Ok, so there's a girl I love. We dated for 4 months but I broke up with her. We vowed to remain friends. Well I was trippin for a good 2 months and we stopped communicating. Then one day we talked & all our true feelings for each other came out.Technically we're just friends right now, but deep inside she and I both feel like we're still together. I have my moments when I can "trip" and keep to myself, but she's ALWAYS there. She puts up with alot. More than she deserves. Im selfish and hard-headed & until now, refused to see it. She's never turned her back on me, and that means alot. She's cried soo many times over me, and when she tells me, I feel stupid because she's never done anything wrong to me. I love this girl soo much and I want to marry her one day. How can I prove to her im going to do right by her from now on? Ive never cheated, but my attitude and selfish ways are what's hurting her. My selfishness might cost me the realest most beautiful female to ever walk into my life.
2007-04-24 15:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quit trippin around, get your head on straight and start thinking about more than just yourself. Farting around with your attitude will only get you what you don't want.
If you are going to be a "unit" one day, then a selfish demeanor will get you nowhere with anything worth having or lasting.
Think about what she would like, not what you want. Try to please someone other than yourself. Put her first for a change. You will be surprised by the results and you will have a shot at a good relationship instead of a lop-sided one with you large and in charge. Let her make some choices and get over yourself.
If you can remain open to her ideas, suggestions, and methods of solving problems then you have a chance at success. Otherwise, just move along and find someone who is as selfish as you are and be happy with what you don't have.
Get straight, be genuine, be sweet about it. You can ride a long time on honest open hearted giving. Therein may lie your success.
2007-04-24 15:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by mim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 22:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 05:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me...before it was too late.
You gotta change - SHOW her that. Find out what it is that puts her off and change it at all costs, and let her SEE the effort - but don't act like it's a display.
THAT is what you have to do. And don't let her get away. Get back together, before she finds someone else to cry on.
2007-04-24 15:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being selfish, and listen to what she has to say. Do things like take her out to eat, movies, bowling. Show her that you care about her, and want her in your life. If she calls and leaves a message return the call... It shows that you care.
2007-04-24 15:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound really truthfull and i think thats beautiful and ya girl proly will too so tell her the truth. Believe me she'll love to finally understand y u act the way you do thats probaly the thing weighing her mind. Shes proly hurtin rite now cuz she believes shes not worth much to u or ur not giving her your all.We need to know we are loved and appreciated.
2007-04-24 15:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by keema 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. try to change your attitude for the improvement of yourself. if your ready then you can ask her for marriage. if you love a person everything is possible so it is possible that you will change. and try to be thankful to what she had done for you in that way she will know that you appreciate the things she have done. try to have many friends outside in that way you will learn how to adjust your attitude towards others.
2007-04-24 15:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by NOEMIE08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
writing words aint gonna do it . you just have to proove it each and every day . i hope you mean what ya say because it sounds good in theory but words are a dime a dozen . work at it and if you do mean it i hope you win her heart and affections .
2007-04-24 15:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by william w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you wrote and that will do it
2007-04-24 15:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Living_Dead_Beat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋