my son always talks back and he is only 3 years ?

Answer 1

Put him in time out when he does it. He'll learn that is not the way to talk to you. Trust me this works. I have a 3 & 4 year old.

Answer 2

Wow, i thought you were my friend: she also has a 3 year old boy who talks back and a 1 year old girl... you should get to know her.

About the talking back:
Look him in the eye and tell him what he is doing, tell him to stop, and tell him that it is a warning, and tell him what his punishment will be if he does it again.

An example of a punishment: 3 minutes of sitting on the steps because he is 3 years old... 3 toys taken away because he is 3 years old... ect. Use a punishment that he can understand and that only lasts for a period of time. Avoid spanking, yelling (because that is the reaction he was looking for), or sending a child to his room (because there are lots of toys there and you can't keep your eye on him as closely). Also, NEVER clean a child's mouth with soap: this is highly uneffective, unbearable and could be hazordous.

If he does it again tell him that you gave him a warning, and that he now has to be punished. Tell him excactly why you are punishing him the way you are.

If he cries, "I'm sorry mommy, I won't ever again, I love you... ect.," tell him that he is forgiven and you will love him no matter what, but tell him that no matter how many times he apologizes he still has to finish the punishment.
It may sound like you are explaining too much, but parents seem to forget sometimes that kids sometimes don't even know what they did wrong and sometimes kids even can think that their parents don't like them anymore.

After his punishment if fufilled ask him why he would talk back, sometimes there is a reason although there may not be. Also, don't still be mad, because if you still are giving him the cold shoulder or not giving him privlages at night, he may not know the connection between saying those things, and not getting a cookie after dinner.

I took care of a child with that same problem. The parents just had never taught her that that was wrong. The way to do it, is never loose your temper, or act like it is cute or a game. Don't give up even when he gives you his adorable bambi eyes!

Find out if he has a friend that he is picking this up from: when I was a child, I picked up all sorts of pouty, whiney ways from her because I thought it was okay. Make sure he knows that even though other kids do it, that it is not allowed in this household, or ever out of his mouth.

Sometime douring his nap's or while he's at pre-school turn on supper nanny once and see how she handles these problems; although they are in much worse cases, she fixes the average backtalking, screaming, disobidiant kids all the time!

Good luck!
Sorry that was so long :)

Answer 3

It's a bad habit that he has started and it seems to work for him. Decide what is allowed and what is not. Some sassiness is just in fun but others are not. When it happens you need to stop it quick. Time-out is good for 3 minutes tops and make sure that you never lose your temper when it happens. That might be the reaction he is waiting for. Remember you are in control. Always tell him that is not how he is to talk. When you release him from time-out ask him if he knows why he was in time-out. It will take time to un-learn a bad habit but it can be done.

Answer 4

At 3 years old, he might not understand what it means to talk back or why it is rude. He might just be trying to get a reaction from you by testing out his limits. Try explaining to him that talking back to adults is not appropriate and it should stop. By explaining why it is wrong might help him understand what he is doing wrong in the first place. If he still keeps doing it punish him and explain what he did to deserve that punishment.

Answer 5

Get on top of it now!!!
My son just turned 4 and I wasn't as thourough as I couldve been and he's still acting out.
When you tell him no or he acts out put himin his room not after 3 or 4 warnings after 1. Its very hard I know but us parents have to show we are the boss before they're 14 and stealing the car.

Answer 6

I have a four yr old daughter and have gone through the same problem. When my daughter back talks to me, I tell her at that moment that she has to stop. If she continues, I set consequences. Either place your son on timeout and or you can take something that he really likes to play with away until he learns to listen to you.
Remember that when he begins to talk back you must tell him not to and you must be consistent with your consequences.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

this is because of the examples that you have set for him. If you allow him to talk back, he will keep doing it and it will get worse. If he is around other children who are allowed to talk back, and you let him think this is okay, then he will continue this ridiculous behavior.

Answer 9

Supernanny is a huge help with discipline. Try watching it weekly. Good luck.

Answer 10

He's trying out his vocalization skills- on YOUR reactions! Just ignore the "back talk"- and explain to him what YOU want him to do. He'll learn that if he wants your "attention"- he'll ask for it civilly.