Its hard to explain. Around boys, im very quiet, and never know what to say. I can never make eye contact like a normal person does when they talk to someone, because i am so nervous. Im worried that boys think that i am stuck up and mean because of this rather than just super super nervous. I try to be as nice as possible and talk, but its just so hard. Any advice is GREATLY APPRECIATED!!
2007-04-24 09:39:30 · 12 answers · asked by asdfjkl; 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you should try to do new things that you wouldn't normally do. Things that would get you nervous if someone told you to do something you rather not. I remember when I was really shy when talking to girls. I would studer and sweat like a pig when trying to make conversation with a girl I liked. But when I took several acting classes where I had to actually talk to an audience I slowly became comfortable with my surrounding. My confidence grew to where I was comfortable with my self. Though for me it took some time till I was comfortable. That should hopefully help boost your confidence level to were you can hold a conversation and make eye contact without getting nervous. To make it short, get out of your protective bubble and live a little.
2007-05-01 16:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nuttersbutters (^- _ -^) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a decent young person, shy, but decent.
Just be yourself don't change. Some guys like quiet girls. We think women talk too much anyway. Let the guys do the talking, you be a good listener --- good listeners are rare.
In time, soon, you will meet a lad that you are comfortable with. You will find it easy to make eye contact . Explain you are a little nervous and don't want to appear stuck up.
Your virtues are not flaws they are strong points.
I wish you love.
2007-05-02 04:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by radar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, its o.k. to be nervous around guys, but don't let it interfere w/ your date life. Guys aren't that big of a deal. It's important to be a little carefree around guys. Don't worry about your hair or makeup; if they're worth anything they won't put looks before personality.
*If you become their friend they're more likely to date you (and the relationships usually last longer).
Don't look away when they look at you. Just glance around the room occasionally, and if you notice them looking, turn and make eye contact. (Make sure you're smiling when you look at them; that lets them know you're interested.)
2007-05-02 09:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being funny with joking around and lots of humor, guys like when a girl is like that. laughter makes everybody relax and u will be seem 2 be fun 2 be around. plus, play basketball or any sports type thing with them, u can even go to a arcade with them . the best way 2 get along with guys seems 2 be to do stuff where's there's competition with them plus having a sense of humor.
2007-05-02 08:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to foucus on your education, not talking to boys, its ok too like someone, and what your going through is a part of growing up learning yourself. and dont worry about what them boys will think of you-- people will always think of you as something....be yourself... really there is no advice you just have to over come that shyness, stop telling yourself that your shy and nervous cause then you will always be shy and nervous.....good luck
2007-05-02 05:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by saywhat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get nervous, they are only humans. They will not bite or kill you or something. Try to practice by looking a guy's picture in a magazine.
I wish that might help you.....
2007-05-02 03:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 01:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him to talk about himself. It will take some of the pressure off of you
2007-05-02 06:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start hanging with guys that are just friends, this will help you to not be so nervous. when you feel .ok. with them then start hanging with guys you like and you wont feel so nervous cause you already have been with guys. it worked for me
2007-05-02 08:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think of them as potential relationship material, but just as friends.
2007-04-24 09:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋