Personality disorder or Mental Problem?

Question

I suffer daily with nervous stomach aches, anxiety, at particularly stressful moments I cramp up and can't seem to control my body movements or what I am saying. I tend to be very sketchy and have a hard time understanding which path I should go on in my life. I have been prescribed medication to "balance me chemically" but I think it could be just my personality or self esteem issues. The worst part is I actually have or should I say "had" big goals planned for myself. But everytime I meet new people or venture out in what I want to do I destroy the vibe somehow and end up in an exhausted puddle. It just doesn't make sense how can I feel so strongly that I am talented except I can't get past all of the anxiety, apprehension and self analysis I exhaust myself with. This problem is effecting every aspect of my life.
Can anyone see something in my words I am blind to ?

Answer 1

I would be suspicious of anxiety, a mental disorder. However, it is possible to have both a personality disorder and mental illness- some different personalities disorders may often have comorbidities.

You should get counseling. There are many different types of therapists and therapies. Two effective therapies for you may be CBT or Cognitive Behavioral therapy and also DBT or dialectic behavior therapy. CBT in an individual setting, DBT is group setting.

Good luck

Answer 2

Everyone suffers this kind of thing in degrees. You didn't state your age, if you are married, if you felt trapped, have children nor your education, whether you hate your job, or what you yourself feel you need to do to make your self more happy, if you are overweight, regard yourself as unattractive... etc...etc., etc., .... lots of that could be playing a part.

Lots of people loose self esteem if when they look in the mirror they don't like what they see.
1. If that be the case, my suggestion is to get it changed... diet, exercise, and if all of it is really bad, some plastic surgery....

2. Don't give up on the antidepressants.... one may work for one person, and not another, and sometimes, one that worked ceases to do so. Go back to your doc... maybe a cocktail of several might be better than one.
3. Exercise --- yeah, I know--- but you'd be surprised what a walk will do, or 30 minutes in the gym every other day... nothing hard core, just gentle stuff. You aren't trying to be a warrior, just get the blood moving.
4. If you have a place, and you are alone, get a dog or cat. Pets are supremely patient.
5. Go back to school -- take a fun class: art, sculpture, or whatever.
Again, what you didn't say is what you HAVE accomplished and what you feel you NEED to accomplish, so I could go on forever, yacking about things that would not apply.

Answer 3

ohhh sweetheart, i had the same problem for a long time. it's so hard to deal with. there's so many things that could go wrong with your body to make you feel that way. I turned out to have an autoimmune disease that affected the part of my brain that controlled my ability to relax, sleep, socialize... I stopped eating wheat (I have gluten intolerance, an autoimmune condition) and got put on paxil, which is the best to fix this sort of thing. I still suffer a little at times, but it has improved. I would look around on the internet for conditions that cause your mental anguish. I'm not saying you should turn into a hypochondriac, i just want you to help yourself, because you are the only one who can, believe it or not. I feel for you.

Answer 4

You don't say how old you are, so it's hard to answer, other than to say, get some therapy or counselling.

You are afraid that you may not be as smart as you think you are and that everyone can see it but you. You need someone who can show you, step by step, that it doesn't matter what other people think. What matters is what you do. Aim higher than being a cringing puddle of angst. Start small and keep taking bigger and bigger steps. You can do it!

Answer 5

It could be that you have a problem opening up and allowing yourself to be close to someone for fear of being hurt. I have a similar problem minus the physical complications. However cramping up is a natural, though not common, reaction to pressure. Rather than a doctor perhaps you should see a therapist some one who specializes in relationships.

Answer 6

well i have a small case of social anxiety myself, and the only way i can get past it is by getting myself into uncomfortable situations, and taking them head on. Just relax, and know that whatever you envision before hand is not the real reality, it is just part of the mest up world that you created yourself. Just take it step by step, and stay calm, have fun with it

Answer 7

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Answer 8

i used to go through the same thing. when my dad committed suicide i felt like i didnt belong and everything i wanted to do in life i felt like i couldnt. i felt dead on the inside. so yeah its just a personality disorder. get into counseling it will help get through your anxiety and self esteem issues. sorry if this doesnt help.

Answer 9

give the meds some time to work.you have to develope some coping skills to overcome the feelings around people and new situations.I have it also.I have been working on it for several years.I am getting better.you will too.Good luck!

Answer 10

I can only say that this sounded the way I have felt many, many times throughout my life.I am sure you are not the only one.I hopes this helps.