How do you encourage a six year old to talk and share things?

Question

I really want an open relationship with my kids. I want them to feel like they can talk to me about anything. I try to engage my son in conversations about his day, friends, etc. He never wants to talk. He responds with things like "I dont' know" "I dont' want to talk right now" etc. I'm not concerned that anything is wrong, I think it's more my approach. How do you engage kids in conversation so they are interested and want to participate? Thanks

My other child is a baby.

Answer 1

I also have 6 year old. When I probe him for info, I rarely get anything. When we're just spending time together (playing a game, going to the park, biking, crafts, playing with his toys), he shares a lot and is not as resistant to opening up. I think the key is just to have some one-on-one time at least once a day, so he knows that you are there and are listening. You obviously care and he'll see that :)

Answer 2

I am assuming that you have other kids (since you said "kids") so what I would do is at dinnertime engage EVERYONE in conversation instead of directing all your questions just to your 6 year old. As everyone else is opening up and sharing things about thier day (including your husband and yourself) eventually your 6 yr old will want to contribute too and pretty soon you wont be able to shut him up!! LOL

Answer 3

Listen.
That means "listen" and not talk about your views of what happened.
I found early on that my sons would shut down a conversation if I began to judge or give advice without being asked.
Try talking with him by not saying anything except things that acknowledge his views, experiences and fears. It is difficult, but it works.

Answer 4

Thats how most kids answer how was your day good . I don't want to talk about ti know maybe later. If you wan't results ask why he dosen't want to talk then keep doing that until he tells you. But when you are trying to encourage an open relationship he'll talk when he wants to

Answer 5

The more questions you ask - the less answers you will get - that`s what kids do. Be casual. Ask how was your day ? Let him answer. Then smile and say no more. He`ll wonder why isn`t she asking.......? Then he will come out with something that happened that day - betcha !!!!

Answer 6

Try going to a fun family activity together so he feels more open to you.

Answer 7

try to get him to help you in the kitchen or something

seems to me that your son has trusting issues with you.

good luck

Answer 8

just let him know you care and want to be there for him, eventually he'll open up or maybe if you give him time... maybe he isnt ready =]