A friend of mine has been helping me move. He didn't want to take money or anything, but I wanted to give something to show my appreciation. He was talking about preordering the new Harry Potter book, so I went and got it for him. I let him know that I had taken care of it (so he wouldn't do it as well). My problem is, I think he is under the impression that I just preordered it for him, but he will still be responsible to pay. I am in fact taking care of the money for it. I think it would be kind of rude to order something and make someone pay for it. Anyway, should I just let it go for now and then when it comes in he will know I paid, or should I say something? I think it seems kind of tacky to randomly say later that I am paying for it, but I also don't want him to think I'm rudely ordering things for him to pay for. Any input? Thanks.
2007-04-24 13:09:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well, assuming he knows you have preordered it for him, why not just wait until it arrives? If he then mentions about the money say something like "don't be silly, it was my pleasure after all the help you gave me".
In the meantime, if he says something which indicates he thinks you have ordered it for him with the intention of getting him to pay, you can take the opportunity then to clear up that it is a gift from you.
2007-04-24 13:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Morag G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well probably he is thinking that he has to pay for it, or he just the type of person who believes in paying debts at all times. Nonetheless, if he is a good friend of yours, you should let him know that it is a gift. The key is not to be forceful about it. If he insists to pay for it to the point that it gets serious then you should let him pay. However before it reaches this stage you should express to him how appreciative you are of him being such a good an selfless friend and you were just looking for a meaningful way to express your appreciation. He should really feel the sentiments and gladly accept the gift. If he doesn't, probably you should let it go, its all in him and external of you.
2007-04-24 20:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Wendi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind him later to pick up the book as it is already paid for. What a sweet thing for you to do.
2007-04-24 20:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait til it comes in, get the book and deliver it to him personally.
2007-04-24 22:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by *Smiley* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you paid for it.
2007-04-25 04:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. He'll figure it out, and then hopefully give you the proper thanks :)
2007-04-24 20:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋