im 15 and have HUGE family problems. my parents are divorced and i have a step dad. my mom and step dad hate me and definitely dont mind me staying with my dad or whoever can take me, but my Dad lives an hour away and i cant switch schools this late into the semester, plus, i have no intention to ever switch schools. the teachers and friends i have made at the town ive lived in all my life are irreplacable.
i know it sounds like a stupid idea, but is moving in with my best friend an incredibly amount to ask...well, i know it. She lives in an enormous mansion and has 4 sisters, all gone off to college and no longer living there. i dunno why, but it seems as though im shy to ask...she is my best friend, but i kept all of these problems hidden from her...she would understand im sure, but i dunno...
its so much to ask...and her parents. would they be ok with that?! i have no idea!!!
PLEASE HELP!
2007-04-24 12:28:24 · 9 answers · asked by Just Ryan! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her parents would have to be responsible for you so yes it is a lot to ask. But keep in mind living with a friend could cause problems and ruin the friendship also.
You have nothing to lose by asking but be prepared for a no and dont hold it against her as it is not really her decision.
2007-04-24 21:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think asking to move in is a lot. Even though her family seems well off; they may not be ready to take care of someone else's child. It's not like your 20 and capable of providing yourself w/ necessities. I mean, who will pay for your clothing, medical expenses, school supplies, toiletries, etc.
I agree to some extent that friends are replaceable; however, from the way you wrote this is sounds like you've grown up in this town, school system and with these people. I agree with you that switching schools could be traumatic and very sad. Your town and your school is part of your identity and history.
I would suggest getting professional help so that you can develop a better relationship with your mother. Where things always this way? Or just when your step-father came into the picture? Take to a counselor at your school. Explain to her the situation at home and the fact that you don't want to leave behind the only town and school you have ever known.
Try building the relationship with your mother. It will not only help you in your present life, but in your future. At some point in your life, your going to have to confront your mother about your relationship; why not do it now?
2007-04-24 13:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to suck it up and go live with your father. At some point in your life high school will be over, and your friends will go to college, get married and move away.
As rough as it is, you can switch schools, you can make new friends, and you will survive this. The school year is almost over. You've got what..two months? If you can tough it out for two months, then move in with your father over the summer, and start the new school year in a new school.
Your best friend and her parents are not responsible for you. Your parents are. If you can't stand living with your mother and step dad, then your option is your father first, then an aunt or grandparent..or godmother, if you have one.
It's a little much to ask your best friend's parents to raise you.
Sorry, I know it's know what you want to hear.
2007-04-24 12:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not the answer you want to hear but living with your friend might test your friendship and she may move away.Living with your dad sounds like your only option besides you will be relying financially on your real father.You need to stay with your dad until you can finish school.The other option isthough you ask them and say that will you pay board. as your dad lives too far away for you to switch schoools at this late stage.
2007-04-24 12:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but make sure the person doesn't mind don't get to anyones business because your not in your own house and ask your MOM make sure your Mom chip in to buy you food clothes and other things...SMILE allow this to be a temporary stay until the end of the semester then visit your friends on the weekends then build your own backbone you got about three four more years then its all over...
2007-04-24 12:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friends are replaceable, I assure you. High School is not the end all, trust me. You need to suck it up and move in tiwht your Dad. It is not your friend's parents responsibility to care for you. And it is A LOT to ask them. You should be shy to ask because it's a huge deal.
2007-04-24 12:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your best friend why haven't you confided in her about the conditions at your house? Present her with an open statement, like:"I can't stand living with my parents, I wish I could move out but I have no place to go" and see what her response is...It'd be better if she asked you to move in with her rather than you asking her for permission to move in...Lots of luck..
2007-04-24 12:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Barbarita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even tho this is feasible for a guy and lady to be 'basically' friends, this is sparkling in this one that she fancies him rotton and thinks that if he will drop you to fulfill her for a drink then shes in with a gamble. Its no longer straightforward because of the fact he would desire to have been friends together with her a protracted time till now you got here on the scene so which you cant assume him to purely end being friends, yet, she is a good distance out of line doing this and as a pal she would desire to offer him the gap necessary to pursue his courting with you. We dont end being friends with our pals as quickly as we come across our love, even nevertheless, if she became any solid a pal to him then she could supply him area. you're actually not incorrect to ask him to end texting her as lots, yet perhaps you additionally should coax him to tell her to end texting as lots additionally as he has you at present and it form of feels slightly risky (and bunny boiler-ish) on her section. He needs to do some thing, or it will basically bypass on and worsen and sooner or later she would desire to make the leap that would desire to reason each and every form of problems you're able to desire to do with out. I recommend, tell him - if it became any incorrect way around and it became you with a bloke pal that became like her im confident he could hit the roof and insist which you end being friends, or a minimum of, accuse you of cheating with him at each and every probability. So, it works the two approaches. She greater helpful be careful or sooner or later you will finally end up slapping her (and rightly so) yet then it would desire to be you interior the undesirable mild and not her - human beings like it is very manipulating so my suggestion to you would be attempt and not supply her a clip yet then use your girly powers to be as manipulative as her and divulge her for the grimy rat she is :) solid luck Xx
2016-12-16 14:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by bremmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest cant speack, for them, but if you came to us an ask, we open the door,, but i say i want to belive they would too, but here the thing, you said she your best friend,,, now it one thing to be best friend an not live under the same roof, so, , too it going to test your friendship, for sure,
2007-04-24 12:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋