I think my parents are controlling my life too much I don't like it what should I say?

Question

They say that I should get of the computer and do my home work and my dad does say someing about god gave me gifts and I should not wast them what should I do

Answer 1

I understand your frusteration. I think that EVERY teenager feels this way at times when dealing with their parents. While it is tough to understand now, you need to trust your parents. They honestly do want whats best for you ,and while you think you know whats best for you, you really dont know yet. You simply don't have enough life experience to know what is better for you yet.
Everyone has to go through this stage before becoming an adult. Some of us listen to our parents, dont screw up , do well in school, stay away from drugs, dont have sex, maybe even go to a nice college, and get a good job. Some of us rebel, and choose to fight with our parents for our entire teenage years, and ALL of us who rebel regret it when we are adults. We all wish we would have listened to our well meaning parents. Of course we dont realize this until we have kids of our own.
The bottom line is your parents are going to be strict b/c they are being good parents. Their job is NOT to be your friend, (you have plenty of friends), but to be parents to you. Whether you like it or not, they are going to set limits on you, and expect you to follow them, and punish you if you disobey. You can choose to spend your teen years mad and angry, and resentful towards them,and make life difficult for everyone in the household, or you can let them be your parents, and just do as they say, and enjoy being a kid and being taken care of for a few more years
Sooner then you think you will be an adult, and you will long for when you did not have so many worries. In other words, you cant change your situation, you can only change how you react to it.

Answer 2

You should listen to your parents. They want to make sure that you do your home work first before doing other things. They are trying to teach you to be more responsible by setting a limit to how much time you should spend on the computer.

Remember, you live under their rules of the home. Yes, God does give people gifts, but not a gift to spend a lot of time on the computer. He gave you a gift to use your 'time' wisely and doing the most important things first.

Answer 3

u didn't say how old u r but is sounds like ur under 18.and i don't think they're controlling ur life,they are just simply doing their parts as parents and that to direct u in the right path.telling u to get off the computer and do ur homework,that is not controlling.but if u were 18 and over,then u need to move out a live ur life the way u want it.right now ur still under their roof,they r only trying to do whats best for u.

Answer 4

They are just trying to help you out and you should appreciate that because some people don't have parents to tell them what to do and kids really need parents to grow up with because, parents are a part of who you are. I always say that they are controlling my life too much and I still do that's why I ask them to let me to try to figure somethings out on my own. That helps alot. Sit down with them during dinnner and tell them that you feel like they need to give you a little more responsibility and if they say no than just show them that you can handle it. All parents want their kids to grow up to have a good life and maybe even better than what they could do for you. Parents always believe that their kids have a good gife, mine was massaging people and they want me to go to collage and get good grades so that I can start my own practice and have a better family.

Answer 5

All children think that their parents control their lives too much. They are only trying to look out for you, to make sure that you are successful in life. I think you should thank your parents for loving you enough to tell you to get off the computer and do your homework.

Answer 6

I think that if you have homework you should get off the computer until its done.I know this is so hard for the younger people to believe, but parents don't tell their children to do things that will hurt them, it's against the parental code of ethics. Do your homework first. And please, whatever else you do, don't waste your God-given gifts.

Answer 7

They are correct.
All kids think their parent's control their life too much. They are too immature to think otherwise.

Be thankful you have parent's that care about you enough to risk you getting mad at them. They are standing up for what they believe is right and in your best interest. So many parents just say whatever they think their kids want to hear so their kids will think of them as their friend. Kids don't need anymore friends.... they need good parent's who risk their kids getting mad at them for standing up for what's in their best interest.
The other kids will suffer in the long run. They may seem like they are living on easy street now but by the time they realize they aren't it will be too late.

Answer 8

well as people all know that parents are just trying to do the right thing. I mean think about it is wasting your time on the computer that will do harm things in your eyes bad?? Well I think so. I know you dont want them to boss you around and all but thats what parents are for. Soon when you grow up hopefully you will be doing your job to right???

Answer 9

Do all your homework, then go on the computer. If they keep on making you do things you don't want to just do them anyway even if you hate it. Eventually you'll get used to it and/or they will stop making you do it because they'll see you've been a good kid.

Answer 10

You probably won't like my answer but, if your writing is any indication, I agree that you should definitely do your homework. It may not be fun, but it's important to do well in school if you want to do well in life. You'll always have time for the computer, after your homework is done.