Premarital Sex: What do you think?

Question

Assume you have religious beliefs that teach you to abstain from sex until marriage.

But what if you do not want a ceremony in the church for personal reasons or cannot get married in court for a few years? Personally, I do not want to get family involved. Its almost certain they will create headaches, unneeded stress, annoyance etc...

With all these things in consideration do you think sex before marriage is an acceptable act in God's eyes.





Note: This is a committed relationship involving individuals over 21, who have been dating and faithful for many years.

Answer 1

OK, your place or mine....




Oops, I guess I didn't read the details.

Answer 2

The reason God does not like sex before marriage is when you have sex with someone there is a bonding at the soul level that should be reserved for marriage. Marriage in court is okay, but is there a pastor who would be willing to come to your home and marry you in private? I have had friends who have done this. I don't know you so don't misunderstand this but usually if someone won't make the commitment to marry it is because they want the option to leave if something better comes along. Then again some marry and divorce at the drop of a hat. All Gods best has been perverted. just pray about it and be willing to let go of what you want. God will give you answer to your dilema.

Answer 3

My dear if you are in love, you and your partner aught not procrastinate in making a proper commitment. If you have been together all that long already and your chemistry is right you will inevitably end up having sex - nature is too powerful an agent and the animal in us is primed for reproduction. However, we are human and we are not called to reproduce like the animals.We are called to procreate - which is different. Union between a man and a woman ultimately results in offspring and these need a stable and strong relationship for their up bringing more than material goods - as important as these may be. That is why the social contract in a proper marriage.

If you have religious sensibilities it will always be on your conscience. So if you are ready and are responsible adults
get married. Even if you can't afford having a big wedding just have a small one

Answer 4

No it is not exceptable in Gods eyes. When you get married you two become one.

"For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh."
(Mark 10:7, 8)

pre marital sex brings on emotional damage. What happens if you have sex and end up not marrying him. You create an emotional tie with that person which would be unhealthy and cause alot of heartache and pain. I am telling you this in love and not to condemn you because it is a good question and I am proud of your courage to ask.

Here is a scripture that is in the Bible on how God feels about pre-marital sex.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

We all get tempted in this so remember:

And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Answer 5

While marriages throughout most of biblical history involve some type of public ceremony (and celebration), such a ceremony is not required for a biblical marriage to have taken place. In the case of Isaac and Rebekah and others, no ceremony is recorded (Genesis 24:67). But a common ingredient between common-law marriage and the one involving a ceremony is a public expressed intent to be married. Two people living together without that expressed intent does not constitute a common-law marriage, just cohabitation. Isaac and Rebekah did not just begin living together, there was a clear expression of intent that their union be of a permanent nature (marriage). Another common ingredient between common-law marriage and the one involving a ceremony and license is its legal standing. In order for a common-law marriage to be dissolved, a legal divorce must be pursued. (Again, in God’s original intent for marriage, there should be no divorce.) Another ingredient in these biblical marriages that did not involve a public ceremony as compared to those that did is that there was no sexual activity prior to their marriage, no cohabiting.

Answer 6

Let's think this out. Why is premarital sex bad?


OK I'm having some trouble here.

There is the incestuous situation in the old days of sleeping in the same bed with her brother until puberty and we all know how hard that is to predict. But when big brother got a big, um, urge, and he couldn't wait to try out his new toy, well little sister was right there and ever so warm, But clearly having babies with three eyes was bad and a sign from God at a time before we knew about genetics. So don't do that! ! !

The problems that arise from breeding with rivaling clans? Oh, wait, that is what brought rivaling clans together, they didn't want to kill their (half) brothers anymore. Mom got SO mad.

Because it feels bad? No, I think it still feels grand. God made it feel good so we would want to breed and not become extinct.

I'm having trouble here. But don't ask me for permission to get it on with your boyfriend. That is all on you. You know what you should do.

Answer 7

No, having sex before marriage is a sin.

1 Thess. 4:3-8: “This is what God wills . . . that you abstain from fornication; that each one of you should know how to get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in covetous sexual appetite such as also those nations have which do not know God; that no one go to the point of harming and encroach upon the rights of his brother in this matter, because Jehovah is one who exacts punishment for all these things, just as we told you beforehand and also gave you a thorough witness. For God called us, not with allowance for uncleanness, but in connection with sanctification. So, then, the man that shows disregard is disregarding, not man, but God, who puts his holy spirit in you.” (The Greek word por·nei′a, translated “fornication,” refers to sexual intercourse between unmarried persons, also to extramarital relations on the part of married persons.)

Eph. 5:5: “No fornicator or unclean person or greedy person—which means being an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of the Christ and of God.” (This does not mean that anyone who in the past was a fornicator cannot enjoy the blessings of God’s Kingdom, but he must cease that way of life in order to have God’s approval. See 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.)

Answer 8

To every question in life there is an answer in bible.

I am sorry i dont know the answer for u but please go to www.cbn.com and call there couselling center.I am sure they will answer u.

It is very good that in this world of evil, people like u still want to know what pleases and displease GOD.GOD would be very pleased about u and will surely help u answer it.

John 3:16 says"For GOD so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoso ever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life".Ask JESUS to come into your heart and forgive ur sins and cleanse ur past with his blood.

Answer 9

In many countries, all you have to do is declare that you are married (You are a couple) and you are one. That is how I feel also. If you are devoted, committed and monogomous, what does religion have to do with it? I mean, yes, a union can be blessed, but that is not everything. It is not going to fail if it is not, believe me.


If you are in love, don't let anyone stop you, however don't be stupid and hurt people, including yourself. In other words, use your brains..

Answer 10

The concept of sin does not list premarital sex but premarital sex can be sin.

If you put your self at risk of harm.
If you hurt your partner for any reason.
If your actions put other people at risk by example

Then it may be sin.

There are *logical* reasons for sin. There are not *magic* reasons for sin. Sin is not sin just because it has been, neither is it consensus driven. If you are in a committed relationship you are married. Do you want a rubber stamp?

Answer 11

It is still a sin (fornication) and a serious offense in the eyes of God. The Bible is very clear on this.

You can't take your personal situation and say "God's law doesn't apply to me." Everyone could probably come up with some kind of excuse.

When I go to the furniture store I want to buy the couch that's wrapped in plastic, not the floor model that everybody has been testing out and sitting on for years!

Why do you not want to be married in a Church and in the eyes of God? Don't you want His blessings on your marriage? It's not like you have to invite a huge crowd. Maybe just a few witnesses.