Is it all my fault???

Question

I met this guy a month ago and I totally fell in love with him....he was the lead in our high school musical and I was a minor lead. He started to hang out with me after talking one day at set construction and then looked up my private phone number on my teachers computer. He called me eleven times a day every hour even after I told him I was grounded-which I was. I started to call him and grew to be in love-supposedly. Then last thursday I went over to his houseand he showed me around. He showed me his room and we started kissing. I really liked him but I still had this gut feeling that it was wrong. I ignored the feeling and ended up naked on the bed with him on top of me suffocating me as he kissed me. He fingered me and it hurt but I didnt say anything until I thought of going to the bathroom. I seriously thought I had 2 go but I bled and bled. I really liked him...did I lose my virginity?? : ( and is this all my fault?....theres more to the story..just email me sometime

Answer 1

Well there was a lot wrong with that experience. For one you don't really know this guy, if you did you would of been comfrontable in that situation. That feeling was your brain trying to tell your heart to slow down you don't know whats going on your just lossing yourself to the moment. Also calling you that many time shows one of two things, you guys are ether really young, or really immature. Be careful, and yes you did loss it.... better that way then what could of happen and what question after that you would of been asking. But this type of stuff goes on in this world all the time don't hurt yourself about it or anything, grow from the experience. And maybe wait tell you actual feel in control of the situation before you let yourself loss control, this could of turned out worse had he been a worse charater... but its obvious from your guys lack of communication that it was beyond both of you to understand what was going on... the part that was your fault is that you let this bone head lead you into physical intimacy.... find someone better or expect more suffocationing and bad feels......