I need help...?

Question

My mood is dropping again. My thoughts are starting to scare me and I know I can't deal with it on my own. I have trust issues and issues speaking about how I feel.

I've tried counsellors and they were useless. I'm putting to much on my best friend. I don't want to be on medication [I hate knowing that I'm feeling 'happy' because of a drug]

Where can I go?

I don't want to bring my issues to school [and see the school counsellor]. School is where I escape my problems. I don't want that to be another place I feel sad.

Thank you for your help.

I'm not religious so don't even bother!

Answer 1

Oh boy, do I know exactly what you are talking about. Clear down to the medicine beliefs that you have. I felt the exact same way, for about 10 yrs and wouldn't give in to the medication, I finally am on it now and please believe I don't even notice it, its nothing like I thought except for the fact that I enjoy my life for the first time in years. Denying anti depressant medication is part of the disease of depression, but if you think about it, if you have the disease of cancer, you would take the medicine what the difference. The meds do not "make you High", the are aimed at your body chemistry, which is off and it's not your fault. Good Luck

Answer 2

Wabby it seems you have a choice.You can let meds bring your life back into control or you can let depression take over your life.When you recognize your thoughts are scaring you don't ignore it.It may be a sign that you are in a downward spiral.I know many posters on a prior question tried to tell you just focus on the happy thoughts. If you have been diagnosed with clinical depression you cannot just wish it away.I would go to your family doctor and ask for a referral to a different councellor.You could call a hotline for help, you will remain annonymous and get the support you need..I think soft music and calm areas such as a country setting may provide a temporary respite from your problems.I am concerned the tone of your questions are getting more negative.I really would feel better if you would talk to someone.Your earlier questions would talk about your future plans and you sounded so optimistic.I'm concerned about you and I'm a complete stranger,too far away to give you an encouraging hug.Please talk to someone. Take care.

Answer 3

There are several ways to treat depression naturally.First of all you need to start a exercise program, get more sleep, and make sure that you spend enough time out side in the sun shine. There is a direct link with people not getting enough sunshine and depression. You will also need to get outside and breathe, if you live in the city, this is called a gray zone, and if at all possible you should get out into the country at least three to four times a week to walk and breathe, there are high concentrations of negative ions that are not present in the city , our bodies need these to keep a happy healthy life style. They actually make machines that produce this type of air.Bionic Products of America 1-800-634-4667 is probably one of the best ones. If you can't get the natural sunshine you should think about getting a box light. They help in fighting against depression. The Sun Box Company 1-800-545-9667,also your diet is a very vital part of this. Eat a diet that is more fruits and vegetables and stay away from grains and sweets. Try to maintain a calorie ration of 30% Protein, 30% Fat, 40% Carbohydrates. Keep your meals under 500 Calories and eat small meals more often this will keep your insulin levels lower than large meals. Stay away from red meat or egg yolks, you can eat them no more than once a week, because these foods contain a chemical precursor to a brain chemical that is associated with depression. I hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 4

That is a tall order. What can any of us say that a counselor
can not? If all else has failed then I would recommend
church. There is a lot of comfort in faith and that faith and
comfort in itself is a form of healing. I was told my wife was
brain dead and they wanted to harvest body parts. I prayed
for miracles and expected them. That was over 6 years ago
and my miracle is reading a book. I can't tell you which
church to try. Along with church you might try visiting a
nursing home. Visiting the old people there really lifts there
spirits. They would love to hear about you and the wisdom
they would be glad to share with you could be life saving.
I commend your stand on drugs. I'm not so sure they should
be completely ruled out. When you pick a church, find one
that is well established. Read the first three books in the
new testament. Talk to some one. Be brave and put it out
there to an older person. Anyone that likes you.
Best wishes for the best of good luck.

Answer 5

Nobody has the right answer for this problem. We could sit here and give you "this is how to do it" all day long and never get it just right. Nobody knows what is going on inside you, no matter what they themselves have been through.

That having been stated, here's my 2 cents worth:

What needs to happen here is you have to make a commitment.
To what you ask? To whatever. Make a commitment to talk to a doctor. Make a commitment to read books about others that have gone through similar. Commit to seeking help online if that's your best bet. Whatever it is, commit to seeking the answers, and do not lose sight of your goal.

When faced with this situation, realize one thing - the only person that can help you get help is you. There are a lot of places that can give you the help you need, but you have to be the one to go after it.

Honestly, I wish you the best. I've been through some very dark times in my life, and the only one that could ever get me out of them was me. I had help, but not until I wanted it.

Answer 6

Honey, I've been where you are. I tried everything because I didn't want to be on ant-depressants for the same reason as you. I was at the stage where I thought I would NEVER feel "normal" again...I finally went to a good doctor and told him everything, it's all about saving yourself! If you're serious about wanting to get out of the state you're in, find a good doc and be totally honest about how you are feeling. Best thing I ever done!!

Answer 7

If you need someone to talk to then you can always IM me on yahoo messenger. Just click my avatar and contact me through e-mail or IM. I have trust issues also, so I know exactly how you feel and what you're going through. I'm here to help if you just need someone to listen or advice. Take care!

Answer 8

take up a hobby, really i am being serious, u need to occupy youself with something challenging and also fun. i wish you the best sweetie, cause i know what it is like to feel that way.

e mail me anytime

Answer 9

The best help you can get is from your relation with God through prayer!
Pray, my dear, pray with all your heart, pray with tears and remember:GOD LOVES YOU! God loves us all and He cares for us...read about a short prayer here:
http://www.svots.edu/Faculty/Albert-Rossi/Articles/Saying-the-Jesus-Prayer.html