my man stares at other women and it kills me. He used to constantly stare at them and i confrunted him about it and told him that it upsets me when he does that and so he stopped, but now and again he looks at other girls and it hurts my feelings and if tell him about it he denies it and says am paranoid, i dont know about you but i feel small when hes looking elsewhere cos i make an effort to look good for him and i keep up with fasion, make up and hair, he omliments me but still looks at some other blondie or a girl who practically wears nothing. i can accept there are pretty girls out there and i can accept that my man will look at them but id like him not to stare, what should i do about it? or shouldnt i bother? am confident within myself and if i looked at another man it doesnt bother him (althou sometimes i wish it does). he says at the end of the day he comes home to me and he wouldnt run off with someone else, please help, do all men jus stare? how do i solve this?
2007-04-25 01:04:56 · 31 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to have to tell you this but you are only hurting yourself. When i was younger i used to look where my husband was looking just to see what he was looking at if there were any females around i used to get so jealous and told him off. I have taught myself not to do that as it only made me unhappy, just like you. There are so many lovely , beautiful woman, young girls out there it is going to kill you in the end with stress. Your man is with you and is just looking, you are putting your relationship in jeapardy by being overly jealous and no man likes that just like you would not enjoy it if he did the same to you. You can and will get over it in time , work at it, don't watch him every second of the day and eventually it will come naturally. He will love and appreciate you more for not having a go at him all the time and things will improve. He loves you and you must learn to trust him, remember a relationship is all about trust. I wish you well and just try it ok.:)))
2007-04-25 01:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is going to be difficult to answer because your perception of what's happening compared to his, and the opinion of an unbiased outsider could all be completely different.
Let's face it, all men look at pretty girls in the same way that girls will look at a good looking guy and your never going to stop that.
The problem lies somewhere between him doing it too much and you being too sensitive, there is obviously an overlap so you need to talk to him again and go in more stronger this time, he might try and be a little more discrete instead of blatantly staring.
The fact you have already had this conversation and it's not made him think about hurting your feelings is big worry, it's all about respect and consideration.
Another course could be to do the same for a while and see what reaction you get from him when guys catch you looking and throw you a smile.
What's good for the Goose............
2007-04-25 01:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you aware that a man's most active sexual organs are eyes & brain? Usually a man is attracted by a girl's appearance: cute face, blonde hair, blue eyes, exotic skin colour, nice boobs, sexy bottoms, etc.
Are you aware also that for a man, there is no 'most beautiful girl', but there always be a 'more beautiful girl'? Naturally, a man is always curious about 'another girl there'. It means, even if you are a Miss Universe winner, it doesn't mean your man will not look to another girl. It doesn't mean you are not beautiful, but a man's mind will naturally once in a while look to 'another direction', even to a less pretty girl. It's just like hunting: it's not only about the end result, but more than that, it's about the process. It happens so naturally, so even if a man want to control this habit, it will be a struggle for him.
But some men do this too much and too obviously, which may offend their partners. If you are not comfortable with his manner, talk to him assertively (but not aggressively). If he continues and you aare fed up with his attitude, just discuss further step. The main issue is whether you both can get along with each other's habits and attitude.
2007-04-25 01:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by r083r70v1ch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men stare because we can. Its like women window shopping. We are thinking about every part of the woman and how good it would be to have some of that. We are pigs and you know it. Just live with it. Women stare too, just more subtle. These are the facts of life. When a really nice car drives by people look and stare because they want one but all we can do is look...Its called the shiny ball syndrome.
2007-04-25 01:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by michael g 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes all us guys stare at women some are sneaky and don't get caught others are like your guy and blatantly obvious and get caught out, but don't fret over it because its just looking .
I know the analogy is weak but have you ever seen a guy looking at a fancy sports car he will go right up to it look in the windows check out under it and stare at it ,were as a girl will stand back and admire it for its color and looks . well that's just it guys are more visually stimulated . were as a woman would be more interested in what the car cost what kind of person would drive it and were was it from . so as beautiful as you are he would still look at an elderly woman showing more cleavage or leg . we are after all just men .
2007-04-25 01:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in their nature to look, young and old they are all the same, some just more blatant then others. If your partners a real perv,and its really affecting your relationship- then get rid of him. You dont need the feeling of second best, he will undermine your self-confidence.How you feel about yourself is how men will treat you. A good self-esteem level will attract men that don't find woman a threat, and you will have more of an intellectual and physical relationship. Who really wants to be with someone who's really lusting elsewhere anyway.!!!!
2007-04-25 01:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by GLENNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at this this way. Okay his staring at the other girls who gives a krap. Who is he with when he stares at them? YOU!
You are the one he is interested in. A lot of men look at women just because there hot i do it and i can probably say that 85% of men do it too. So dont worry you are the one who he is with most of the time. Those girls have nothing on you. Just keep keeping youself taking an effort to be as hot as them. Mabye wear shorter skirt or something.
Good Luck
2007-04-25 01:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's nothing but innocent fun for men to stare at women either naked or not, now you might have to be careful just in case he might go after another girl but I'm sure he's only staring.
It depends how much confidence you have for the relationship. You don't have to keep looking good for your man all the time but seriously it's nothing to worry about really, you never know he might be ok with you staring at other men.
2007-04-25 01:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kal-el 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just about every man does it, get over it! Its totally natural thing to do. Just because he looks at other women does not mean he does not want to be with you...
If you cant deal with this you will probably never find a man you can be with... possibly a blind man!
Be happy that he only looks, theres nothing wrong with it.
2007-04-25 01:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by mrbatfink 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's just admiring, not sizing the women up for a future relationship. Unless you SERIOUSLY suspect he's having a fling with someone else, behind your back, you probably ARE paranoid and need to stop fretting about your man taking a peek at other women.
2007-04-25 01:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋