Am I Bi???

Question

I have never really felt anything for women before and I REALLY love guys...but over the course of a year I find myself really liking this one woman....she's about 10 years older than me(I'm 27). She's married, but lately I've seen she doesn't wear her wedding ring. Also, she is always making eye contact with me and tries to talk to me. I don't know what it is about her....am I turning bi or is this just....i don't even know???

Answer 1

It's a possibility. A lot of people don't find out their true sexual orientation until later in life. If it is, it's nothing to be worried or ashamed about. However, if you reallyd love guys and this is the first woman you've felt attracted to, perhaps you just think she is a really great person. You might want to try getting her as a friend as opposed to a girlfriend, etc.

Answer 2

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No seriously, you may not be bi even if you are attracted to the person. Maybe there is a quality in that person that attracts you. It could be many things like the way they express themselves. Their self confidense and yes, even their looks. It is actually normal to experience this. It may not happen often though because we may not get easily impress by your average joe. The question you should be asking is whether you are sexually attracted to this person. If so, how far are you willing to go? I would say that you are laying in your bed and you start thinking about this person and all of the sudden one of your hands start sliping down to the forbidden zone then there might be a chance that you might be bi. Then again, it may be a passing thing or just a fantasy.

Answer 3

Attraction, interest and friendship, and even love of the same sex, does not mean you are gay or bi. It is sexual attraction that does.
If you feel a real affection for this lady and are not "turned on" by her then you just have friendship. That isn't to say that it doesn't mean as much as if you were attracted to her, just that it is different.
The problem with this sex obsessed society of ours is that we have to question every relationship in sexual terms. If you enjoy her company, and she yours, just see where it goes for the two of you. Who knows it may be nothing, or it could be a friendship that lasts for years.
Just take it as it comes and relax.

Answer 4

there aint nuthin wrong bein bi....actually, everybodys a lil bi. statistically, theres a scale (i forgot the name), but from like 1-10, 1 bein str8, and 10 bein gay....well a lotta people fell on the 5, but most people (gay) fell between 6 and 9, and str8s between 2 n 4...something like that....but its ok to fool around with the same sx...whatever yo body wants, give it to it...if u wanna gurl, go for it. let ur body be free from a specific label, and venture outta the box. its gonna take a while to let that philosophy sink in...but u gonna figure it all, dont worry. hang in there, ur doin fine;-)

Answer 5

Could be but she is married so I wouldn't suggest making any move on her. Alot of people have this happen, I don't know if it makes you Bi but I really don't think it matters who we Love.Hope this helps a little.

Answer 6

From having thought about this myself I've personaly come to the conclusion that there is no reason to have to peg yourself bi or focus on finding a label to fit you. If you feel like developing a relationship with this woman then go ahead but it sounds like there are other issues such as her marriage (and any of your current relationships with men) which you should consider ahead of everything else.

Answer 7

No I can't really say to what degree you think of this woman intimately but it may be a healthy obsession maybe she has some qualities or materials which you wish to possess, maybe you find her friendship very comforting etc.?

Answer 8

i dont think you are bi i just think that you are attracted to her. Dont label yourself as bi because you have feelings about her. Be yourself and if you want to make a move. but dont worry about oh my, am i bi because it really doesnt matter you are yourself dont worry about silly labels..GOOD LUCK whatever you choose

Answer 9

u just intrigued with her, there is something in her that u like. it doesn't necessarily make u bi, just attracted to that element about her.

its ok to go ahead &speak to her, u'll figure out what it is soon enough.

Answer 10

maybe its just friend liking. there's nothing wrong with a girl saying,"i love you" to a friend. maybe she wants to be friends with you (unless she's a molester! then you should be worried). if you dream/think about stuff like kissing her, then you're bi....