like say you want to take things slow but you really want to have sex, should you wait, or should you do it because both of you want to, or you love the person? Like what is the point for waiting? your going to eventually do it anyway, right? Like is it for the suspense or for the anticipation? Why should you wait? If the time is right shouldn't you just do it and do it again, and again? why do they say doing it too early in the relationship will damage it?
2007-04-24 18:28:18 · 27 answers · asked by Simorah Serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but what if you already dated the person before, and you are starting a new relationship with them again, should you wait and have sex, or should you just do it? I mean, its not like you havent had them already you know?
2007-04-24 18:33:24 · update #1
ok guys, but i knew this guy for years he was my boyfriend at one point, but we lost contact now he finds me 6 years later....and we are trying to start another relationship again, bascially picking up where we left off, but i love sex and so does he....but we are trying to start over but we both want to have sex....so why should we wait? its not like i just met him..i knew the guy for 6 years!!!! he was my boyfriend at one point...shessh..you guys make me sound like a whore..lol
2007-04-24 18:40:24 · update #2
Only takes a couple of minutes.
2007-04-24 18:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to the concept of marriage?
To follow your logic you might as well jump off a bridge and get death over with too because "your going to eventually do it anyway, right?"
Why can't anybody wait and make the first time something precious and beautiful between a young bride and groom. I know that sounds old school but sometimes the old ways are the best, yes?
"If the time is right?" So what makes premarital sex "right"? When did that change? I never got the memo!
2007-04-25 01:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex plays a physical role as well as a psycological role. You don't have to wait if you don't want to but it is recomended. Here are a few reasons.
1) On the physical aspect, STD (sexually transmitted diseases). The longer you know a person then the more likely they are to tell you if they have any stds.
2) In case of pregnancy, are you sure this is the person you want to raise a child with. In case of abortion, are you sure you can follow through with an abortion and live with it? Different people respond different to this question. Where do you stand on this one? Also, can you afford raisin a kid?
3) Is it just about sex or is it about sharing? If all you two care about is the sex then sure go for it. But what if either of you want more. If you want more than plain sex then you must know where the person stands. You don't want to be the person who wants more than just sex but be stuck with just an ****** who only cares about their personal satisfaction.
Sex is a very powerful thing. It can be very pleasurable. It can be very conforting to your psycology. It can also destroy you, finantialy, health wise or emotional wise. So, is a thing that you should sit down and think about before acting. Think of the positives and negatives and think wether you can handle the negatives. Then act.
2007-04-25 01:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess advantages of waiting might be that you have less of a chance of sleeping with someone who only wanted you for sex, then leaves you shortly thereafter, and you end up feeling used and regretting it. If you wait, it gives you more of a chance to be sure the person is really sincere and is who they seem to be.
Another thing is that I guess if you know each other better, you might feel more comfortable with one another, which might make the sex better.
Some people seem to think that if you're a woman you should make the guy wait because otherwise he'll lose interest, but I think "hard to get" is a stupid game to play, personally.
Edited to say,
"well then, I don't know what you're waiting for."
2007-04-25 01:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that depends
are you bangin just to get your kicks or would you like a solid relationship with the person?
if you're just bangin cuz you're horny, so be it. no names, no strings attached. quote from "Hitch" - get in get off get out.
relationship - it should be the culmination of a romance that builds from knowing her name, then moving on to bigger things. in a relationship, you don't do it for the sake of doing it, you do it as an expression of the love (not lust) you have for the person, that you want to share absolutely everything you have with her, that there are no barriers between you.
doin' it too early in the relationship damages it cuz most ppl, women more than men, feel connected to the one they have sex with. if sex is too early and they find out after that they can't stand the other person, then they may feel trapped in a relationship they want to get out from but can't.
2007-04-25 01:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by AW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously its all about the couple if its a mutual decision.
but why it is said that its best to wait is because of the emotion that comes with sex, its bigger than most couples realizes.
Couples that had sex too soon in their relationships wish that they waited a bit longer: why, because they feel they have lost that cuddling phase, that lovey-dovey stage &jumped right into the very intamite core without enjoying the whole element of loving, liking each other.
thats why couples wait, but how long is entirely up to them
2007-04-25 01:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
One night stands are nice and so is getting down with someone you have just meat.
The only risk factors you need to judge are as fallows:
1) does the person have an STI (also known as STD)?
2) Is this person stable enof not to think i'm going to get married to them tomorrow.
3) Is the person not going to rip your organs out once you fall a sleep and sell them to the black market.
In other words Wear a Condom and try to avoid a crazy one.
2007-04-25 01:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by master_g76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my current boyfriend, I knew there was something REALLY special about him, and held out on sex for a few weeks before I really knew him so that it would be special. That was 2 years ago, and now we're getting married.
2007-04-25 01:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer_lwt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea to have sex with someone you just met. I'd say wait for two days to get to know the person. Then hop in bed and rub pee pees.
2007-04-25 01:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mister Bald 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "Fatina M," I can't tell for certain from your name if you're male or female... but I am confident you're probably close to exploding in a messy cloud of hormonal funk. Your so-called question was almost painful to read. If you perform in bed the same way you write (badly, that is), then heaven help your unfortunate partner.
2007-04-25 01:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rocket Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. you don't REALLy have to know someone to have sex.. hell you can walk in a bar drunk and any guy would have sex on the spot... the thing is... girls usually get emotionally attatched to their first.. its the first person that matters.. that will always stick in your head.... that memory.. Do it when it feels right... Don't do it out of "love" or as a "gift" to some guy.. do it when you think its right... and also.... girls who sleep with a lot of men are thought of as sluts.... a lot of guys love sluts.. but many guys don't want to marry one... Doing it early in a realtionship won't necessarily damage it... just make sure you aren't doing it to keep him with you.. and do what feels right..
2007-04-25 01:33:33 · answer #11 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋