My father continuously hits me because I am gay, What should I do?

Question

Call the cops?
After school yesterday I went to my grandma's house in Nyc. I live in Jersey. I am at home. He called repeatedly threating me today. Saying he is gonna f*** me up when he gets home. Its 8:42 now.. should I leave before he gets here. He gets home around 11:00. My mom really isn't helping this situation and my father is unstoppable. He claims she needs him. And she told him not to let me destroy them... Please time is running out... What should I do???

No.. I go to school in jersey. I tried that last night he just came and got me... I want to call the cops but the guilt trip my mom is gonna put on me is riduclous... i am 16 and i have one place to go but my dad took all of my money and i have no way of getting there... omg... i am so scared.. i mean why is he beating me b/c i am into girls... so what?? i am a straight a student... my report card came today and i am just so confused.. i am not a bad child.. i really am not. ever so confused!!!!

Answer 1

Do NOT just leave. If you walk out the door without asking the proper authorities for help you will be labeled a runaway and any thing you say after you are picked up will be looked upon as a cover story to excuse your actions. Call the police or the emergency number for child services right now and ask to be removed from the home. Your mother doesn't deserve any pity from you, you are the child and it is her responsibility to protect you from harm. Since she is unwilling to do this you must do it yourself. But please do it the right way and don't hit the streets. Your future is on the line and if it won't be a good one if you are living the life of a runaway.

Call these numbers for help:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline [phone])
Child Abuse and Maltreatment Hotline [phone].
Crime Victims Hotline [phone]

Answer 2

Defenitely call the cops. Don't the emergency number, just call the non-emergency number, usually in the phone book, and simply ask the officer for assistance with your issue. Most of the time they will send someone over to take your report or they may ask you to call social services about the issue. Abuse is bad, no matter who it comes from or for whatever reason they have. You shouldn't have to be abused because you made a choice in your life that makes you happy. So, protect yourself by calling and atleast let people you trust know, so they can back you up if anything does go down. If it's too late then go ahead and dial 911. Have your phone ready. Try not to make the situation worse by yelling back. I feel your worry, so do whatever it takes to eliminate the threat. Take Care and good luck.

Answer 3

Listen, sweetie, you cant let this happen. Afather beating his child is not right, and especially for this reason. Call the cops! If your mother gets mad, well then she just didnt uderstand how much he was hurting you. and maybe, you can call the police and you can move to your aunts or grandmas house, any relative, and your parents can stay together. You cant let your father do this, if this goes on, you will be scared for life, you might even not be able to face him when your older and when he wants to settle things out. One thing, dont runaway, and dont lie to him.

Answer 4

don't call the cops. go to school and ask to speak the the child protection officer, or if there isn't one talk to the teacher you trust most, tell them whats going on, this way you won't be telling the police, so you aviod the guilt trip and being put in danger if he finds out. the school will phone the police, and if neccesary they should arrange for you to stay somwhere else. this path is garunteed to work as school have to sort stuff like this out, its the law. good luck to you xxx

Answer 5

Caling the police is a decision for you to think about - seems like you have already given it some thought.

I would guess this might upset your mother BUT on the basis that having her sulk for a while is perhaps not as bad as being beaten up, I would be inclined to agree with your thoughts.

It might be time to get him arrested for assault. Do you have friends / other family who could support you / help you if your mother becomes tetchy for a while ?

Mark

Answer 6

Report it. It is abuse. Would you tolerate this from a stranger? It is even more heinous because your father is someone you should be able to trust to protect you, not hurt you.
You are in danger. If you lived closer my husband and I would give you a safe place to stay. Get out after reporting it and find a safe place to stay...a friend's house, a safe house, ask your school guidance counselor for help.

Answer 7

LEAVE! Call the cops, child abuse is against the law. If he calls you on your cell phone to threaten you find a way to record the coversation, I know my phone can do it. You have to get out of there. He probably thinks that you won't give him any grandchildren so he is pissed off or something like that. Hope things turn out better for you.

Answer 8

Just tell him you're not gay anymore, that you've been cured. Lie, to give yourself time to grow up, and move out on you own. Just make sure you keep your girl-friends in on the story, and you'll be fine. Just stop being so open...keep it to yourself. Don't try to fight him..because you "have the right" to be gay. Yeah, you do, but if you live at home, then you must fit in. You might as well get used to that, since in grown-up life, you will have to fit in, or get left behind.

Answer 9

the right thing to do is to get out. Find a safe place. Call the cops and get a restraining order. Your mother is to weak to take care of you, and your father is being a monster. Your parents are adults and can take care of themselves. You need to take care of yourself. Leave now.

Answer 10

Call the cops and leave! You or no one else should have to go through that because they are different. Find help.