I was just wondering whether it was possible for someone to change. A friend of mine has a girlfriend who he has been seeing for a while (about 6 months) and has cheated on every boyfriend she has had. So far she has cheated on him a couple of times and each time she has apologised and said it won't happen again, but it has happened again a few week later. She has a lot of contact with ex-bfs and he says he trusts her 100%, the problem is that he doesn't trust who she is with - does anyone have any suggestions on what he should do?
2007-04-24 09:26:42 · 14 answers · asked by Paul D25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,I think she hasnt's changed nor she will change.But yuo cant do anything.He just has to get hurt to realise.
2007-04-24 09:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. She clearly has no respect for him and their relationship obviously means nothing to her. I f she really liked him and wanted to be with him she would be loyal and faithful to him, not betraying and hurting him. By staying with her he is just causing himself more pain. There are girls like that though and think they can justify what they have done by saying "sorry", and by taking her back everytime your friend is just sending the message to her that is is ok to do it again because he hasnt done anyhting about it. Sounds to me like she is having too much of a good time and needs someone to put her in her place. She cant keep thinking she can carry on acting and behaving this way. It is clear that your friend wont be able to make a future with this girl and she obviusly isnt the one as she treats him like a door mat and walks all over him. There is never going to be any trust in the relationship, she has lied to him so many times how on earth is he going to trust her in the future, I think the "leapords cant change their spots" phrase must have been made for a reason. Your friend is just going to get hurt over and over again if he keeps taking her back. He deserves better than that, plenty more fish in the sea........x x x xx x x
2007-04-24 09:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already cheated on him she will do it again. I dated this guy for 2 years and when we first got together he cheated on me well i forgave him because he said it would never happen again. We ended up engaged and 2 days before are 2 year anniversary he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend 2 times in one night and even called me in between times telling me how much he loved me. So i believe once a cheated always a cheater. Its not who she is with it is her. She could say no but she doesn't because she is just that type of person
2007-04-24 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Texas angel 18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe they can - if they want to! They will continue to cheat if they "get away with it"....the saying that "you can't change someone's behaviour towards you, but you can change the way you react to it" is very true.
I think your friend should say "good-bye" and move on....he doesn't appear to have any trust in this relationship - it isn't "the other person" that he has to have trust in, its his girlfriend.
2007-04-24 09:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by MrandMrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already cheated on him then she will cheat on him again, people can change as they 'grow up' but its clear she hasn't yet...some day she might meet someone and finally stop but not this time....if he trusts her 100% then there is nothing you can do, only be there to pick up the pieces when she does finally mess them up enough.....cause she will.
2007-04-24 09:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For anyone to cheat on someone thats bad but then to be taken back and just do it again thats somthing else, this girl dosn't care about your friend and you shoud tell him to dump her, how great can she be? when all she does is betray his trust, shes not worth it
2007-04-24 10:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by George1008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. A person, either male or female, who continually cheats (and gets away with it) will always do so.......sorry. tell your friend to cut bait.
2007-04-24 09:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by notjunecleaver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she hasn't changed yet i highly doubt that she will ever change. i would suggest that he break up with her unless he likes to be cheated on
2007-04-24 09:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviosly cant trust her, leopards dont change their spots, he should gather his dignity and walk away, she's making a fool of him and their relationship
2007-04-24 10:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-04-24 09:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Toddacanda 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋