Until recently, I lived with two others (lets call them A nd B). A couple of weeks ago antother flatmate moved in (lets call her C).
I get on really well with B and consider her a good friend. I'm alsop keen to get to know C since I moved here from overseas and I've found it hard to meet new people, and she seems pretty nice to me.
However, B has really taken a dislike to C and is being quite oopenly rude to her for no reason, apart from "She's too friendly, it rubs me up the wrong way." I mean, obviously C is trying to be friendly, she only just moved in, it would be stupid to be UNfriendly, yeah??
I feel quite disappointed in B and want to tell her to lay off C, but dont want to stir up any more conflict.
Help!!
A hasnt noticed any of this is going on!!
2007-04-24 17:23:58 · 7 answers · asked by lilredhead 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
help the stranger. Because, who else does she have for an ally?
2007-04-24 20:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can only give it a bit of time - it's only been two weeks and maybe things will calm down. Maybe B has been a centre of attention for a while? It sounds to me like C is probably similar in personality to B, though I may be wrong.
If it is really upsetting the harmony then maybe it can't wait, and you should speak to B. As it seems you and B are pretty close, I would ask again but try approaching it in another way. Maybe B doesn't realise that her behaviour is upsetting C (IS it upsetting C?), so you could perhaps mention to B that this is the case.
Otherwise you could maybe ask B if she really doesn't want C there. If she says no, it's fine, then explain to her that if C is going to be there anyway, it might as well be harmonious.
2007-04-25 00:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lineya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell B to suck it up and act like a grown up. If you all have to live together why on earth would you go out of your way to be rude to a roomate? B and C don't have to be friends, but they do have to be civil to each other. Otherwise EVERYONE is going to be miserable. (Be slightly more diplomatic than me when you point this out to B). And tell C to treat B like a feral cat. You put your hand out, but you let the cat come to you. Maybe it will, maybe it won't (it's a fallacy that you actually have to be friends with your roomate. Nice if you are, but it doesn't always work like that).
Leave A blissfully unaware of this unless it becomes necessary to involve her (if things devolve to the point of a house meeting for instance).
2007-04-25 02:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
inform A. Let him/her handle it. If not talk to B. If him/her starts something tell them to lay off and be a better person.
2007-04-25 00:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by Freq, Grandparent of Y!A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
involve A & both of you have a chat with B. do not confront, just talk. if it gets hot, drop it for a while & then try & reason again.
patience & pursuation will do the job.
2007-04-25 00:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by sarang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get everyone together for a talk and see if it can't be worked out.
2007-04-25 04:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it be they will settle it or they wont and one of them will leave
2007-04-25 01:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋