On this special invitation, my fiancee made with lots of our wedding pictures, and telling our stories. To her it is weird to have parents names in there. ( I don't see why it is weird, but my friend said it's girls thing, they want whatever they want picky on this and that for their wedding)
The thing is my dad host the banquet, so he wanted his name to be on there, not showing any sign that he'll back up.
My fiancee said she rather have the banquet pay by her, and not to have the names on the invitation. ( I can see how bad she doesn't want parents names on there)
What should I do? I'm in the middle. Really need all your helps.
Q2. Anyone here send 2 different wording invitations to corresponding guests? Can this solve the problem? My dad will have his own to give his friends?
2007-04-24 20:09:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need to be there on fiancee side...If she agrees to the two invites fine. You dad should not demand you to do anything to pay for something, that is blackmail....You do not have to put the parents names on invite, it would be nice if she agreed to, its more to honor the parents, but you have have to live with her afterwards...
2007-04-24 20:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I think that the key here is to figure out what you and your fiance want to do and why. It should be a mutual agreement between you two because it's your wedding - and if you both agree that your parents should not be on the invitation, then I'd say to leave them off.
However, if you leave them off of the invitation against their wishes, you should not accept money from them. If they are paying for the reception then they are technically the hosts of the party, and should have their names on the invite.
But it sounds like your fiancee is ready to pay for the banquet and if so, this is probably a really big deal to her. My advice is, if you and she can afford it - just pay for the banquet yourselves so that she can have her invitations the way she wants them. Good luck!
2007-04-25 05:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's just the friggin' invitation! Most people throw those things out anyways.
Your fianceeeeee is being crazy, but so is your dad. I think not having the names is sort of strange, but I think really caring about it like your fianceeee does is even stranger. I think it's an insult not to put your parents names there because it's a way of honouring your mom and dad. Your fianceeee is a disrespectful princess who by the sounds of it, hates her parents and isn't too fond of yours either.
Tell your fianceeeee that she is being crazy and it's not going to make a difference whether or not the names are there except in your bank account if your dad won't pay for the banquet if his name isn't there. Then refuse to let her have what she wants just because she wants it. I would also tell her that causing unnecessary drama is only going to make you resent her and your wedding even if it's not true because she'll at least get the point.
2007-04-24 20:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well since your parents are paying for the reception, their names should be on the invitations. Names of the person paying for the wedding should go on the invites.
However, since your in the middle, I say do two invitations. This way both parties will be happy and you will not have much conflict.
Remind your fiance`, you will be marrying into each other's families, so you do not want to have conflict for the rest of your marriage for something that happens for a day.
HTH!
2007-04-24 20:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just received a wedding invitation that read:
Jane Smith and John Doe
along with their parents
cordially invite you...etc, etc. etc
It was a fairly informal invitation and the Wedding Couple was paying for the wedding but wanted to honor their parents.
Generally, if the Bride;s parents are paying for the wedding and reception their name goes on the invitation as the hosts. Worded this way
Mr. & Mrs. John Doe
are pleased to invite...etc, etc. etc
2007-04-24 20:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by SouthernDiva1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as question one goes, remember, darlin', it's YOUR wedding. If your bride-to-be is willing to pay for the banquet in order to get the invitations she wants for the wedding, you should let her. And you're right. That does tell you how strongly she feels about it.
As far as question two is concerned, I think this is a good compromise. In the interest of keeping the peace, though, I don't think I would tell your father that you're having 2 different invitations.
Congratulations, hon, and do the right thing.
Sandy
2007-04-24 20:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow I don't understand why she's making a big deal over such an inconsequential issue. The day after the wedding, no one is going to care whose names were on the invitations.
2007-04-24 20:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is so rude. It is as much a day for the parents as it is for the couple getting married. If they are helping pay they should be on there. I see no reason why it shouldn't be.
I would tell her to go stick the invite up her A*^S if I was your parents.
2007-04-25 01:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by jenifajen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In not common family circumstances like this, i think of utilising "including their families..." is the final wording. no one is ignored and it sounds very sparkling and modern-day. lots of the time, i don't examine the names of the mummy and father on the marriage invite. I examine that it is the marriage of John Smith and Sue Jones, it on Saturday October 27 at 3pm on the Olde city Church. With a reception to persist with at 4:30pm on the flowery Shancy motel.
2016-10-30 06:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by jerrold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee is one of two things.. a mega-Bridezilla or a woman with serious family problems... to have that much rage against her parents I suspect there must be some abuse there!
I hope you know which one you have ... but if she is this horrendously obnoxiously stubborn are you sure you really want to marry her? It doesn't take a crystal ball to see family problems ahead.. and probably a lifetime of bullying too.
Good luck to you.. you're going to need it!
2007-04-24 21:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by endorable 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you there's know reason for her to be a spoiled *****. (I say that in the kindest way). She should meet you halfway, it is your wedding day too. And if she doesnt honor your parents' wishes, then if I were your father I'd give her the green light to go ahead and pay for banquet her damn self.
2007-04-24 21:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by triciasdish 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋