During my wedding, I have chosen for my soon-to-be step daughter and 11 year old (blind) neice to be co-flower girls. Both my fiancee and sister agreed that they could both do the job. I know 11 is old for a flower girl, and she should be a junior bridemaid- I get that, but being blind, she needs guidance down the isle and my fiancee's daughter will serve that function as well. But my sister insists that the girl should NOT be dressed the same, as my neice is 6 years older. I assured my sister that I would not make her daughter look silly, but she is insistant that they do not wear the same dress. Shouldn't this be my decision?
2007-04-24 08:45:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is your decision. As the bride it's YOUR big day and not your sisters. If you really want them to be dressed alike that's fine. If your sister won't let this go, then maybe you could either tell her tough or find a dress that isn't exactly like the 6 year old's, but is similar.
2007-04-24 09:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brittanee G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In this case, you may want to decide together - there is very little chance you will get the same dress to fit both aged girls, and even if it were possible, it may not be the best idea because of a style difference between a child and a 'tween. The dresses could totally be complementary, though.
By the way, 11 is not old at all, for a flower girl! It's just that often people have three year olds, so the 11 year old seems "older" in comparison.
2007-04-24 09:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this should be your decision as it is your wedding. There are several flower girl outfits that are very nice that would look good on an 11 year old and a 5 years old. Just try talking to her and maybe show her, the mom, that there are nice outfits for both girls in there sizes. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-04-24 09:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by brezzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the bride's decision on what should be worn. My daughter was in my SIL's wedding last fall, and there were three flower girls (all of her nieces), but they were age 5.5, 2.5 and 9 months. The little girls wore the same dress, while the older one wore a dress similar in style to the bridesmaid dresses, but different colors. My cousin has asked my daughter to be the flower girl in his wedding, and whatever the bride wants to put her in I will dress her in.
2007-04-24 16:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ultimately your decision on the flower girl dresses. You can dress them differently if you'd like or put them in similar dresses.
I am sure that you would not make the older girl look silly, but in all reality, she is still a child and should not be made to look older than 11.
You need to explain that while you will take all suggestions on dresses, etc... when it comes down to the final decision, it will be yours and your fiance to decide.
2007-04-24 09:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 100% your decision.
Some people seem to think that "flower girl" dress automatically means "poofy, frilly, ridiculous dress that only a pre-schooler should wear." Most bridal stores have flower girl dresses that are EXACT replicas of bridal gowns (only smaller, of course), as well as flower girl dresses that look like a smaller version of a bridesmaid dress or that are suitable for anyone from 5-15. As long as you're not dressing her up like a cupcake, she'll look adorable and completely appropriate to her age. I think 11 is a little young to be a junior bridesmaid, anyway.
2007-04-24 09:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try a brand like Forever Yours. It has dresses for flowergirls, junior bridesmaids, and even bridesmaids that are the same style. The younger one obviously would wear the flowergirl dress and your niece could wear a junior bridesmaid dress. Then, her mother would be happy because she isn't wearing something that will make your niece look silly, and at the same time they can match. I hope this helps you out a bit...Oh, and I'll include a link to a website where you can view some of the dresses (and they are at discounted price for brand new).
2007-04-24 09:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by laird6372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think it is your decision. When my sister got married she decided what the flower girls would wear even though her sister-in-law (and one of the girl's mom) tried to pick the dresses. Don't back down, it is your wedding after all. Maybe you could decide on a style together but they will still be dressed the same (if that's what you want, that is)
2007-04-24 08:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by mamadrama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am about to be married in 67 days, and EVERYONE else is trying to tell me how to do things, including the dress for the flower girl and bridesmaids. It's annoying, I know.
However, this is YOUR wedding, and although it's never any fun, you have to take charge, and possibly become that 'bridezilla' You tell them who's boss, and you make sure that you have things done your way. Your wedding, that's all there is to it.
I feel bad for you =( It's so annoying to have people try to do things their way. Oh well, your wedding, remember!!
Best of luck! Hope your wedding is beautiful!
2007-04-24 09:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by Brin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is what an 11 year old should wear and what a 5 year old should wear are two completely different things. Maybe they can wear somewhat of a different dress but obviously in the same color. This will keep it uniform looking without looking completely ridiculous.
2007-04-24 09:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋