would you judge?

Question

my friend has had a rough time of it lately she fell in love then pregnant,he started a new relationship 3 months in to the pregnancy she has no family really well not helpful ones anyway so now shes a single mother and at college part time i know she is a christian and a kind, selfless ,loving, forgiving ,person she told me in confidence that she has been escorting for 2months this guy rings her with a 'job' picks her up,drops her off and makes sure shes ok he making money off her,so i suppose you could call him a pimp she has sex for money,i will not tell a soul , yet i am worried for her is this morally right? shes a tough cookie and sees it as doing wat she has to do for money i know she was struggling finacially,she has reassure me it safe,i am still in shock anyone in the same boat doing the same thing that could shed a bit of light on the situation?

sorry if i misled anyone she has had her baby

Answer 1

Its a sad cold hard lesson in life. You do what you have to do to survive and provide for your child. Any parent would do the same thing in her situation if they HAD to, morals be damn. As for her sins, look at it this way she is martyring herself to provide for others. She maybe sinning but who doesn't "let thou who has not sin cast the first stone." Plus once saved always saved is what the baptist believe so I have no hard feeling in telling everybody on this page that said "If she was a real christian she would not be in this situation and that she needs to repent" to go screw your self because she knows better than anyone that she should repent and I am willing to bet almost anything that she has yet what good is it doing now.

Answer 2

ok let me tell you i know a lot about this subject i may have done this in the past...your friend does not need to be doing this its not okay 99% of pimps do not love you because if they loved you they wouldnt want you to sleep with some1 else for money i know this and if you wanna shake ur thang and do what you do thats a hard enough job as it is dont let no1 take what you earned. I have a kid go to college was in that same situation before too and when you do it its hard because you just need help with your life and you feel like this guy is going to help you and everything is going to be okay i mean since i had such a rough life i would take in any single mom in any bad kind of relationship and help her out because thats what she needs she needs to know she can get places and do things and she needs to meet a nice guy that doesnt want to pimp her because she will forget what a real man is all about....and she needs to be careful not to catch any cases cuz with a child its a lot of trouble...and your not giving the right attention to your child believe me you will get so caught up with this guy i mean seriously she needs to have some1 close and if you decide 2 let her just keep doing make sure you always have an open ear because there will be times when shes crying and need some1 to talk to...but if i knew her i would tell her to come stay wit me, take her to school, help with the baby becuz its hard, and help her get on her feet...

Answer 3

I definitely think you have every right to be worried for your friend, and it sounds like she really needs you in her life right now. Prostitution, on any level, has one of the highest murder/death rates (drug use, rape, abuse, violence, murder, verbal degradation, suicide, the list goes on). Most women who start out as call girls do it for the same reason as your friend. I found this quote off of a website that I think explains this pretty well:

"Real sexual relationships are not hard to find. There are plenty of adults of both sexes who are willing to have sex if someone treats them well, and asks. But there lies the problem. So many Johns do not want an equal, sharing relationship. They do not want to be nice. They do not want to ask. They like the power involved in buying a human being who can be made to do almost anything. Many Johns are sadists. Sadists are attracted to prostituted women and children because they are willing to get into a car or come to a place where the sadist can be in control. Sadism is about control. Hurting people who cannot stop them is their most intense and pleasurable form of control."

My heart definitely goes out to your friend. But she is not safe. She may not know how unsafe she is, and with a baby, she should know better. If she continues down this path, I would call Child Protection Services in your state. No child ever deserves to be raised in that world.

Answer 4

The poor girl!
I've never been in this situation but I think she is putting herself and her unborn baby in danger and she get away from that man as soon as she can. You say she is a Christian, if she went to a Bible believing church such as Elim, or a Baptist church etc and spoke to the Pastor he should be able to help her in some way.
I wish her all the best (and don't judge her - I'm a Christian too). If someone came for help at my church I know the Pastor would try everything he could to help.

Answer 5

It isn't safe, physically, or in terms of her health or emotions. Nor is it morally right to be having sex for money.

Would I judge? No. Would I try to help her find a different source of money? Yes. Charities exist for a reason; then for students there are a number of different grants and scholarships. She may have to give up school until after her child is established (if she intends to raise him/her instead of putting the kid up for adoption). In that case, there are organizations specifically geared toward helping people who otherwise have trouble find work...

Answer 6

you need to be there for your friend and not judge her.
She See's it as a quick fix to her money problems, she's most probably mentally, emotionally and physically damaged.
Get her to talk to you on a serious and deep level as she could be doing this as a result of something that has happened to her in the past. Make sure she carries protection so she doesn't catch anything.
A couple of old friends are doing the same thing so i know what your going through.
Good luck
xxx

Answer 7

1. Help her apply for Income Support, Job Seekers allowance ect
2. Take her to a family planning clinic to see if shes alright
3. Help her re-discover her real self
4. Maybe the church could find her a Job?

Answer 8

What she's doing is not morally right. She must be real desperate to do this. There are programs out there to help single parents. You should search the internet and find some information about it for her.

Answer 9

She needs to stop. If she is pregnant or has a baby, it is dangerous for the baby. That is not selfless.

She needs to stop and get a real job. She could get hurt or killed. She could catch something or possibly get pregnant.

There is no positive to this story.

Answer 10

Who looks after the child when she is doing this? I dont see why she is doing this. Im a single parent and I dont sleep with guys for money. I have a full time job. I realise its hard for her, I know this. For the first 4 years of my sons life I was on income support. Why isnt she claiming??? Tell her to claim income support/jobseekers allowance and give up this job. Its dangerous and pointless!!!