Need help with a girl situation?

Question

I went to the same middle school with some girl, and a while ago she came up to me and was like hey i you went to the same junior high as me! So we talked a bit and had agood time. Ever since we've always said hi in the halls. Even when shes walking and talking with one of her friends she always smiles and says hi.

A while ago i tried to step things up and i would be like hey we should totally go for lunch or something like that and shed always be like yeah for sure but nothing ever ended up happening. eventually asked her to go to some school event on a weekend and she said she couldn't because her cousin was in town. we still say hi just like we used to but im a bit embarassed now and i don't know what to do from here. it seems like im the only one that wants to take things further, and i dont know how to lead in. any ideas?? by the way she is a year younger than me.

Answer 1

Wow, this is interesting. She is really sending you mixed signals.

The best way I see for you to handle this is tell her that face to face. I think she just hasn't made up her mind about you yet.

Just tell her, "I'm getting all these mixed signals from you, and don't know what to do next. So, please, help me out here. I really like you and want to know if you like me."

That is the best advise I can give you.

Answer 2

I know it seems very discouraging for you right now..When you spoke up and said lets have lunch sometime...and nothing ended up happening...(did u actually ask..her the next day ? saying do u want to go for lunch tomorrow?) and when u asked her to go to some school even on the weekend..and she said her cousin was there visiting....did you ever stop to think that , she would have liked to say Yes* but she had company.?? Don't give up* If she goes on the computer..you can ask her on messenger..talk more, get to know her more, her likes, dislikes etc....or actually ASK her to go for lunch and tell her where you will go (if you're at school is there a pizza place close by or sub place you can take her to for lunch?) and this time set a day and time. You two can get to know each other more..Just Ask her out again* Keep on Smlin*
BestWIshes*

Answer 3

well, try to pick a time and a place whereyou can catch her. Strike up another conversation. Get to know her as a friend. For who she is. For what she likes. Show respect and class. Get her a gift. A small but casual one. Something that she likes on a special occassion. Ask her again if she'd like to go out again with you sometime. But do it casually. You don't want to be too over anxious or show her that you are anxious. Sometimes it just takes being friends for a while if the put off was there in the beginning. She may need time to get used to you. Some girls are like this. They are outward and friendly. But for someone who wants to go steady, they don't jump the gun. I hope this helps.

And if you get a rejection after maybe two or three tries, this is why I said don't be too anxious. Being her friend is what counts afterward. Friendships last.

There was a guy who always liked me and I never gave any interest. He'd always come up to me and talk to me and ask me questions about what I was doing and have a conversation in what I was interested in or what he was interested in. And he always brought me/us something to eat/drink. He was never too forward. When I got too busy, he let me know he was going to do something else. After a while, I figured that he was very nice. But it took long. After getting to know me, he'd always give me a hug and kiss. ....I guess it depends on how she is, both of your situations and how well you both are able to connect during a conversation. Be yourself. Don't even try to change or become another 'someone' in order to impress her.

Answer 4

Just ask around and to her friends if you can and find out what she enjoys doing. Nothing that is too embarassing either. Say she enjoys going to a movie.....that is pretty simple. Now, all you have to do is ask her. Best way is to ask her for her phone number and tell her you'll call her sometime. "Sometime" will make her wonder if you WILL call. When you do talk for sometime, and maybe the 3-4 call you can ask her to a movie. This way it is less embarrassing to talk in person--in case she is shy. She will be more open to you over a telephone. Try it!
Do not worry about her age.

Answer 5

Maybe she assumed, since you had brought up the idea of going to lunch, that you would also come to her with a time and day that you would like to go. If you didn't do that she could have assumed that if you meant it you would have acted upon it.

And hey, maybe she really couldn't hang out that one time you did actually set something up, rather than just suggest it, and she really couldn't make it.

Maybe you could go up to her and say, "hey this weekend a really good movie is playing at ___ time. Would you like to go?" If she still puts going out off on a date with you, then maybe she isn't interested like you are.

Answer 6

I don't know if there is more to the story, but from the information you've given, it sounds like she's not interested. I used the whole "my cousin is visiting" line on a few guys. If you ask me, you could keep saying hi, but you should just move on. You seem like a nice person, so it shouldn't be that difficult.

Answer 7

Ask her if her cousin is still in town or can she go to lunch yet.If she doesn't or cant for someother reason. tell her to let you know when shes free it puts the ball in her court If she never throws it back throw her a bone and move on to someone available just be nice. thats about all u can do

Answer 8

hey, well maybe you shouold build up some courage and ask her out.. Tell her that you like being friends with her, but you are wondering if maybe shed like to go out on a date. You never know, maybe she feels the same way, but shes too shy to say something!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

get her hotmail or IM address and have a chat online-just ask her for it when your having one of her chats. but if u really think she doesnt want to pursue it leave it alone-she may not feel reasy to have a bf yet or thinks of u as just a friend but anyway theres plenty more fish in the sea so goodluck :)