what would u do if ur mother is forcing u to go to ur grand mothers house?

Question

my mother is forcing me to go to my grand mothers house
but i dont like to go to my gd house
wat to do i get bored there
my gd always netts a swetter
and i get bored

Answer 1

Maybe you should try talking to her. She knows things about your family that will be lost when she dies. Like things about her parents and grandparents. I bet she has some good stories to tell about them that you might want to pass on to your own grandchildren some day. These stories will be lost when she dies if no one listens. You could be the family historian and write a book about your family.

Answer 2

so take something with you to do. I mean be social, polite and hang out. When you get too bored pick up a book or a magazine or maybe find something you and your grandmother actually have in common. i know from experience once you get a grandmother talking, she can tell you so much about your parents and other family members, things that will have your laughing your butt off. and if you show some interest in what she could teach you, you will always have an ally. Knitting might not be the thing, but I'm sure there is something she could teach you, and you would enjoy it.

Answer 3

What reason are you being sent there?
If the only reason you dont want to go is cause you become bored there then go anyways. Only you can change that. Join granny in nitting nett sweaters. Have her show you. I am sure she would like that. Begin conversation with her. Get to know her before she is gone. Make the best of that time together. Let her know you. Enjoy life.

Answer 4

Well, for starters, your mother would not force you to go to your grandmother's house if you were doing something really worthwhile at home.

It could be that your mother has fears that you could get into some kind of trouble. Your lifestyle, friends, some habits, language, dress ... something could have triggered her fears.

Your mother probably also thinks that you need to to be trained in some customs, traditions, culture ... which she has been unable to teach you.

She probably wants you out of the way so that she can have some peace, privacy and lots of sex with your dad.

Or she could be feeling guilty for not spending too much time with your grandmother and hence is using you to get rid of her guilt.

She could also be trying to score some social points...

Whatever her reasons may be, I don't think that you have tried to have a reasonable discussion with your mother. Correct me if I'm wrong but it seems that you have just reacted to your mother's desire and she must have put her foot down ... end of story.

I suggest the following;

1. Ask your mother the REAL reasons for sending you there.

2. Try to understand her and also see honestly whether you can find your own value in spending time at your grandmother's.

3. Find out if you can take a friend (same sex) along

4. Take charge of your life. Take sufficient money from your mother so that you can take your grandmother out for dinner, movies, outings ... whatever you might fancy. Try to find the fun side of your grandmother. Remember, everybody wants ....

5. Grandmothers are not relics from the past. They are our connection to our traditions, customs and culture. They are a great source of unconditional love. They can be great friends ... and very, very honest and candid in conversation.

6. Lastly, for dessert I would like to tell you "Don't wait for your grandmother to die and then wish you had one".

More power to you

Answer 5

take a book with you...

I know, I know, that's boring. Write letters and notes to your friends? Flip through magazines? Go for a walk? Sleep the whole time...that's what some might choose.

Take a diary and write long angry notes about how you'll never do this to your kids someday, and while you're at it, make a long list of other things you'll do better as a parent. Then keep it with you and see if your ideas seem as good twenty years from now...

Hang in there and good luck!

Answer 6

I think you should just bite the bullet and go. Your grand mother isn't going to be around forever. If you need something to do you can just talk on the phone or get on the computer or something as long as you spend a little time with your grandmother, both your parents and your grandma with be happy.

Answer 7

The love and affection which a grand parent has towards a grand child is unique and cherishable. Please do not think of your feelings alone. Think of the joy which you are likely to bring in her life as well. The sweet memories of your old grand mother will certainly come back to you in the future. Try to understand her feelings and be kind to her. This way you may bring happiness to your mother also.

Answer 8

I always loved going to my grandmother's home, but as I got older I forgot the fact that she wasn't always going to be there and didn't go as much because I thought my social life was more important. Well, my grandmother passed away and I really hadn't visited her like I used to, which made me feel extremely guilty.

If your grandmother was mean to you then I could understand but the boredom attitude is just that....an attitude. It wouldn't hurt for you to go and make an attempt to enjoy your grandmother while you still can. Don't just sit around and watch her knit sweaters, initiate something that both you and your grandmother could enjoy.

Answer 9

Maybe your grandmother wish your mother would not bring you over so much.lol No I think you just need to find a few interesting things to take with you to your grandmas house, like a game or some puzzles or just something to keep you occupied like you were at home.

Answer 10

Sorry. I'm not going to let you off the hook. Talk to your grandmother. Ask her questions like an interview. Ask her about when your mother was bad when she was little or the first time your grandmother drove a car. it doesn't really matter what you talk about but someday you'll be glad you took the time to know her.