Would you ever take back a ex that hit you?

Question

He hit me on 2 different times..we have been seperated for a 1 month.. I still love him and he still calls me every day begging for me back..

we went out for 2 years

Answer 1

I was married to a man that hit me. I had two children for me. I left him for 9 months. I went back to him and believe me the honeymoon stage didnt last to long. It got alot worst. I got charges against him. Assault causing bodily harm but that wasnt the worst of it. The damage done outside does not compare to the damage done to me and my children on the inside. So please stay as far away as you can because he will abuse again. You feeling guilty is part of being controlled by this person.

Answer 2

As far as I'm concerned, the first time a guy hits me is also the last. I know you still love him, but if you go back to him, you could be hurt worse the next time he hits you. Stay as far away from him as possible. Get a restraining order against him too. Do everything you can to make sure he can't get near you or contact you.

Answer 3

Let me tell you something from prior experience. If he hit you once he will hit you again and again and again... It will never stop. I have been through a horribly abusive relationship and right now he is probably begging you to come back saying he will never do that again and he feels so bad.. blah blah blah, it is all a bunch of bullshit!!! Do you want to be that woman telling everyone she ran into the corner of the door and that is how she got that black eye? That is who you will be if you continue to date this man if not worse. You could end up dead!!!

Answer 4

when a girl keeps going back it teaches him that when he gets mad and hits her the 3rd time, that he will just have to beg a little harder than before.Now lets say it was YOUR daughter asking your question, what would you tell her?Im hoping it wouldnt be"oh, im sure he's really sorry ,give him another chance!"Teach this guy a PERMANENT lesson and dont give him the time of day,hang up every time he calls get a restraining order if you have to,before it's too late.Otherwise it'll be the same thing over and over with this guy until death do you part.If I was your dad, I'd be pounding the little punk.

Answer 5

Sweetie,How can you possibly guarantee he isnt going to do it again?Next time you might not be so lucky as to get away and survive it.Love holds no boundaries,and your heart wont stop just because he hit you or hurt you.You will eventually get over him,but it will take time.Dont go back to him and risk losing your life because he realised how much of a mistake he made.He realised that mistake too late.He should have realised it before he chose to put his hands on you.He doesnt deserve you.You deserve someone who is going to love you,take care of you,and treat you as you deserve to be treated,and DEFINATELY not beat on you.You are not a punching bag,you are human being who deserves to be treated as such.I suggest this to most who go through breakups and have been in that position before so therefore i am going to suggest this to you also.Go out and do something you always wanted to do but never got the chance to do.This will give you the fulfillment you are looking for.You will be doing this yourself and it will open your eyes to the realisation that you do not need a relationship to get that "rush".Love yourself first,before you choose to love another.Dont go back to him,because he will do it again.Good luck hun,and have a good night!

Answer 6

Sure I would - I did it a lot of times. I loved him too. I wanted to feeling back, his kind words, our special moments, and that darn feeling - the one that I thought it was.

When I left... the two different times he hit me... turned into being thrown down the stairs, dragged half way out of a moving car, beat in ribs and thrown into the wall and furniture for almost 40 minutes straight until 2 MEN pulled him off of me - it took them almost 2 minutes to get him off.

He loved me before he hit me, while he hit me, and afterward. That was what was so confusing to me. I knew he meant it when he said he loved me. So why did he hit? I worked on the relationship, blamed myself, tried different things, in the end, I was always cussed at, called a ***** or hoe in public (never cheated in my life), and let's not forget - HIT.

Congratulations on walking out and being separated. Stop taking his phone calls and walk away cold turkey - close it down hard before you end up in the hospital.

What I learned is that Who Cares IF he loves me, what was more important was HOW he was loving me.

By the way - you don't love him. Love is not a yearning or desire for someone. It is not a memory of the good times when really on a day to day basis there are more bad times.

Love is a feeling of safety, peace, understanding, comfort and tranquility. It is a feeling of absolute trust and NO QUESTIONS. When you are in love you don't have any questions. You don't wonder if...how...what...and you never worry about you.

This isn't love - just a desire to get something you didn't get from your parents...just like I didn't get it from my parents....but I walked away before I was really hurt and let me tell you it was SO hard.

I cried and cried and faught myself daily not to pick up the phone and call. I would keep my stereo right by me to turn it on when the phone rang to make it sound like I didn't care and I was happy and having the time of my life. He would blow up at me - as usual - because I wasn't listening to his game, and I would turn it off and finish crying.

I was strong and in the end found someone that treated me in ways so loving that I couldn't have
EVER imagined. AHHH my life is sooo much better.

Be strong. Hang up the phone - change the number and your friends or family members who know or support him if you have to DWIT - do what ever it takes, but get away.

Answer 7

NO! You deserve better and need to respect yourself enough to "just say no!" I am SURE that it is breaking your heart especially if you still love him but he is NOT going to change and even if he was "better" when you two first got back together, something WILL set him off again one day and you will be back at square one. Just take the heartache NOW and in time it will stop hurting! If you take him back you are only going to cause YOURSELF more pain in the long run! You are just going to be "postponing" the inevitable! Take it from someone who KNOWS!!

Answer 8

no, deffinitly not. you may love him, and love is a very strong thing, but don't put yourself in danger. They want you back, just so they can do it again, ofcourse I'm not sure but a larfe possibility. I'm REALLY trying to not sound offencive here, it's just my sister's friend was in an abusive relationship, she went back and got beat prettty bad, she is a different person and will never be the same. please don't do that to yourself.



DOLL 101 has a VERY good point as well, great advice.

Answer 9

Im a guy and I know if u hit a girl u love then u dont love her if u hit a girl ur not a man ur ****. hun he dont deserve u even if u do love him u dont deserve that no girl dose. so no hun its not worth being hit or beaten because it starts small and grows and grows until he hits u every day so hun dont get with him find urself some one better

Answer 10

Give yourself more time to think it over. If you still love him in a month and he still calls you every day, then decide what to do. Time is a healer. And it will help clear your head.