do you think i should start using them like they use me? not for money, but just play them. or should i just turn to women?
2007-04-24 10:03:18 · 36 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey, it happens, and it's sad that you're going through this, but please respect yourself. It's reeeeeeally easy to think about becoming a player, but you may end up playing someone in the future who really likes you! Then you will have messed up a great opportunity. And you turn to women if that is where your heart is, not just because you're having a bad time with men. Take your time. :-)
2007-04-24 10:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that is the million dollar question. The only way that you can learn to trust again would be to put yourself out there and hope for the best. Love gives no guarentees so your best bet would be to try to screen guys as much as you can before you completely commit. Go out a few times (like 10 times) before you get physical. Let your friends sniff Mr. Hottie out. If he does fishy stuff like never call you (you have to call him) or flirt with other girls in front of you, don't brush it off as you being paranoid. You're having these issues because men have proved that they can be jerks, and your instincts may seem too strong but they're there to protect you. It's about trying to find a balance between holding back and giving in. Don't throw yourself into something completely just because a guy seems trustworthy, let him have you in peices, a little bit at a time and if it goes well, it's because you took the time to trust him. If it doesn't go well, you didn't lose a lot.
2016-05-17 22:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by irene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, isn't it wonderful how men can do that? Ruin everything for the next person who would come into your life. (Hey, in defense for the guys, there are some evil women who do it too!) NO! You should not play them, that would put you on the same level as them. Don't lose hope, maybe what you really need to do is evaluate yourself and the types of men you are attracted to. Look at the qualities and decide what you like and don't like. When you feel comfortable dating again, get rid of those men you went out on a date with and got a bad feeling about or something you didn't like. Try to "break" yourself of the cycle of choosing the same types of men.
2007-04-24 10:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every single human being male or female is diffrent. You can't blame one person for the entire group. Trust is a real hard thing for lots of people, just get to know someone before you start trusting them.... and women can be well just as bad as men in any case.....
2007-04-24 10:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Steven R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, there will always be trial and there will always be that Mr. Right out there. Don't give up hope just yet. And honestly, you don't like being used, so why would you want to put that pain on someone else. Going to women won't make it any easier, sure you may understand them better but really, there will be similar trials and similar successes.
2007-04-24 10:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ronnie Weasley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out...its time to be by yourself for a while. By this I mean go and hang with people that make you feel positive and go and try a few activities that are aimed for single people to just simply have fun with.
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2007-04-24 10:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all men are bad perhaps you just haven't found the right one yet and playing with men just to mess with their heads is mean oh and about the whole woman thing I say try everything twice and if you like it just go with it
2007-04-24 10:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by pimperdoodle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beginning to lose trust in them but I know enough good guys that I am still dreaming of meeting a good one. Unfortunately the good ones are all married at my age 30+
2007-04-24 10:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are attracted to players.. you see it time and time again. So, until you stop giving in, you will keep getting played.
There are plenty of nice guys that I know personally that would never hurt a girl... but girls don't want those guys apparently.
2007-04-24 10:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by phillyfriek13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are dogs. I was in a past relationship where i was living with my partner and after i left him i was alike i hate men and then after two years of no dating i finally steped into the game well actually this guy pulled me back into it and i felt so relieved he treats me nice and he went and talked to my father and well he was everything i wanted.
Somewhere out there is the right guy for you and sooner or later you will meet him
2007-04-24 10:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by cynthgzmn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋