will bf's online "viewing habits" change with marriage?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time. We have a great relationship except this porn viewing problem. He has lied to me over and over about it to the point where I dont trust him with it. I am so used to being lied to and upset when I found out he was looking at it again...but now its happend so many times, I am just numb to it. It still hurts me but isnt that important as it was, just the fact he lies over and over. Well, like I said despite that, I love him and we are talking about marriage. Do you think if (once) we get married, will this viewing of it stop because I will be there 24/7 or not? I already give him anything plus more when it comes to sex, ive never denied anything to him. I have heard of husbands sneaking to look at it, just wondering if being married and having a family would change that. Im not sure it would, but I dont know..Thank you

Answer 1

Fact is because the nature of the relationship changes so drastically with marriage that sex always becomes an issue. Stress, espacially kid related stress, is the best cold shower. But this specks of deeper issues, people don't just lie about one thing. Also with is ability to lie to you getting easier and easier, he well lose his respect for you. You have to understand that guys can satisfy themselves with one women. That is if we can change our sense of pride to allow that. This is not easy and is a matter of maturity to get to that point. Social pressures do a lot to cause this problem in males more then females, but it does happen. But using sex as a way to treat ego/pride/self-issues is a sigh of sexual dysfunction, and I don't mean he can't proform ether its not about that. Its about his ability to be satisfied with the proformance, which isn't your fault. Its him and his perception of what you and him do thats making him dissatisfied. Sorry I don't need porn in any shape and its not because my ladies a freck ether, she's quite modest. The fact is thou I can satisfy myself with the experience.... until you work thru this with him, I wouldn't sujest marriage at all. Just take a look around the Y! Answers and you'll see how marriage usually increases his tendency to be this way, not end it. You have to understand to that marriage was only a good thing when sex was kept in it. Now since sex is no longer done soley withing the institution you can't hope for it to fix anything! Marriage has to be a product of a meaningful relationship, not a save....