Do you regret that decision?
Or, if anyone has anything to add - please do.
2007-04-24 23:30:59 · 8 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't have children, but that doesn't mean that I don't want children someday... it's just that I've decided to make myself a career before anything. And I didn't feel ready for it... I don't know, it just didn't feel right... Though I am not against having children when the moment will come...
2007-04-25 00:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do I regret not having children of my own? That is a question I've been asked quite a few times,especially now that I am a widow. It's hard to answer because :who is it to say that I did'nt? Are these "stepkids" imaginary? If they are I sure put alot of effort into raising them. I became an instant mom of a 6 & 3 year old when I was'nt quite 21. We had full custody,so I'd say I had children,and I have no regrets about that. I can honestly say I never wanted to have a baby of my own. I have four way older sisters and a brother who kind of turned me off to having babies when I got stuck babysitting little "Demon Babies" as a youngster. I swore then I'd never have one. I was always told I'd change my mind when I grew up or my husband would talk me into it. My retort was ,"if he wants kids he'll have them himself".It's kind of ironic that that's how it worked out. I did'nt have to experience the difficult baby phase and got to jump in at the perfect ages.We are very close,and I think I love them more for who they are than I would have if I would have "had them myself". I can look at my son and see his Dad in him so I feel like Cliff lives on in him. I don't need my DNA floating around in this presious gift to see that. Some day I'll have Geandkids and part of Cliff and I will be in that legacy too. That is why I can honestly say I have no regrets.
2007-04-25 06:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by donelle g. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No children, no regrets.
When I was younger I think I kinda figured I would, just because you did, but I never really felt a keen desire to have a child. The older I got the more I realised I was only just able to take care of myself, let alone a tiny person who was utterly dependent on me. It wouldn't be fair to the kid, and it wouldn't be fair to me either. Fortunately by the time we met, my husband had also come to a similar decision, so it's never been a problem between us.
I don't feel selfish, I don't feel like I'm letting anyone down, I feel perfectly at peace with my decision. Anyway, I always promised myself if I did have kids I would do so before I reached the age my mother was when she had me. I past that cut-off a couple of years ago without even really noticing.
I don't generally do regrets anyway, I've got enough things drawing on my energy without that kind of pointless fretting!
2007-04-25 01:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any children due to my medical probems and my husband's medical problems. Also, I don't want to put myself through all the fertility pains if I was able to have children. However, I have 5 nieces and nephews, and a few "adopted" nieces and nephews (friends of theirs, friends of ours), and that helps take the pain of no children away. I try to be involved in their lives as much as possible (send cards, packages, call, take places, etc). But I can't regret what I don't know. I can only guess.
At this time we also have ferrets and dogs, so they are basically my "children". I have to care for them, feed them, clean up after them, take to doctor, etc. I know it isn't like raising a child, but to get the unconditional love from them is rewarding.
2007-04-25 05:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Weezilmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think about it sometimes especially when I'm around my young neices and nephews. They are from 1-3 yrs old and so much fun to be around and to watch how they learn. I just know that I wouldn't be able to take care of them the way they should be cared for. My physical disabilities don't allow me to run or get down on the floor and play like a Dad should do with his kids. Also living on disability is hard enough in itself, it wouldn't have been fair to bring a child into this struggle. My wife and I have both come to terms with it and we are a very involved Aunt and Uncle. We have dogs and we treat them like our kids!
2007-04-25 00:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have kids and I'll remind those of you who don't....
When/if you start to regret your choice remember this...
1. If you want to take off on a spur of the moment vacation- you don't have to worry about school.
2. No daycare expenses.
3. No teen drama.
4. No 2 a.m. feedings.
5. No babysitters
I love my kids, but want to remind everyone that it's not all sweet babies and giggles.
2007-04-25 00:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i don't have children and my dream is to have one but i have to wait for the right time...but in some cases i have to get over this for example if i married a man whom i really love and he had problems with fertility than I'll never dump him for this and I'll never regret not having children
2007-04-24 23:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by eve 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regret another word for disrespect, for our own choices.
2007-04-24 23:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋