What causes a Son to marry the most controlling woman in the world?

Question

Our 2 sons married the most controlling women on earth. Why? I'm not controlling as their Mother. My Husband isn't. What is wrong with young women today? They are so rude, controlling and mean. They boss our sons around like you wouldn't believe. It's hard to sit there and watch as one wife looks at our son with this hateful look, he asks what he did wrong and she doesn't answer. She just waits a few minutes and acts like nothing is wrong. He, in the meantime, is running around trying to get her approval. What the heck?

The strange thing is that they were athletes and "real men". Very handsome, well educated, strong.

I think you are all right. I must have done something wrong. Maybe I WAS controlling.....I didn't realize it, though.

The young women are very jealous of any kind of relationship the sons have with me. So, they don't have much of a relationship. All messages, talking, must go through the wife. We are not allowed to talk to our sons without the wives being asked first.

I'm telling you, things have changed. Don't have a son! You will lose him. These women are so different from my generation!

This sounds crazy but because I wanted a family SO MUCH. That's all I ever wanted because I didn't have one.

Maybe they sensed I was desperate for them to like me...I don't know. Whatever it is, the women have succeeded in driving the brothers apart. Both women are so controlling that they don't get along. The brothers were once so close.

I cannot believe and no one would have ever made me believe that women of today would change this much! So aggressive, so rude.

I must have been controlling, though I didn't know it. You are right.

Answer 1

your sons need to get some self esteem to be able to confront their wives about situations and to not let them walk all over them.

It's seems they may be very submissive - sort of a role reversal of a battered woman. They need to stand up for themselves.

Answer 2

Hate to be the bearer of bad tidings but typically children are drawn toward spouses that remind them of their own parents (Father OR Mother regardless of sex). Not trying to be mean here but to be bluntly honest I think you may need to take a very close look at the type of relationships they observed growing up.

Added 4-25: A man may marry a controlling woman due to the behavior of EITHER parent, not just the mother. Gender isn't as important as the overall relationship observed.

Answer 3

Invariably all children seek to marry their parents. Either they try to match exactly the image of their mother, or try to find someone to fill the gap that their mother's left. In either case the incestial effects are usually obvious.

Maybe it was that you were not strict enough with them, and so they seek a controling partner now.

Whatever the reason now though, you must remember not to get involve. Your sons must learn from their mistakes themselves. They will come to the right decision eventually. And who knows, maybe they are perfectly happy as they are.

Answer 4

most of the time, sons subconsciously marry women who are much like their mothers.

your sons might be passive, and needy? perhaps they have no boundaries, which could be the reason their wives look at them in a hateful manner and boss them around?

people only treat us in the manner we allow.

meanwhile, if your sons don't like the way their wives treat them, eventually they will do something about it.

and not all young women are controlling or mean.

take care

Answer 5

Men marry their mothers just like women marry their fathers.

He must like the way she acts or he would leave. No one controls you without your permission. You don't know what is happening behind closed doors. Maybe your sons have given them reason to be jealous. (I'm sure you will say they haven't.)

Answer 6

Most men either look for someone exactly like their mother, or exactly the oposite. If they are going to very controlling women, maybe they both think they needed a woman that shown some back bone in their relationship where you did not.

Answer 7

I'm sorry but my experience is that it takes two to tango - or not, if that is the case. If your son wasn't such a doormat, she wouldn't be so controlling. He doesn't have to accept the situation.
It would do their marriage good if he stood his ground, told her her behaviour is unacceptable and he would not stand for it.
By the way - my husband takes after his mother - very sweet natured. Too much so. And I have to watch myself all the time to make sure I respect him. Your sons have inherited your congenial genes.

Answer 8

the answer goes back to your generation and how you raised males. you thought that by raising males to be more feminine (have emotions, cry, care about looks...) that that would create a better society. but as a result of that (and the complete absence of fathers), men are weak, and many are easily controlled by woman.

the only way for this to be changed is that mothers raise their sons to be proud of being a man. there are ways to make a male understanding of emotions without making him weak. and of course if fathers helped raise their sons (with more than monthly payments) these problems wouldn't not be as big.

Answer 9

Well, sounds like one of two things- either he is marrying his mother (which I am sure you will deny) or he is marrying the complete opposite of his mother- he didnt have enough of a structured life when he was younger, so now he is making up for it by getting with the most controlling thing he can find. Either way, its his life and if this is what he wants (if he didnt he wouldnt be with her) respect his wishes.

Answer 10

we are a extensive neighborhood around the globe and no one i understand has been forced right into a marriage. i do no longer understand which style of stuff much less Indians u come throughout the time of who r bullied right into a marraige? i think of whilst human beings r no longer chuffed of their marraige ( as is effortless in any neighborhood) they %. on the handiest excuse claiming they have been forced right into a marraige. Yeh suitable. this recent day in the event that they r so spinless, they could be ***** cats in any marraige. I even have regardless of if observed that an excellent style of folk r in basic terms trouble-free jealous and can't submit to the actuality that on the finished our marriages artwork out and that we don't extraordinarily after having babies, in basic terms get divorced as actually as in different cultures.what proportion ineffective bit Indian dads do u come throughout the time of? whilst will u discover ways to look after your very own babies and not have 3 dads in a single so referred to as kin?