whats your opinion of single mums???

Question

I am a single mum, i work and the only benefit i receive is child benefit and tax credit (which everyone is entitled to)
would you call me a scrounger??

rudy i dont think you should call anyone loose when you dont know their background

im english we spell MOM MUM lol

in rsponse to shih tzu ladys comments i would like to point out that one, i am not a teenager, i am 29, and my daughter is 4, and two, i was not given an option of being a single parent, my partner left me when i was 6 weeks pregnant, but i choose to have my daughter, and dont regret a minute

also how am i irresponsable just because i choose to have my daughter??
i provide for her myself, and she is stable, and loved
Just because my daughter doesnt have a dad, does not mean she is unstable, neglected or unloved, far from it, i as with most single mums do my best and love my daughter with all my heart, she comes first, and she is a happy, settled, STABLE little girl, and frankly i find shih ladys remarks offensive, how about the fathers that do a runner? are they not irresponsible?

Answer 1

not at all, carry on honey, if you are working then good on you, hold your head up high and be proud that you are NOT a scrounger.

Answer 2

I am also a working single mum and thankfully i have not been called a scrounger...yet!
I don't understand why people seem to come to this conclusion based on your marital status, so what if you are bringing kids up by yourself, surely that is an achievement rather than a negative!
We all know how hard it can be raising kids as it is without adding this unjust criticism. Yes maybe some people abuse the system (having children to get a council house or to live off their benefits) but that is a minority and i don't feel you can judge everybody by these standards.
It also annoys me that people make the same assumptions on young mothers.
I am 22 and have a 2 year old son - for the record i do know who the father is and it wasn't the result of some drunken one night stand!
I was in a loving relationship at the time, it just didn't work out like so many other relationships yet people seem to assume i was some stupid teenager who is living with the results of some drunken mistake!
Thankfully there are more single mothers around these days so there isn't such a stigma attached to it anymore - probably due to women like us who do work and don't rely on handouts.
Don't listen to other peoples crap, just know in yourself you are doing the best you can and providing a great life for your child, so what if other people can't see that - they will all catch up with us in a few years time!

Answer 3

No i certainly dont think ur a scrounger. I was a single mam n received the same benefits as i also worked. I thought that no-one would want 2 have a serious relationship wit me as i was only young when i had my eldest child n i thought people would c me as the norm stereotype. Luckily i am now in a long term relationship planning 2 get married n he has taken my child on as his own. I will never 4get how hard it was on my own working n bringing up a small child i think its the hardest thing i will ever do. U should b proud that u r showin ur child a good example u keep doin a good job x x

Answer 4

Well done !!! Before i say anything else i would like to give you a thumbs up, cause it doesnt matter what reason you are a single mum, it is such a hard job to protect, care for, teach and mould a childs life !!
i admire anyone these days that will take responsibility for their child . it is so easy for people to say i cant cope ! and as much as there are people out there that long for a child, a child is better off in the care of their natural parent as long as that parent loves and cares for them.
Im sorry i do ramble when it is something i am passionate about .
No you are not a scrounger, although there are alot of them about !!!
have fun , look after your child and have a great life !!! x

Answer 5

You are certainly not a scrounger. Your status as a single mum should not be relevant. You are a mother. Your child/children have a right to a standard of living.

If this were not the case, then Government/s would not be recognising that children have this right to life.

I would rather all tax payers money went back into helping people as opposed to being spent and wasted on weapons, wars and greed.

Answer 6

I believe that all single moms that are out there taking good care of their children and being responsible arent' scroungers but deserve the child benefit and the tax credit. In this day and age, one income is not enough to completely take care of your child.

Now if you were on welfare just to get the money and didn't have a plan to get off of welfare, I would think you were a scrounger...

Answer 7

Being a mum is a hard job, being a single one is even harder. Single mums are an easy target & you are in no way a scrounger. I worked full time when my son went to school & i earned fantastic money & paid our way. Not all women are single mum's by choice, we just get on with our lives & care for our children. I don't like the label of single mum as it does give the impression of a lazy so & so with no self respect. Good on you. x

Answer 8

i'm a single mum too; I raised five children alone after my husband left - the youngest was 8 months. It was very, very hard.
I always worked to keep my kids fed; their father played games with maintenance money for years until I took him to court; as I was working full time, he was only ordered to pay £40 a week. for 5 kids! I paid the mortgage, and everything else. I never claimed benefit, except child benefit.
They are almost reared now, the youngest is 15, and I am almost out of the woods. I am fiercely proud of them, and of me, and how they turned out.
there are single mums out there who play the system, we all know that. But it's no picnic. Most of us are quiet heroines, just getting on with the job.

Answer 9

my daughter become a single mam at16 I did worry about her and her baby in the beginning but she has done really well (she now has 2 children,she's 28) she went to collage and now has a fab job .I'm very proud of her and my grandchildren.yes she did claim benefits for a short while but she never claimed anything she was not entitled to not like some lazy morons where there are two parents and both to lazy to get off their bums and do anything constructive with their lives I Wish you and your children all the best for the future xx

Answer 10

Depends on their situation - I don't have one opinion for all. single mums who have loads of kids by loads of fathers who live off benefits are total scroungers. Also teenage mums I don't think are great. Women that have babies but for whatever reason don't end up with the dad but who want to make something of their lives & obviously love & care for their children are no different from people who are married with a child.

Answer 11

i think single moms [mums] are the salt of the earth; they decided to raise their child on their own; usually the dad disappears leaving mom hi and dry with no visible means of support; all she has is her baby; and worries; worries about money, not for her, for food , clothing, accommodation, medicine for her gift from god; every single mother deserves the recognition of the wonderful parenting they perform under not so ideal circumstances. No u r not a scounger angel, u r a survivor!!! and an ANGEL. I salute you.

sincerely
patrick michael