guy and I really don't want to..but I also don't want to lose my boyfriend..HELP!!!Don't know what to do...
2007-04-25 02:10:13 · 10 answers · asked by Fluff.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats one hell of a conundrum. I think ill enjoy this one.
I can understand the boyfriends feelings, that is defenently warrented. You told us everything about everyone elses feelings, where do your feelings lay. I mean do you have feelings for this good friend of yours or what?
Is the guy happily married with the wife, If that is the case tell him to stick with the wife and stop looking over the other side of the bridge for greener grass. It may just be that he is going through a mid life crisis earlier in his life and looking at other options.
If he is unhappily married to this wife of his (and by that I mean his life is a living hell because of the marrage, not the regular marrage woes) then you will need to concider the feeling you have for your boyfriend.
Clearly your boyfriend is worried that you are going to leave him for this guy, or he is insecure about the relationship you have with him. Think it through carefully because your decicion will impact quite a few lives (your boyfriend, the wife, the kids all of that).
But if you dont want the friend to be more then a friend then you need to tell him. Explain why, dont just say no. Try and stay friends after that. Then explain to the boyfriend about the sitation. If all goes as you hoped you will still have the friend and the boyfriend.
This is a difficult one, there is no easy answer for this one. Best of luck
2007-04-25 02:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, stay away from the guy who said he loved you. He has a wife and children and is probably going through some things right now. If you love your boyfriend I would tell the other dude,"look, we can only be friends nothing more will come of this". Be honest with him and don't lead him on.
2007-04-25 02:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by karens lovinlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married. Let him get over you before you talk to him again. You don't want to ruin a family do you? Sometimes the friendship has to be sacrificed so as not to hurt other people. You have your boyfriend and he has a family. You can choose between having him for yourself and get things complicated or let him go for now and make everyone happy.
2007-04-25 02:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest honey...you shouldn't even be talking to a married man. He is not in love with you...he just want to sleep with you. I say drop him. Been there done that. He won't leave his wife...and even if he does. I still wouldn't want him. What he did to her...he will do to you. And on top of all that you have a boyfriend
2007-04-25 02:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by It must be said 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, so i think the guy who likes you who is 38 is a perv, and dishonset. You should stop talking to him not only for your boyfriends sake and your guys' relationship, but for the other mans wife too. Hope this helped! ;)
2007-04-25 02:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your boyfriend being jealous.
Married men generally do not walk out on wife and children for a woman 18 years their junior...and if he did...would you really want a man like that?!?!?!
2007-04-25 02:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what goes around comes around-cheaters are cheaters
seems obvious your b/f isnt meeting your personality needs-both I would say are wrong for you-your a princess and hyou deserve a guy that wouldnt cheat on his wife, yet would care for you truely as a friend and honor you. way hard to say but true. First we need to believe Jesus-it helped me the most of all=John chapters 1-3 repented of my sins=even one lie, and let him in to become born again, with Jesus now my savior and best friend.
ask your boy friend if he would mind this guy writing your a note and giving you his picture-then give it to your boy friend and have him deliver it to the mans wife-saying please keep your husband away from my girl friend-she only wanted to be his friend, thanks
2007-04-25 02:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy... The guy is married. Cut it off. There's no reason for you to break up a marrage. Personally, I would be flattered, but I would cut him (her in my case) off. Good luck with it. I hope it works out.
2007-04-25 02:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by jpmi23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't know what to do??? Are you serious??????? Take a good long look at his WIFE and then at his KIDS..if you can live with yourself hurting them then do what your little heart desires. I would never come between anyone..only because what comes around goes around. I couldn't live with myself, knowing I hurt inncocent children. Stay away from him.
2007-04-25 02:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋