I like going to big churches, as I don't like getting involved. I like to stay on the fringes. I'd like to meet a christian man and I wonder if the fact that I don't mix socially within my church is preventing me from meeting one. When I tell my friend that I feel my lack of socialising within the church may prevent me from meeting Mr Right, she'll say, "Why should you change your personality? If someone likes you in your church, they'll come up and speak to you. You don't have to join their social activities". I was just wondering what your opinions are, please?
2007-04-24 23:29:06 · 24 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can empathise with you as I am not a great one for purely social gatherings.
Have you considered taking up any activities associated with the Church? Being an Atheist, I am not well informed about Church activities but away from a purely social situation, you would probably get a more realistic impression of any gentlemen in your company.
Other than the occasional dinner party, I never socialise but have formed relationships with ladies that I have met through work or competitive activities.
Good luck finding the right chap.
2007-04-25 21:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to get involved in the church?? I think to be honest that is more the critical question rather than when will I met Mr Right.. Church is high on Gods agenda and is about a lot more than social activities etc. Realise you are a shy person (I am too) but if you over come that there is a whole new world of fellowship, ministry and service out there for you. This is meant to encourage not condemn by the way!
2007-04-25 01:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Seashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can understand your feelings to an extent. Going to a large church just to stay inside your comfort zone bothers me a little. I would hope that no matter how large the church is, you would go because it teaches correct gospel principles. Staying on the fringes I guess is OK. There are many people who stand out among the crowd to profess their undying belief and devotion, but in the end their true motive was to be seen of men...they have their reward. Also, don't change your personality just to attract Mr. Right. You want them to accept the person that you are. It's easier to live a truth than it is to live a lie. Acting like someone you are not is in essence living a lie. Please don't take that to sound harsh. If I was attracted to someone and then later found them to be a different person to the one I was first attracted to, then that would not be very fair. It's a two way street too. The man has to be who he really is around you and you both have to be accepting of each other...accepting the good with the bad,the faults with the attributes. Nobody is perfect, but there is somebody for you and you for somebody. Hang in there.
2007-04-24 23:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by garo g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very few prople know, much less, reveal their true selves. Make no mistake, I have never met you, but I can see this isn't the real you. the real you is covered up and canfined in the sweet and innocent 'fortress' people see now. You have been protected by this so far, but if you submit to Jesus and the Word of God, in obedience, you will begin to see just how bold and outgoing you really are, The fact that you 'avoid' interaciton concerning ministry shows the devil is trying to keep a 'powerhouse' under raps (been there, done that). He knows you are a potential destroyer of his kingdom and wil do anything or anyone to avoid you finding this out. You say you are a christian, then don't take my word for it, ask the Holy Spirit in prayer. Then you'll know he's trying to get your attention now. This is between you and God, so the fewer negative conotations coming your way the better; meaning - the less people you tell before or after you know, the better. Go for it. What have you got to lose besides a false exterior that has you imprisoned. You've had thoughts along this line before, so-oo-o-o-oo-o let's have at it, OK!? You'll be glad you did.
2007-04-25 05:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by AVON I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that u go to Church is good...dont let ppl pull u down n make u feel bad about it...look i m not a christain but honestly i think one should go to ones church, temple,mosque..no harm in that, but when u go there u must keep in mind why u r going there...the perfect man ,when the time is right will come out of the blue infront of u..church or no church..and heck even if he comes from the same church...no harm in that..
2007-04-25 00:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by reasonz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joining social activities will introduce you to more people, a lot quicker than just staying in the background, however, if God has it planned for you to meet someone in your church then you could be hiding in the bathroom and "Mr. Right" will still find you. God is just that amazing!
2007-04-24 23:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could miss out on the man of your dreams because he may also be shy, you can join groups within your church without becoming a main contributer to what goes on. You dont have to change your personality to do this, just push yourself a little and get outside of your comfort zone..it really isnt too scary.....promise!
2007-04-24 23:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can answer that as such: I go to a big church and I also dont hang around unnecessarily. There are hardly any men in my church I find attractive and those that are, are married!
However, the Lord knows that I will never again start a relationship with a man who is not in MY church, because my church is quite different to most others.
I reckon that nothing is impossible for God, so if He wants me to have a partner, He will arrange it without my help.
Hope that helps!
Be blessed and trust Him with all your heart.
2007-04-24 23:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by ccc4jesus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you just have to keep being yourself. The right guy will come and I know lots of guys like the shy type of girls. You meet them from everywhere but when you go to those social activities just because to find a guy then better not because you won't be passionate in it.
2007-04-24 23:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by <Xariel the Stray> 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What;s church got to do with meeting people!!!!!????Well I thing that you re confused.DO YOU KNOW WHAT IS REALLY CHURCH?I AM SURE YOU DON'T.
Church is everyone that believe in our Father.
Church is like the human body ' all parts of it symbolise us!!And the head is our Jesus Christ.
CHURCH IS NOT A PLACE!!!!
I am so sorry that you think that you will meet your future boyfriend in church.get socialised DEAR.You must go out in the world.OPEN YOUR MIND.
2007-04-24 23:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by felina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋