Allright, I feel really stupid asking for help online. Kinda like an introverted mole-man or something. Anyway, there is this girl in my school that was in a class with me last year. Toward the end of the year, she started making subtle inuendos, and eventually even talked to me, if only a little. She is incredibly beautiful, and I am pretty average looking, so this really surprised me. BUT ALL IS NOT WELL. I haven't said a word to her in almost a year, and I am not sure she even remembers me. I see her in the hallways every day, but she either doesn't notice me or ignores me, even when I try to make eye contact. I got one smile about a week ago, after she noticed me, but she kept walking without saying a word. I'm smart and funny, and I think I can pull off a pretty decent relationship if she gives me the chance, but I'm not sure if I have a chance. Is anyone familiar with this kind of behavior? What should I do? I must know for sure before I ask her out, because I only have 1 chance.
2007-04-24 17:20:31 · 13 answers · asked by I prefer to remain anonymous. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, the only reason I havn't been talking to her is because I hadn't seen her until recently, when I figured out she walks by my class every day at the beginning of lunch. She is also 1-1/2 to 2 years older than me, which probably is a major problem...I don't know. She is in a different graduating class than me, so I doubt she will ever be in one of my classes again, except maybe spanish next year (in a school of 3500, chances are slim).
2007-04-24 17:30:46 · update #1
Also, just so everyone knows, I think that I am fully adequate, I'm just wondering how apparent it is to other people. Its all on the inside, not available at first glance, and thats my major problem. I feel having more on the outside would help break the ice, but if she can get past that I'll do fine.
2007-04-24 17:36:33 · update #2
You may be able to pull off this relationship, but it was definitely not good of you to not talk to her for a year. A lot of girls are really nice, and she could be just being friendly. After all, I'm sure a lot of guys smile at her too, and some of them are probably ones that she sees more often than you. If you want to go for it, spend more time gradually talking to her more often. You want to become much more close before you ask her out.
2007-04-24 17:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no such thing as anyone human being being "out" of another's league... All men were created equal and are just that, equal, in the eyes of God... He's only interested in the heart of the person... not in anything you can see witht he eye... so change your idea on that... which is just that... an idea in your mind... the best policy is honesty... and by being honest and open with her, you will know the truth about how she feels... It could be as simple as asking her to lunch with you next Friday or asking her if she'd join you for this great movie on this or that night... She'd probably be glad to accept such an innocent and sweet invitation... Be a man! You're no less than any other (except in your mind! if you say so!) Change your mind and love and respect yourself. Then you're much better equipped to love and respect someone else... that's all anyone can ask of you!!! Take care! And be cool of heart!
2007-04-24 17:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start talking to her right now! It could be about anything. Start with:" Hi, what's your name ? My name is ****?" and give her a compliment like: "You have the cutest smile in the school" and live it at that until you see her again another day...We like that (girls)...That way, you've soften her. So the next time you see her, you have already broken the ice, you could take from there...How was your class today? Who's you math teacher?...Would you like to have lunch sometimes? All these questions should be ask over time, you know, one at a time...You'll be surprised! She probably does not think that you waaaay out of her league...So go get her!
2007-04-24 17:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by sillygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just strike up a conversation with her and see how it goes. If all is going well, then ask her to a dinner and a movie. All she can say is no, but if you don't ask you will never know. She probably does not think she is out of your league and may just be waiting for you to make the first move. As a girl, I prefer for the guy to ask me out and I know at times a persons looks can be intimidating to a guy, so just do it. She will probably say sure.
2007-04-24 17:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude the truth is your 1 chance has long been gone. It's been a year already since u know her and if u haven't made any types of move at all than her impression of you is...well not so good for u. Move on, try again, u'll find another one just as hot and go for it immediately, DO NOT go into it thinking she's out of ur league. It is not looks that attract females, it is personality.
2007-04-24 17:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by jarel_chico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing just saying she is out of your league isn't good
women like confident men.Don't wait for a smile walk up to her and ask if she remembers you. Do not back off and don't take no for an answer.Ask her at lease three times before you give up. If she doesn't want to go out with you at least you made contact and now you can talk to her when you see her.
2007-04-24 17:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out of your way to make her notice but dont come on strong. If shes as beautiful as you say she is she is used to guys being clingy and falling all over her. And also if you have the mindset that she is out of your league, then she is.... be confident but not cocky, insecurity is a bad thing that every guy deals with especially with hot chicks
2007-04-24 17:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by M-A- Double T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look aight okay ahum yea alright ya aha okay lets go
well basically just go up to her and talk to her,BUT first compliment her if you want to get to her because
as soon as you show to her your a friend type than u might end up in the friends zone so go for it
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2007-04-24 17:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by JohnTitor500 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole concept of her "being out of your league" is warped. These thoughts stem from feelings of inadequacy within yourself. When I met my man, I thought that very thing, that he was too good for me. It took me ages to realise that he was genuine and wasn't trying to play me.
If you like this girl, throw caution to the wind and ask her out, the worst she can say is no.
2007-04-24 17:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't ask you'll never know for sure if she likes you. Give yourself a chance.
2007-04-24 17:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋