Alright guys, I need some help on what to do.. basically I met this girl online, she has seen a few of my pics, and I've seen a few of hers. Well I initiated contact first briefly, and since then she has been writing literally 10 page emails. She is constantly asking if I miss her, or feel a spark, and she wants to meet me so bad, and she is feeling a connection. Keep in mind I've never met her. She's already asking me about marriage, family values, and that she wouldn't go to medical school if it meant things working out with me.
Don't get me wrong, I write long emails back but nothing about a relationship. She talks about normal things too but it always goes back to "We have so much in common.. not to weird you out.. but I miss you, is that bad? I know we will hit it off. How about you?" Exactly what she says.
Anyway, what do you all think? Is she crazy, desperate for love, or what? Any ideas
2007-04-25 01:33:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dangerous woman this one she doesnt know you she has not met you but will give up her medical studies for you she sounds a bit unstable get away from her she is a clinging vine you can do without.~~
2007-04-25 01:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sound likes a lonely girl, desperate to find the right guy and clearly she thinks you have the potential to be it. It seems a bit crazy to me to be saying all these things when you haven't even met a person but I know this sort of thing happens a lot on line. She's probably more into the idea of you, rather than you as a person. I don't think she's crazy, just wants a relationship and she clearly like you. Yo haven't really mentioned what you're thoughts or feelings are. Maybe you should comment on how you don't understand how she can say things she does when she hasn't even met you - she could be horribly disappointed (no offence). Encourage her to take things slow with you. I mean, not going to medical school is crazy for a guy she hasn't met! Good luck!
2007-04-25 08:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very first off, she is not crazy. Words that contain emotional power are pretty but pretty ADDICTIVE. She has gotten emotionally attached to you and her fantasy has made an image of you in her mind. If she talks about values like marriage, whatever, she is just infatuated but needs help. She is just in love with her own fantasy of you. How to work this out....you have got to meet in person to make facts clear and to dull her fantasy. She will need to put up with the fact that you(in real) is not you(over the net). If you cut the contact with her it'd be worse....as she is emotionally attached to you. There is a certain line that she has crossed and you haven't in sense of falling for something that actually doesn't exist. Meet in person, and you will see how things will change.
2007-04-25 08:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy but, i'd say she sounds excited. Its probably been a long time since she has had a man in her life. Its nice that you miss each other but, once you meet, let her know, gently, that marriage & those heavy subjects can wait. Tell her to slow down & take one thing at a time. Good luck.
2007-04-25 08:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this girl needs a good friend in person.. and yes it sounds like she's desperate for a loving relationship.. i can relate to her somewhat.. none of my close friends live close to me.. and so i tend to write them extremely long emails.. but that's partly too b/c i have a personality that loves to write..
do you guys live close enough that you could meet?
if you don't want to meet with her.. or you don't like the super long emails.. just tell her.. if you explain it all out to her.. she may get mad at you & never speak to you again.. or she may understand and back off.. the other option would be to find yourself a girl and randomly mention that you have a g/f.. :)
good luck!
2007-04-25 08:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to panic, could've jus been a long time since she felt such a connection. May not be desperation, could jus be happiness. Meet with her in person, this will help.
2007-04-25 09:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by EarthTone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is crazy for talking lie that when you havent even met. How old is she. Doesn't seem to bright. I met someone off a chat line that i talked to for 4 months and when we met it was nothing like what i thought it was turned out to be a real loser.
2007-04-25 08:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her out and meet her in-person. Decide for yourself if you'll like the relationship to develop to the next level.
2007-04-25 08:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa dude this is going to fast and you need her to slow it down first and take it easy and meet this girl and see what she realy like in person and talk to her and get to know what she wants out of this relationship and she where you two want in life cuz it seems she want to tie you up already and you need to be sure thats what you want two cuz once you commit you have to live with it. trust me i know from experience i was once in love and met this girl and thought she was great but she dident turn out to be the person i was talking to she was differnt whene i met her in person and you need to be careful and take your time about this. i hope this helps and god bless
2007-04-25 10:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by rgsiguana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion this girls is crazy! i would never poor my heart out or my deepest thoughts over the Internet who knows who i would be talking to.no offense! if i were you i would go meet her but keep my guard up you never know what this one could bring to the table.
2007-04-25 08:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋