I recently stopped seeing someone, and I would prefer to forget about that person completely. Unfortunately, I think about that person at least once a day. When I'm at work, I'm busy, so I don't have time to think about that person. But when I get home, that person inevitably pops into my mind.
What can I do to forget this person, because this is driving me bananas.
I try to meditate, but I can't get to the point where my mind is completely free of thoughts.
2007-04-24 10:49:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Gosh, I didn't think that this question would inspire so many idiotic answers. *eyeroll*
2007-04-24 10:54:44 · update #1
Depending on the meaningfulness of the r-ship, and how long it lasted, you could be going through a normal grieving process. And you will stop thinking about him or her once you've had a little time to heal.
However, if the above isn't true, it could be that outside of work your life feels a little empty, so you try and replace your boredom or frustration w the act of obsessing about him/her.
If that's the case, find something meaningful that you can do - some activity that helps you develop your talents and sense of self-worth ... ultimately something to feel passionate about. Good luck.
2007-04-24 10:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by acrobatic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK well you cannot work 24/7 which would help you not think of the person but you CAN get busier on your time off and do something completely different from usual so it will hold your attention. Call some friends and play cards or go to a movie, take a class, volunteer at a home or animal shelter, plan a trip. It will get easier.
2007-04-24 17:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget? You can never forget...but you can keep going with your life.
The only way of stoping thinking about someone, is changing focus. At the end, life has so many wonderful things, much more than what one person can give us...right?
But this takes time, it will not happen in one day. It is a process, but eventually you will stop the obsession, because it is not about forgetting, but stoping the obsession ;-)
When you see around you and realize the wonders that surrounds you, perhaps the memory of just one person will be dimmer.
Change focus, change focus...it works
2007-04-25 15:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Flyinghorse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing well. You cannot forget. Ever. Period. One must learn to replace to move beyond, but there is not a way to forget. Think of an elephant. Now forget it. Can't do it can you.
If you can, you replace the image and thinking with something else, like meditation or music. But there is not way to forget. I have an idea. Learn from it so you won't do the same thing the next time. Talk to people. That helps and it may help you learn. Grow from it. Mature. But don't run from it... it won't work.
Dr. J
2007-04-24 17:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay Business. Read, visit with friends.... Do anything that keeps the mind busy.
Unfortunately one can not forget about someone completely. The best remedy will be time. As time goes by you will think of this person less and less.
2007-04-24 17:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you won't forget them, not ever. You need to accept closure for the relationship. We all of us learn something from each relationship we engage in, figure out what you learned, accept that, and you may be able to move on. Over a long period of time you may lose the edge on the memory, but as long as you have a memory that person will be there. So when thoughts of that one person arise, accept them, let them go, and move on. Trying to ignore it will only make it sharper.
2007-04-24 17:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. Not easy to change the past; but think of it this way:
tomorrow you're a better person.
tomorrow you'll have new challenges and interests
tomorrow will be a better day.
tomorrow is always interesting.
it is not worth to think of someone who does not reciprocate the same level of telepathy. it is a waste of your energy to think about no one but yourself and how tomorrow is a better day :)
2007-04-24 17:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Vee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem you do, a psychiatrist prescribed a combination anti-psychotic anti-depressant med called triavil and i was able to forget about her, after being on this med for about 10 years my doctor would not return calls to the pharmacy, i had to finally interupt one of his therapy sessions and ask him to please call the pharmacy. during the week or so that i was off the med, the thought of her came right back to me. i went to the horserace track i felt so depressed and lonely and i thought every woman at the race track hated me like my ex wife did. so i got back on the meds and gradually got back to where i was and the med allowed me to forget about her again, good luck to you, i hope you can get through your problem without meds
2007-04-24 20:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by 57rider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you lack closure. Something was left unsaid or unfinished in the relationship.
http://www.onlinelifecoach.org
2007-04-24 18:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by onlinelifecoach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that. But you need to go out and mingle, and find someone new. THAT will help you to get over this person.
2007-04-24 17:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋