I am about three months pregnant and recently found out the father of the baby plans to have nothing to do with our child. I did consider abortion because of an extremely complicated situation with the father but have since decided to keep the baby. My first priority, of course, will be the baby but how hard is it going to be to find a decent guy to love my and my baby when I am ready to date again? I am only 23 and would really like to get married and have a family someday.
2007-04-24 10:46:34 · 11 answers · asked by Megpie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was a single mom of 2 at the age of 21. I dated a lot when I was ready, but you have to be careful not to bring the men around the child. Its very hard I wont lie, but just use your best judgment and never ever forget that your baby comes first! I got remarried at 29 to a wonderful man and couldn't ask for a better father to my children. We are now expecting #3. There IS hope and you will find true love. Just take your time and put your child first always! Good luck and congrats to you :)
2007-04-24 10:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How exactly would Mr. Obama do that? How is he going to identify them for the women? If these single moms you are talking about could do it, then they'd have married decent men in the first place. Here's an alternative - let's expand paternity tests and increase the punishment for failure to provide child support - then those dead-beat dads can either keep it in their pants, support their children, or go to jail. That might cut down on the number of single moms AND let those that are left have an easier time with mortgages.
2016-05-17 23:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my son I worried about the same thing. I was 17 and I had split from his father. Let me tell you, there's nothing to worrry about. I've seriously and casually dated since then and there's only 1 guy that ever had a problem with me having a child. Every other one was completely ok, I've even had guys talk about moving in together, marriage, and raising "our son" together. Typically I take a step back at that point because my son has a father and I'm not trying to find him another one but let me assure you there are definitely stand up guys out there you just have to look out for your child and make sure you aren't lured in by promises of a family.
2007-04-24 16:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had my daughter when i was 18. It took a couple of guys to find the right man. Then we dated for three years before we got married. I wanted to make sure he was up to being a good dad. I'm 24 now and been married almost a year. I found a decent guy to love me and my baby. So can you. I'm pulling for you, we're all in this together.
2007-04-24 10:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ammarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to write an assure you that there are men out there that would consider dating and even marrying a woman with a child. I have dated a couple of women with children, the child is definitely not a deterrent.
I would consider myself a decent man.
2007-04-24 11:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Paul S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it may take a while, but there are good ones out there. Just make sure that once you start dating again, you are putting your child's best interest first.
And beware of the "knight in shining armor" who may woo you just to rescue a lady in distress. He may actually have mental issues and want you to be dependent on him. A single woman with a child may seem like easy prey to some weirdo.
Be careful! Take care of yourself and your baby. Surround yourself with friends and family and other moms with kids that you can learn from and lean on.
God bless you for keeping your child!
2007-04-24 10:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to hear the statistics and you probably already know them. Most men shy away from Women who have children, the good and the bad. It will be an extraordinary man who wants to stay with you and have a family with you that includes the child you are about to have.
I wish you the best of luck!
Peace,
Jenn
2007-04-24 11:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at the perfect age to have children, so that's a plus.
Few men want to raise another man's child. They want their own, but the odds are you will find someone to continue your family with.
Learn from the past----you teach people how to treat you (as Dr. Phil always says). If you patiently look for someone who cares about you and respects you enough to wait for marriage, treasure them. But let marriage and children be HIS idea first.
2007-04-24 10:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait just wait dont rush for anything you are not missing out just wait i know people dont offten want to hear this now days but wait and pray trust the Lord he knows your need and will bring you a man after His ways and that man will love and support you the way you need him to i myself am in a long distance relationship right now with the woman God has given to me and soon we will marry but it will be on Gods terms not ours we are waiting till we are moved together just wait pray and seek the Lord it is no joke He does know you and he does want you to be happy it will happen if you wait and trust in Jesus the bible says seek ye first the kingdom of God and his rightousness and all these things shall be added unto you it is a promise of God Almighty to take your needs to heart and care for you so that you shall have life and life abundantly that includes the need to have a man or woman in your life
2007-04-24 11:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by steel warrior 01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand youre concerns i was on my own at 26yrs old with 3 children aged 11mths 3yrs and 8yrs i meet my wonderful partner who is great with the kids and would like us 2 have another child 2gether you will be fine all the best of luck
2007-04-24 11:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋