2007-04-24 09:22:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me elaborate a bit more. She has cheated on a boyfriend in the past. And i do know her drunk personality. She gets drunk and then will do almost anything she is asked. It has me very concerned because I have friends in frats and have gone to many parties and have pretty damn good idea of what goes on. I also know i would not be invited exchanges and such.
I would really like her not to join, but at the same time i dont want to hinder her "experience". It's a shame because i really like her.
2007-04-24 09:44:23 · update #1
You really shouldn't be. A sorority is not something that will cause her to go out with other guys, if that's what you are thinking. It will help her develop social and emotional ties to other women. I think it can be a wonderful thing. Of course, I am a sorority girl myself! For those uninformed humans, a sorority is not all about drinking, going out all the time, and promiscuity. These are things that a few girls and the media have portrayed for the whole Greek community. Don't judge every sorority woman by the few you have seen on TV.
2007-04-24 09:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to worry about. I have a lot of friends in sororitys. They are labeled so negativly compared to what they really are. Yes, they go to partys and have fun. They also help each other and school. As I see it a sorority is a bunch of girls that are really good friends. They share ideas and have a good time. It is just a group. You should also trust your girlfriend and if you don't give her that trust your relationship will fall apart. Sororitys are not bad unless they are made that way by the person joining it. You can make it work and she will include you :D
2007-04-24 16:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Waiting for Madelyn :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship, the sorority and her motivations for wanting to join.
Maybe she just wants to meet some more female friends and "network" in your community.
If you trust her, and she trusts you (which is part of a healthy relationship anyway), then you should be able to have an honest conversation about joining.
Do a little research yourself to find out about the sorority; different ones have different "missions".
Tell her you want to be as much of a part of her sorority experience as you can be: that will help you feel comfortable with the idea.
2007-04-24 16:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by finance_coder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do it. If you don't, she will always blame you for holding her back. I used to be in a sorority. It is basically a place for women to live. Yes, often times there are parties, but since you are her boyfriend of course you are invited. It is really no different than living in the dorms, except that there is a group of women living in 1 house together. Don't be worried about it.
2007-04-24 16:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from personal experience, i was going to join a sorority until it started to take over my life...i mean i was constantly going to mandatory sorority events when i wasn't in class. since i started to realize i wouldn't be able to spend any time with my boyfriend (since he's not a fraternity member) i dropped out. It IS very time consuming to join a sorority and she probably won't be able to spend as much time with you and will go out to parties/events without you, if this makes you uncomfortable, then, yes, i would say you have reason to be somewhat concerned about your future together. However, if you are really serious about making it work, just make time for each other and let her go off with her 'sisters' when she needs too.
2007-04-24 16:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by roxxiethegreat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is over. Sorority girls are only concerned about appearances, she won't date a guy who isn't in a frat. That doesn't even take into account that they are the loosest women on campus. Many men will soon be "knowing" your girlfriend.
Ah to be back in college...
2007-04-24 16:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be worried at all! I had a boyfriend when I joined a sorority (he didn't want me to), but we dealt with it. After college we got married. Sororities are mainly about friendship. Don't worry, just talk to her about your concerns!
2007-04-24 16:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. I was in one and it in no way affected any relationship I was in. If something happened, it wouldn't be because of the sorority or the fact she is in it. They aren't forced or even urged to do anything other than being good strong women.
2007-04-24 16:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by lizsmith82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how much you trust your girlfriend! If she's truly committed to you, then you have no worries. If you aren't so sure, be prepared for her to 'taste the samples' while mixing with male sororities.
2007-04-24 16:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very concerned, because anyone who would join a sorority has no concern with anything but themselves. Help the earth, or if you continue to procreate, your children will suffer...I mean suffering, not just unhappiness, but mutated crazy bleeding screeching suffering. Thank you.
2007-04-24 16:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by capnstem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋