My best friend is currently going on with my ex-classmate . I went for a class reunion last month and saw him there , we chatted and i found out that he has HIV . Happends that he doesnt know that i know his girlfriend . How do i tell her , on top of that i got no evidence . but i'm very worried for her .
2007-04-24 17:42:18 · 13 answers · asked by BABY GURL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until they break up before you tell her. Give him a chance to be honest.
Then say, "I got good news and bad news."
"Bad news is you got HIV. Good news is I don't."
Hope that helps.
2007-05-02 16:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I know you don't want to hurt your friend by telling her, but you will be hurting her more if you don't tell her.
You should invite her over for dinner and tell her you need to talk to her, and then after dinner sit down and talk with her.
Tell her you talked to her boyfriend at the class ruenion and say that he didn't know that you knew they were going out. The tell her he told you that he was HIV positive.
If she didn't know that he was HIV positive she needs to get tested right away.
The most important thing for you to do is be there for her. She may need a shoulder to cry on, or she may just need a friend to be there for her.
I hope everything goes well. Please either post on what happens or e-mail me.~*
2007-04-27 02:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um tell your friend. You should be more loyal to her than to him and she has the right to know. Let her decide if the relationship is worth the risk. OMG if i found this and my friend didnt tell me whoa! You should just come right and say well i went to my reunion and seen (his name) and well he told me that he has HIV. I just thought you had the right to know that. I'm not sure its true but i think you should ask him about it. Honest is the best practice. No matter how hard the truth may be to take she will appreciated it at some point. Oh and dont forget to tell her to get tested!
2007-05-02 15:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by januarygirl78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her by blurting it out. Just say something like, "I didn't know that ____ had HIV. He just told me at the reunion. How do you handle a situation like that?"
Let her take the conversation from there. She may already know, but does not want everyone else knowing. Don't be tempted to pass that info around. It would be very unkind to do so.
2007-04-24 17:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell your friend ASAP, as a concerned friend.
if her bf (the guy with HIV) is responsible, he would have told his gf already. and if the gf is smart, she would have known already. moreover, if they are serious and responsible people, they wouldn't mind getting tested to give assurance to each other. there shouldn't be any secrets between lovers.
as far as her getting offended that you know, the fact is that you already know, whether you tell or not, so you might as well do her a favor and let her know. if she wants to be upset about it, then fine--you've done your part, and you can live with yourself.
2007-05-02 13:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Swtluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out he has HIV? Need to get evidence, like actually seeing a medical report, then you can proceed to tell her. Be careful not to spread rumors..
2007-05-02 17:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just what you know, that there's a rumor that he has HIV. If she asks how you know, then be as direct with her as you can. Then, simply warn her to be careful. That way, you've done your part as a good friend.
2007-05-02 09:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIV is not a death sentence.
I would let her know that he was very open with you about his condition.
Chance are, if he was open with you, he probably has told her.
Either way, If he had this conversation with you and it was not "in confidence", you have a right to relay this information to your friend.
2007-05-02 16:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Christina911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky...
Your friend needs to know. Maybe talk to him and let him know that you know his girlfriend and urge him to talk to her. Let him know that if he doesn't tell her, that you will. If he loves her, then he will tell her. If he doesn't tell her, you need too.
When a person has something that a bf/gf could get and could cause death, they need to be up front with that person.
Please talk to him.
Good Luck.
2007-05-02 17:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by quinlangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pluck up enough courage and let your girlfriend know of his medical condition. Let her know how you found out. Be there to support her emotionally.
2007-04-24 17:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋